i've had just 1 gf and she cheated on me. since then i've never really been with a girl other than some light flirting with a couple of girls i dated (and that was the only 2 i dated.. i'm shy to go out to clubs and stuff and dont have many friends. yet i'm quite good looking, i'm a model and i've met girls who have been contestants at ms world and stuff. what is wrong with me
2007-01-09 07:53:00 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
it doesnt matter that you are good looking, ugly dudes get a s s too, as long as you arent dirty and dont look and act like a fool, you just have to get past being shy and talk to more girls, if you just want a s s go to a bar or club with 1 friend (you'll seem weird or creepy if you are by yourself and too many people doesnt work either) and just go around and talk to all the girls you can, just say anything to them and eventually you will find one (possibly drunk and horny) that will keep talking to you like shes interested, shes the one you want, but you need a place to go do it at and a way to get there also, getting a hotel near the club before you go out is a good idea, if you want you can also ask her to go with you to another club (make up a reason why its better) and suddenly its just like a date and you two are together, just dont let her get away from you, then after shes done grinding on you or whatever you are doing, you tell her to come back to your hotel room with you and have a few drinks, once you get up there one thing always leads to another, just be confident and make a move, also dont get too drunk yourself or you might find yourself waking up half naked in a parking lot wondering where is that girl that wanted to have sex and trying to piece last night together while you look at pictures on your digital camera that you dont remember taking, but either way you probably still had a good time wether or not you remember it, if you are still too shy try going somewhere far away where the people dont know you and will never see you again, even better go somewhere that they dont speak english, that way after she realizes that communication is hopeless she will just grind on you and make out with you and then drag you to her place, if all else fails just go pick up a whore, most of the world is very accepting of prostitution and it sure beats having to go out and pick up some crazy drunk girl where you dont know what you are getting, if you are looking for a girlfriend to fall in love with and all then nobody can help you there, you have to figure out what you want and then go out and hope you find one someday, but the more girls you go through the better chance you have, just dont fall in love with every girl you meet because for some reason that is what drives them away
2007-01-09 08:47:38 · answer #1 · answered by joseph oak 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing wrong with you. Depending on what you are looking for, you have to accept that your ex was looking for something else...whether she was just "young" or "not you." You should take advantage of the opportunities you seem to have access to, and ask out these contestants and beautiful women for dates, if only to see what you do and don't want in a gf. As for the virgin part, don't sweat it. It's easy to lose it, and hard to keep it. especially in a big city, if that's where you are at.
Just relax, meet people, and when the time is right, you and she will figure it out that it's what you both want. Don't sweat the ex-gf that cheated on you. And if you're still not in the mood, then wingman for your friends that need to meet girls...everybody can use that.
2007-01-09 16:01:15 · answer #2 · answered by normalguy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just afraid to open up. You keep your defenses up and thats ok. You also don't seem to feed into that bullshit that society feeds us that guys who have a lot of sex are studs and should be revered.
I say find a nice girl, get to know her, even to the point of romantically falling in love with her, and then finally giving her your virginity. Hopefully you'll carry on that love and marry her, have some kids, live out your life with her being happy etc.
Good Luck.
2007-01-09 15:58:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get over your anxiety of meeting women and just go out there and meet them. Get on a dating service where you can talk to the women before you date them. You do not have to do what all these teenagers do where if they do not loose their virginity by age 15 they are not cool. Who cares about being cool you need to find the right women for you.
2007-01-09 16:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by red1967 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its Called insecurity...You need To let yourself see who like you are intrested in...
Inside and out
Make sure you dun go for thw h oes that crowd around you cuz those r the cheaters!!!
Check out like 1 or two clubs with even one friend and just mingle around ... get a few digits[phone numbers]
For the Virgin Thing...dun woorrry do yu know that jessica simpson didnt have s e x untill she got married...its perfectly normal....just lay-back...PS this is yur year to start finding someone your intrested in...
If You wait till your 30 then it takes like a year to date a person so 31 then a year or two till a wedding, so 33...so you dun wanna be a person whos a virgin till 33...
Trust me on this....date.... it may break...then start again...
Dun obesse over a girl 4 too longg
2007-01-09 16:00:49 · answer #5 · answered by tickingclocks 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nothing is wrong with you. You have a lot to offer, most people can not offer their virginity to the right one, but you still have that chance. I say you go boy. Hold out until the time is right.
2007-01-09 15:57:55 · answer #6 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex for the first time is something special and should be shared with someone special. You just haven't found someone you can trust yet but in order to do that you will have to open up sometime. If you just want to have sex to get over with, go to a club or a bar and you can get laid pretty easy.
2007-01-09 15:59:10 · answer #7 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You are just like me =D Same situation, but I am 16... Nothing is wrong with you, just wait for the perfect person! Don't concern yourself with getting laid. Keep your innocence, read about sex, that helps you actually have sex when you do for the first time.
Point being, nothing is wrong! Just find that cute, cuddly perfect girl and gain her love =3
2007-01-09 15:57:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well wut i think is ur problem is that you need to find another relationship sure you'll have the couple bad girlfriends but that is what dating is for... you need to go out and find new people try to have a friend hook u up on a blind date... i think u are the reason you seem to stop in looking so u need to brave it up! good looks arent always everything work on your personality or some other aspects of who you are
2007-01-09 15:59:21 · answer #9 · answered by Ayyy631 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im the same age as you and ive never even had a proper boyfriend let alone anything else, im really shy too even though people think im confident . dont worry youll meet the right girl when its right and the rest'll happen
2007-01-09 15:59:00 · answer #10 · answered by lovely girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋