Who thinks there should be more HUSBANDS and less *shudder* "baby daddys"?

Question

Just hearing the words "baby daddy" makes me cringe. Big time. It's disgusting. I would go crazy if I grew up with only a mother. This country is in a serious ethical decay right now and I hope it improves again someday. A child needs to be born in the structural security of wedlock. In recent decades when people suddenly decided "hey it's ok to screw around and bring children into fatherless homes" then it caused nothing but a cycle of trouble that plagues our country as a social disease. A child needs a father and mother to be role models, raise them, and teach them right from wrong. When people have children out of wedlock they are being selfish by harming the kids who have to suffer from fatherless homes, and towards everyone else too because it's bad for our society. You think with all the trouble this has caused people would've already woken up but too many people still just don't get it.

Oh yeah and most black people used to be strongly against having anything short of a nuclear family so when modern black people have children out of wedlock then they're also being disrespectful to their ancestors and p*ssing on their roots.

ojib I agree that's just as bad

Answer 1

I agree with out . . . it is a decay of society and feminist strong point. "We don't need a man", but we will take his money. Independent women . . . my a**.

Many single mother, are on financial aid and collecting child support from their ex-husband or in some cases sperm donors/bank accounts. Some women, make incorrect judgment on their donor and purposely got knocked up with a dead broke guy. Texas recently put out the Most Wanted List . . . of Dead Beat Fathers. Most on that list are blue collar workers who make less than the poverty level. But guys try to impress a girl by lying, and the girls think . . . there's my baby's daddy . . . and boom pregnant, where is the money. And Daddy goes to jail because he has no money.

I can understand divorcing a man because of him being abusive, but in most of those actually cases, both parties are abusive, not just the men. In fact, the leading cause of child abuse (physical and mental) according to the CDC (Center of Disease Control) is the mother, not the father. Yet the mother seems to have always been able to maintain control.

Have you seen "Pursuit of Happyness"? Several feminist bloggers are cheering for the mother, saying she did the correct thing in abandoning her husband and child to pursue her happiness. And that it was her husband's fault for pursuing his dream in trying to accomplish his dreams of being successful. He was blamed by feminists as being the selfish one.

You know feminists have even declared that lesbians are better at raising children than a standard family with a mother and father. Feminists have openly declared that it better for a woman to raise the child herself than with the father of the child. Even some politician have said the same thing. Trying to win the female vote.

With a standard family, with father and a mother, children are less inclined to do drugs, get involved with criminal activities, get pregnant as teenagers, etc.

Even if they are not married, the father should have full rights to his children and not get locked out and alienated. Just because they are not married, he is their father . . . not their baby's daddy (a key phrase feminist develop to alienate fathers from their children's lives).

Go ahead report me . . . I lost answers before . . . because of the truth. But if you want to know why there is sooo much crime, blame the single mothers who did it on purpose. Without a male role model, they grow up to be criminals or gay, because they have a female role model for all aspect of their lives. Oh these guys will make the perfect mate, but they will perfer a*holes like their mothers.

Answer 2

I agree this has lead to a decay in society. As long as women continue to have sex without making men be responsible, then this will continue. I do not think this is a black or white thing. I just think it is because people are selfish. Today it is all about ME and what feels good. It not only harms the family structure and the children suffer. The children don't see the harm as they grow up because it is all they know. So the vicious cycle continues. I think people need to have a change of views or it will end up in our demise.

I also want to add that so many people keep saying it don't matter if the mom and dad are married as long as they are together in a relationship and stick around. That is the problem people today don't believe in the institution of marriage. No wonder marriage don't work. What happen to commitment to marriage and making it work no matter what. There are a few exceptions to this. Such as a abusive mate. But, today people are to quick to back out of marriage and say I'm out of here. SELFISH

Answer 3

I'm not married, but I have a partner and a child on the way. I don't think that being unmarried has any bearing on us as a FAMILY. Divorces are so common now whether you are married or not isn't really the issue. The ethical downfall of this country has nothing to do with 1 parent/2 parent families.The problem with today is that many parents (whether male/female, married/unmarried) are to busy to be positive role models to their children. Seems people don't care anymore and for an easy life let their kid's run riot! Todays children haven't been taught to respect anyone! That is the problem!

Answer 4

I really hate to inform you that not all of us single moms just (as you called it) SCREWED around outside of wedlock. I most certainly did not make a conscious decision to sleep with just any man on one night of my life. I was in a relationship built on trust and honesty and it fell through. I get what your saying about this becoming a problem for Americans. However I really wish you would not include ALL women who have had children without being married. I did not have a one night stand and guess what.... I do feel like every child NEEDS a father but I cannot force him to do something he has decided he does not want to do. I would rather have only me. Someone who wants to be a parent and plans on parenting in a positive way, Than forcing him to take my son on every other weekend and do nothing with him. I mean seriously what sounds worse. So yes I agree people need to keeps the goods until there is commitment but please do not group us all into on category of woman who screw any man that gets it up for us.

Answer 5

I most definately think that there should be less baby daddy's and more husbands. The generation now is so busy trying to keep up with trends and fads that they don't pay enough attention to their children to teach them family morals. I strongly think that the men now days should have their tubes tied if they have 3 children with different women and are not married. It's not right that we as women have to suffer while the men go out and make more kids that they won't take care of. And it's sad but the women are getting too relaxed now with settling for less and living that "project" type of life. It's sickening.

Answer 6

I had to raise my two boys alone after my husband died young. My kids were 3 and 5 years old. My youngest turns 21 on Saturday. I can tell everyone out there it is not an easy job and the kids do need two parents. First you need the financial support and you also need the support of someone who has the same emotional investment in the children as you do. The most important thing a man can do for his child is to love it's mother!!

Answer 7

Well, I hate the term "baby daddy." I was unmarried when I got pregnant. My daughters never went without a father. He lived with us. We're married now, but that doesn't really seem to make a difference to our girls. Why do you think everyone who has a child while unmarried doesn;t have the father living in the same home? My cousin was 18 when her parents finally got married.

I do agree with one thing even though I'll get a lot of slack for it. Children are better off with both parents. Why would any woman have a child with a man that beats her? People need to use common sense.

Answer 8

Lack of values. Feminist movement probably had a bit to do with it. More and more women these days are actively seeking to get pregnant with out having to commit to marriage. Of course they still commit to the child support payments.

Blacks have something like 80% of kids born out of wedlock. There used to be a time where it was socially shameful to get pregnant without engaging into a marriage. Divorces are too easy and many kids have grown up with only one parent. Boys(sorry ladies) just don't have a strong male role model anymore.

Thus the complaints that they don't act like men anymore.

Answer 9

My ex is just a 'baby daddy'. We were married but it didn't work out when he decided he wanted alcohol more than a family. Moms are more than enough for some children. We teach our kids, raise them to be good citizens, while being good role models. It's all in how you raise your kids, not whether or not there is a 'man' around.

Answer 10

i don't think the husband thing really matters, but yes more men and women should take responsibility for their actions. My husband and I were not married when we found out I was pregnant with our daughter. But you know what he stuck around and our daughter is 3 years old and we just married a month ago and she has always had both of us her life since before she was born. It is just a matter of people taking responsibility. It doesn't have anything to do with being married cause even a marriage can fall apart just like any other relationship. BUT TO ALL MEN AND WOMEN - TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOUR ACTIONS. you think you old enough or responsible enough to have sex then be prepared to raise a kid together whether you are married or not!!!!!