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My boyfriend of 5 years asked me to marry him. I love him lots and he is so sweet but I am only 17. What should I say? He is so sweet and doesn't want me to rush but would like an answer by the end of the month if possible.

2007-01-09 08:00:34 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships Weddings

27 answers

hi id wait awhile before getting married by all means you can say yes but wait a few years before marraige give yourself time to plan your dream day and have a great honeymoon if hes been with you for 5yrs then it wont hurt to have a long engagement whilst planning your big day and make it perfect .
good luck babe!!all the best!!

2007-01-09 08:26:57 · answer #1 · answered by gunnermarie 2 · 0 0

I would ask him why he needs an answer by the end of the month. That sounds strange. If he has known you for 5 years, then what is the rush? Do you have any way to support yourselves if you get married? It would be strange to be married and still living at home. I don't agree that 17 is too young if it is the right person for you, but you also have to be practical. How and where are you going to live together?

2007-01-09 16:11:26 · answer #2 · answered by Brad J 3 · 0 0

He'll need to know by the end of the month in order to be able to take the engagement ring back! Think of all the life changing experiences you've yet to go through (possibly together). Are you going away to University in the future or anything similar. Things like that can alter you're perspective on life. Just make sure you give it some serious thought! Besides, did this lad ask you're parents for permission!!!

2007-01-09 16:20:20 · answer #3 · answered by Stuart W 2 · 0 0

You can let him know that you love him dearly and that yes you can see yourself marrying him, but not right now. You can let him know that you would prefer to get college and whatnot under your belt and get financially secure so that you can both have the lives that you deserve when married.

If you say yes, you can also change the engagement to a set date WAY out in the future. But i really think that 17, no matter how much you say you love him, is a bit to young to make that decision. You have tons of things in the next 5 years that will change your mind about a bunch of things. That and college? Well enough said.

You are worth waiting for, and if he loves you- he will.

2007-01-09 16:10:58 · answer #4 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 0 0

IF YOURE asking this question on here , you already know in your heart of hearts that you are not ready , dont you? if he loves you , he will wait for you,not give you a deadline? at 17 ,and yes been there once 20 years ago, whats the rush, dont be pressured into anything? yes if you say no , not yet maybe in a few years, he ll feel hurt /rejected maybe but so what, if youre not ready and you still marry him, how will you feel when either one of you is filing for divorce in a years time? because the first year of marriage as most people will hopefully agree with me is the hardest/if not ,dare i say it worst?

2007-01-10 07:57:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

This one's easy. You say no way, to right now, possibly in the future, but no for now. You have too much life to live yet, you're way too young here. You're not even out of high school yet. You need to go to college, and get an education. You will change so much from 18-25, you don't want to marry him right after high school, and then have the 2 of you grow apart.

2007-01-09 16:20:44 · answer #6 · answered by basketcase88 7 · 0 0

I Would Ask your Parents If you Want to Say yes...If your Parents Disagree...Or Your Not Raedy then Tell this [as i see it] amazing guy that....

you wanna take it slow and enjoy the moments you have togheter n lets not think about marrage becuase weddings are stressful and id love to have some more fun with you......can we continue going out but you ask me when im 20?"

If you find this is too pushy i would ask your parents and if you really love this guy say yes.......but dun start planning 4 a wedding untill your 20-24...GOOD LUCKKKK!!!!!!!!!!!
If youve been going out with this guy 4 5 years id do it with parental permission because he seems like a sweetheart and someone you would be able 2 trust

2007-01-09 16:07:16 · answer #7 · answered by tickingclocks 3 · 0 1

if you have to ask complete strangers what you should say I think it should be a no, when my hubby asked me to marry him I just knew it was the right thing to do. Why not wait a while, just enjoy being together, maybe say yes but in 5 yrs time?

2007-01-09 16:08:48 · answer #8 · answered by janet h 2 · 0 0

gee wiz just say yes
he aint asking you to set a date, you might not get married for years if ever.
he just wants you everyone to know how deeply he feels for you, though after 5 years, i think thats kinda obvious!
any way if you'v lasted that long the least he can do is buy you a pretty ring!

2007-01-09 16:14:29 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

i'd advise you to have a long engagement as you're only 17, life will change for you and 17 is way too young to settle down.

2007-01-09 16:04:52 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

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