My youngest sister has manipulated our family for years. She's always used her kids. She goes years without speaking. She didn't attend my dad's funeral. Now her oldest has been taken away from her and she didn't even fight for her. She's living with a registered sex offender with her youngest son who's about 9. She didn't call her daughter over the holidays and is now doing to her daughter what she's done to us for years. The entire family believes she's unstable. She's suppose to be taking anitdepressants but doesn't. We know pretty much where she's living. Can we send someone to evaluate her? To see if she needs help? If she's just being a b**** that's fine. But we all truly believe there's more to it than that. She recently left her 4th husband after 6 years and not a week later moved in with this sex offender. She knew him in the first grade. We're at a loss. Any advise is much appreciated.
2007-01-09 07:57:27 · 13 answers · asked by dreama_nana 1 in Health ➔ Mental Health
try to visit her and talk to her about that , dont loss the hope try to tell her that what she do is missing her life
try to send her anyone close to her like a friend or anyone she know and close to her may that person help her to stop going that way of life
2007-01-09 08:14:05 · answer #1 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can contact Department of Human Services who will visit, but it may not help. Just be prepared for consequences. If they take the 9-year-old child, and they have already taken another child, she will lose the 9-year-old and he may be put into "the system" and sent to foster care which sometimes is not the best solution. I would think carefully about adopting the child. Discuss with your sister about that but don't discuss calling Social Services. They are already aware of the sex offender and since she has had a child taken away, they need to know she has relocated.
You, however, cannot have your sister committed unless you are her guardian.
2007-01-09 16:05:53 · answer #2 · answered by makeitright 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Current social programs for dealing with the mentally ill have been greatly limited.
Probably the best you can do is call Child Protective Services on behalf of the minor in the presence of a sex offender (but you will have to think about who can take the child in)
Given her long history, there is only minimal hope for her but maybe the child can be rescued.
2007-01-09 16:07:46 · answer #3 · answered by kate 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she is an immediate danger to herself or others (physically) it is really doubtful you can get her committed.
HOWEVER, the 9 year old deserves his aunt's protection. If I were you I would make 2 calls. The first to CPC and report this, then find out what the terms of the sex offenders release are. If he is a child molester he may not be allowed any contact with minor children.
I'm sorry for your pain. Dealing with siblings or parents mental health issues is tough.
2007-01-09 16:08:20 · answer #4 · answered by Gem 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What she needs to do is see a therapist to get a diagnosis and maybe be put on meds. She sounds like she may have a mental disorder. Instead of sending her away though, maybe you should try and be understanding. These illnesses don't just come from nowhere. Maybe she has had a traumatic experience in her life that has caused her to have a mental illness. She should definetelly see a doctor though. Suggest this to her but make sure she knows she has your love and support no matter what.
2007-01-09 16:07:54 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sadly you can't really have her committed she is of age and if she wasn't you could only do if you were her legal guardian. But I'm with the others call DSS because your biggest concern should be the well being of her kids. She seems lost but if your willing to but in the time anything is possible. But I would say concentrate on the kids first.
2007-01-09 16:07:27 · answer #6 · answered by MD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would definately call Child Services. She obviously isn't fit to be a mother to anyone. So the sooner you get him out the better. I guarantee you she lets the man she's living with babysit her son when she's not there too! They will see her as an unfit mother and the child won't have to live with that mess anymore.
2007-01-09 16:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Time to let go of the sister. You cannot change her and you cannot have her committed unless you are her legal guardian. HOWEVER the fact that she is not taking care of her child(ren) and putting them/him at risk with a sex offender MUST be reported. You can be prosecuted for NOT reporting her. I will say a prayer for the child(ren).
2007-01-09 16:08:30 · answer #8 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unless she is a physical threat to herself or others you can not have her committed. It sounds like she is very much disturbed and would greatly benefit from inpatient treatment. however unless she agrees your hands are tied. Maybe as a family you could do an intervention and she will make the decesion to go on her own. Is she into drugs?
2007-01-09 16:06:43 · answer #9 · answered by GI 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Disown her. Don't take her calls, don't let her visit. And don't respond to her verbally or in writing. Take away all of her means of manipulation, show no emotion. But remember, the whole entire family must be on board.
Not right away, but eventually, she will hit bottom and change her tune.
2007-01-09 16:03:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋