my best friend (mark) is good friends with all these people in a band. one of those people in the band are named John. Mark called me with John on the other line. We talked for a while, and Mark showed John my myspace. Apparently, he thinks I am "insanely hot" and was talking to Mark about how bad he wants to "bone me." I was joking around on the phone and told John I'd give him a lapdance if he gave me and some friends a ride to the movies. So i probably led him on or something. Because I don't do things like that. Mark is having a party on Saturday and the whole band is going to be there. I'm afraid this guy John is going to try something on me and I'm not sure how to handle this. I've heard some bad things about John also, that he's an alcoholic and has a bad home-life. I know the typical answer is to "not go" to the party but I'm going to eventually meet this guy John somewhere because he's friends with a lot of people I know. And I really want to go to this party. what to do?
2007-01-09 07:49:01 · 4 answers · asked by jooooooolie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Don't worry. You are worried about something that has't happened and might not actually happen. When you get to the party, just act completely normal. If John starts joking around again, like "how about that lapdance now?" or whatever, be polite and laugh a little but just don't get too involved in the joke. If he was interested in trying something on, that subtle reaction should put him off. Try and make sure that you're not alone with him. You never know, he might have just been joking around as much as you were, and you won't end up feeling uncomfortable around him at all. If he does manage to get the opportunity to try something on, it's not the worst thing that could happen. You're going to be at a party, so it's not like he's going to rape you or anything, no matter how much of a messed up alcoholic he is. If he does try something, it would probably be fairly subtle, and all you have to do is turn and walk away. Give him a confused look, like What? I never expected THAT, and then say "Er...sorry, I think you got the wrog idea," walk away and leave it at that.
And also, be flattered that somebody thinks you're insanely hot, doesn't matter who it is, use that confidence to go and flirt with somebody at the party that YOU want to try it on with! That'll give him the message. You'll be absolutely fine.
2007-01-09 08:05:23 · answer #1 · answered by Katrina W 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're youthful and on your sexual top. Testosterone is the main significant hormone. particular, it is commonly used. additionally, you have purely been relationship a woman for 2 months who lives 4 freakin' hours faraway from you and you "love one yet another very plenty?" You look to have a reasonably unrealistic view of your relationship. long distance relationships (particular, a 4 hour holiday is long-distance) very infrequently artwork out. 2 months is on no account a protracted time to have been relationship somebody, and to assert you're in love at this component is extremely untimely. i do no longer care once you're trapped on a wasteland island mutually -- there's no way you 2 understand one yet another that properly after purely 2 months, fantastically once you're purely in a position to bypass to now and returned. consult from her with regard to the type you sense. Ask her what's happening so a approaches as her intercourse stress is going. clarify that that's completely ok if she does not sense involved yet which you relatively opt to appreciate why. it ought to very properly be that she feels much less drawn to you the two bodily or emotionally. It additionally must be which you're purely no longer very sexually properly suited. perchance she's drawn to you yet she purely does not enjoy intercourse with you. perchance she's purely having too a lot of her very own issues. there is a superb sort of reasons. you ought to ascertain what's greater significant to you: satiating your intercourse stress or looking after your female chum. there's no longer something incorrect with the two, you purely ought to p.c.. one as a precedence and settle for that. you're able to be able to ascertain which you're greater efficient off looking a greater available (and native) important different.
2016-10-06 21:52:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your other friend to say something to him like" if you act like an azz you will get nowhere with her, she is not that kind of girl"
2007-01-09 07:55:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends if you are that way or not then tell him you are sorry that you lead him on and you just want to be friends
2007-01-09 08:01:36 · answer #4 · answered by Megan L. Rinehart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋