okay, so in a confusing situation. have spent some time with a very awesome person. we are sleeping together as well and at first it was kind of a "let's just be friends with benefits" type deal..but now i'm a little confused at some of the actions b/c they don't really scream "booty call to me" b/c to me a booty call is someone you call up at like 12:30 at night when you know you've struck out in the bar and still want to get laid (get what ya need and head on out).. so either i'm out of the loop or he's a little interested in more than just sex
-we've spent the night together several nights
-we've spent time together and NOT had sex
-wanted me to call ane let him know i made it home okay
-cooked dinner together, went grocery shopping and even did some pda while buying groceries.
-called a couple of times to just check and see what's going on.
he's been really burnt in the past in relationships and so do you think it's booty call situation or is there some interest
2007-01-09 07:51:52 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
-he's also started kissing me more
-he's pretty freakin' cuddly
-he seems like he wants to spend time together and kind of encourages me to come over/stay longer and whatnot..
2007-01-09 07:56:33 · update #1
You are just a friend until he tells you differently. If you don't want to be just a booty call you should stop the late night visits all together. If you are even feeling like you could be just a booty call that is a great sign that you are not comfortable with this relationship. You might be a physical and emotional booty call.
2007-01-09 08:55:31 · answer #1 · answered by Nic79 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow , i was going through this same thing with a guy that is about 37 yrs of age and at first all i wanted was sex. but i fell in love with him and he does some of the same things but we get into it and he burns out and don't here from him for a while then he pops back up. Maybe he wants more but afraid of getting burnt again just enjoy his company and ask questions about relationship matters and see where he goes from there and it seems like you love him . Trust yourself and do what you feel is right without pushing him a way if you really care about him.
2007-01-09 08:02:03 · answer #2 · answered by xiavera a 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You seem to cherish your relationship with him and you actually like him. DO NOT get involved with a friends with benefits thing. It is physically proven that our bodies tend to develop an emotional attachment to another person when sexually active. No one I know who's ever had a friends with benefits relationship that was good and ended on a good note. It's ALWAYS a bad not. For that same reason - emotional bonding. You both care for each other - be it friend wise or a bit more. Don't potentially ruin it with sex. Sex if just sex, you can find other ways to please yourself without risking a valued relationship. Also - friends with benefits if suposed to be no strings attached. An emotionally detached relationship used just for mutual sex and pure entertainment. You said it yourself, you have feelings for him. Really, be careful with this. I don`t think it`s a good idea! Good luck!
2016-05-22 23:34:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is kind of like a relationship w/o the strings attached.
I think you really should read the book "He's Just not that into You" by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo. It opened my eyes and clarified a lot of situations I've had (like yours).
If he hasn't clarified or pursued an exclusive relationship with you...that means he isn't that into you. Because if he really wants you...you will be his girlfriend.
OR you can put your head in the sand and continue to wonder "what if this" "what if that."
p.s. casual sex never really works. One person (usually the woman) almost always gets attached or hurt.
2007-01-09 08:04:32 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is obviously more interest than just a booty call. u dont follow up on booty calls to see if they got home or if they wanna hang out. u should try to go serious and have a title w/him, ur already doing everything a couple does anyways.
2007-01-09 07:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by oc 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no, this doesn't seem like a booty call. this guy might have some problem, as you said, he was burnt from past relationships, so maybe you just have to help him love again. hope i helped
2007-01-09 07:56:35 · answer #6 · answered by Konrad 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well, he just might need some coming out of his shell. like you said, he must have been burned by previous relationships, and now you have to make him open up to you. i think he really loves you, he's just afraid that this relationship might end up like others. don't give your hopes up, just make him feel comfortable around you, remember trust is gained by time, so don't try to rush things.
2007-01-09 08:56:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋