im homesick and i cant stop crying please help?

Question

ive just come back to uni after spending a month at home, im so homesick i cant do anything but cry! what makes it worse is i have an exam in 2 weeks but i cant bring myself to study for it because i cant stop crying and the stress of the exam is making it worse. im thinking of getting a transfer to a uni closer to home (im in uni in the UK but i live in France) is this a better option? thanks for ur help

Answer 1

I know how that feels. Give counselling services at the university a try before considering relocating, a little support and a few friends can go a long way :-)

Answer 2

If last term was OK it's probably the stress of up-coming exams that's causing home sickness. Most of us missed family and home when at uni. and felt low when we came back. I found I really had to get involved and fill my time. There are councellors to help you talk through how you're feeling, and study groups to help with revision. You cannot be the only student with links to France, find some others on campus - meet up - you'll find talking about home makes you more nostalgic than homesick.
If you are not enjoying uni. that's a different matter, don't use homesickness as an excuse to quit. Think long and hard about what you want to do, it's a lot of money to spend if you don't want to be there. Leave and find work at home or transfer to a French College.
You already know the answer deep inside - are you looking for validation on the decision to transfer - or for some confidence boosting?
Don't think about what others want you to do, don't think about what past decisions were or why they were made, just think long and hard about what you want to do next. Then act on it.

Answer 3

Hi, I wish I knew what year of uni you were in, so that I could help give this advice.

Firstly you are homesick SO much right now, because you have just got back, and change is hard. It affects everyone differently. For example I always cry when I get back from holiday, its not that I still want to be there, its just that I feel sad, because of the change.

You still have 2 weeks until the exam, don't worry! serioulsy when I was at uni (finished this summer) 2 weeks was more than enough time to steadily work my way through the revision. Thats not to say that I wouldn't cry, and think that I couldn't handle it. I did, I cried so much, but what I didn't know then was that I could do it. Believe me, if I can, you can. You have already coped with living in a forgein country for a while, and if you are French your English writing skills are absolutely amazing.

Also as a female, I have to be so careful about PMT, when I have PMT I can and will cry and castophrise everything. I can't watch TV, its all too emotional! If this is the case for you take a vitamin B complex (this will also help with any other kind of stress). It can be found naturally in marmite amongst other things.

About the changing uni thing, I'm not the best person to ask, as I stayed at home and comutted to uni. But I can tell you that the only real difference that made to me was the financial one. Most of my friends went away to uni anyway, and living with family can be just as stressful as living with flatmates at times.

Part of me wants to tell you to make life as easy as possible on yourself, until you are qualified, and the other half of me want to say, be adventurous, take the highs with the lows and be independent. Who knows what is best for you, but don't make any rash decisions just because you're a bit blue.

Also is it possible to do a course that is just as good as the one you are on, closer to home? Will you have to re-do any work?

Answer 4

I would be all over that place checking it out and meeting people. You have this amazing opportunity and you are crying like a baby! What is wrong with you? Just because school hasn't started doesn't mean you can't meet people. Go for a walk. Go to the store. It's okay to be homesick. But you are making it worse by obsessing over it. You haven't even given the place a chance.

Answer 5

It wouldn't be a bad idea to call home.

Don't be embarrassed that you'll seem weak or that you're burdening your folks. Just call. You don't have to tell them you're homesick, just have a conversation. It's good to hear the voices of people you love.

Moving out added to your exam pressure is definitely going to put you on edge and stress you out, so take steps to reduce stress:

Meditate - easier and less flouncy than you think;
Tidy up and get things organised ~ this helps you feel in control;
Bring a little bit of home into your room ~ photos of family above your desk will calm you down.

But whatever you do, please talk to someone even if you'll burst into tears: far better to cry in public than alone.

Answer 6

Try to remind yourself that you only have a few months until summer .I know this is hard. My daughter moved away to college her first year and as her mom I was a mess. She was too. But you know what you are not going to be there forever. look at it like a vacation and try to get out and learn more about your temporary home. Make memories that will last a life time. I hope you feel better soon. And just keep telling yourself you ll be home soon.

Answer 7

If you are desperately homesick and its stressing you out then you need to look at transferring to a uni closer to home.Bets of luck.

Answer 8

I think you've already answered your query about transferring and it sounds like you'd be less depressed.

For now, to get you through your exam and crying, try talking with someone that you feel comfortable with. Walking, listening to music, working out, and thoughts of your possible transfer may assist you in getting yourself out of the slump you're feeling.

Take deep breaths, understand that this too shall pass and you'll soon be your smiling self again.

Go take that exam and pass with flying colors!!!!

Take care of yourself and keep us posted.

Big hugs!!!!

Answer 9

Talk to your friends, I'm sure they'll help you enjoy yourself and not forget about home but take your mind off it for a while and remind you why your there. But definitely in the long term, see a counsillor or transfer if you really cant work.
good luck I hope you feel better soon!

Answer 10

Try to be positive about the situation.

Ask yourself "What is good about it"?
For example, your family can't interrupt your studying!

Try to find at least 5 answers.

Also, your family is only a phone call away - I'm sure they'd love to speak to you. You could also tell them how you feel and maybe arrange a meet-up if it's possible?

Good luck with that and your studies x