Well my boyfriend and I have been together for a little over a year, and he recently got this new job . We both go to school and after school he goes into work ... he works 5 days a week and i only get to see him on the weekends. Although i use to see him 4 to 5 times a week. This has been really hard for me. When we talk he never has anything to say to me on the phone he jsut sits there...and he is always so hateful to me i dont know. I feel like our relationship is just falling apart . Its like i use to feel so important to him and now i feel like im just baggage. Does anyone know what I should do?
2007-01-09 07:52:25 · 3 answers · asked by booboo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If he can't handle working 5 days a week and have girlfriend he has some issues. Cause I work full time and go to college full time and have had a boyfriend of two years. If I can do it anyone can. I think you need to sit down and talk with him. Let him know how you feel, but also show you are understanding about the new job. Don't make him feel like he is being attacked. Try to talk to him about his job and things he is into.. etc... Relationships change if he really loves you, he will stick it out. If the convo ends the relationship, then he wasn't' meant for you and its time to find someone who wants to be with you and makes you feel important. Don't put yourself into a relationship were there isn't a potential long term cause it will end in heart break..
2007-01-09 08:09:32 · answer #1 · answered by jennisea04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time out to think. People (esp. guys) are usu. v. obvious and they let you know what their true intentions in words and actions. (Actions speak louder than words!) Has he mentioned wanting to break up or take time out? Has he disrespected you in anyway? If yes, take the hint and move on to greener pastures. You don't want to be w/ someone that doesn't love and appreciate you. If no, find some activities to fill your day with fun and personal growth -possibly even $. Sometimes we just need to get a life too. Be grateful and support the fact that he's not a lazy butt-head w/o goals. In fact, when things get a little calmer and you're in a better groove ask him what his goals are. NOT HIS PLANS. Let him define what goals are..........that way he leads the direction of that conversation. You could start off w/ " you know, i was a little anx when you first started working and had less time for me. then i realized that it was cool bc xyz. (don't make stuff up, figure what you DO like about it). that's cool. i realize you may have goals i didn't think of. do you mind sharing them with me?
Be careful not to let your mind wander into "what if" scenarios. That's always dangerous. If you want to know, just ask gently,calmly...
2007-01-09 16:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by caeli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him and ask him what is the problem. Don't try and figure it out yourself because you will add more problems to it.
2007-01-09 15:57:12 · answer #3 · answered by uneekqamar2004 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋