He agreed it was ok, now we we're together,the cell phone rings and is a friend, and he gets upset.Why ? i don't answer the phone.e even told me, tell your friend not to call again.In a serious tone of voice.What should i do or tell my b/f ?
2007-01-09 07:35:23 · 15 answers · asked by lady F 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If the guys who are calling are just friends, they should have no problem understanding that you have a boyfriend now and they need to leave you alone so you can pursue this relationship. If you on the other hand have not told them that "he's your boyfriend" then you are in the wrong and you are playing games and your boyfriend should dump you as you are not ready for a committed relationship. When you are spending time with your boyfriend, you should not be answering calls from other guys...no matter if they are just friends or not.
2007-01-09 07:48:55 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through the exact same situation w/my now husband. All guys want one thing, and that's definitely not friendship he always told me, as well as, all his friends. They think we are too naive to understand. However, even though there are guys who only try to get close to you for one reason or another, I deeply believe that some guys are sincere. I grew up w/boys. All my friends were guys for the most part, and I love them like they're one of my brothers. I do know that over time the "friends" will come and go, but if you truly love your b/f and see a future, just think how you would feel if all he ever did was talk to girls. A compromise must be made w/ a clear understanding between all parties involved. If this is not an option then I would think it is time to re-evaluate the relationship. Give and take is one thing if balanced. Control and jealousy is something unhealthy and completely different.
2007-01-09 08:20:09 · answer #2 · answered by outlaw28 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everyone can have friend, the question is how many time is the phone ringing? I pick my girlfriend up 2pm and 11pm from her home to work and her work to home, five day a week, for a year. (a year ago, still together, about to get marry and got her a car) The drive is 20 minute, after she gets home, i have to drive home to sleep. I do drive out of my way, all i ask is that the 20 minute drive, do not talk on the phone. Cause clearly I am going out of my way to get her. So the rule is do not let the phone ring over driving and eating. Any other time is okay. Make this two rule and you will be find.
2007-01-09 07:43:26 · answer #3 · answered by ken401lam 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex/still good friend did something sim. He said having guy friends was ok but after we started dating he thought lunches with other guys was not an option for me. I called him on it and we comprimised after discussing (in a mature, unemotionally charged manner) what exactly bothered him about it. I thought about whether or not he was more important than those guy friends.......and made my decision.
Be honest with yourself: is this guy your best friend or just something fun for now? Is he being overly ridiculous or not? do you ever give him a reason to doubt your faithfulness? What about him? What does faithfulness mean to the two of you, literally (i.e. pats on the back, hugs, kisses, lunch dates, time alone/in groups, text msgs......)
Have you guys gotten physical yet? I think that can cause some people to get all emotionally charged and irratic when there's no "real commitment" involved -like a marriage certificate.
2007-01-09 07:49:05 · answer #4 · answered by caeli 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he's insecured which is perfectly normal for every guy to be in. Why? Simple... boys are quite aggressive and sexual. So they feel the need to be your one and only king for fear that you will leave him for another prince. Boys can be possessive in nature because they are there to prove their sexual prowess. It's part of living in a male world and driven by their own natural instincts.
What most boys don't understand is... there will never be any number one male stud. Why? Because the boys think they have to size everything up and want to hear the girl say,"NO ONE compares to you!" It's all about the ego boost. Why do you think men constantly stereotype in movies because race or social status is a factor? It's because men are there to challenge and they 'think' they are better when they don't actually 'measure' up.
Stereotypes are a bunch of lies. Don't believe in them... .it only wastes your time to be with anyone you want to be with.
I'm sure both of you are in your young teens but the boy you are with needs to be reassured that he is in good hands. So let him know how much you care for him. On the other hand if you like your guy friends and want to talk with them.... let him know how much that means to you. This is where trust issues become important.
2007-01-09 07:46:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yours to decide really. Telephone might wind up breaking up your love life -- and I mean it -- or you can set your cap on your b/f first. Both of these are fragile, but I can tell you for sure in the long run, telephone will do you more harm than a freaky b/f. Better take a far-sighted look to it, but I suspect you won't give a hoot.
2007-01-09 07:44:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just what you told us!
You knew I had guy friends calling when we started dating and you agreed it was OK. I'm not going to stop having friends just because you are jealous. I'm not doing anything that would hurt our relationship, and I'm sorry if you can't deal with it now. You are going to have to get over it, or we're going to have to call it quits. It's not what I want, but you leave me no choice if you can't deal with me having any guy friends.
Don't give in to him trying to control you and your life!!!
2007-01-09 07:42:53 · answer #7 · answered by wish I were 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In order to make the relationship work you need trust. He doesnt trust you, but he has the right to be upset, but he doesnt have the right tell you to not talk to you friends. Thats controlling behavior. Just be careful, there are other guys :)
2007-01-09 07:42:07 · answer #8 · answered by Kimberly R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He sounds a lot like me. when I had a girlfriend, I wanted her all to myself, (I don't like to share when it comes to love). Don't be mad at him just sit him down and explain that they are your friends...male friends and nothing more and invite him to become their friend too if it's OK with your other friends. I know people of the opposite sex can have friends of the other sex without having a relationship. Your boyfriend just needs to learn it and the sooner the better.
2007-01-09 07:45:11 · answer #9 · answered by Kevin A 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell him that you will let him tell them him self next time they call so he can feel better when he knows that they have been told... every man lives on the prize factor in the world his woman is his prize and no matter what us simple f.u.c.c.s say its always the opposite yes he says he doesn't care about other men you talk to but when it comes down to it he doesn't want anyone to have his prize like a f.u.c.c.i.n.g. little kid and don't lie men we are all like this "i can have here but no one else can..."
2007-01-09 07:41:20 · answer #10 · answered by Godson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋