i need opinions...
a couple years ago I was at 5'8" and 127 lbs, he told me he thought I needed to lose ten pounds. I was an avid runner (20 plus miles a week) and thought I was fine, but it shocked me and sent me into a spiral of crash diets, after which, a year later, I had GAINED ten pounds... then he says to me, he's sorry and he likes me the way I am and he never would say anything like that to any girls, even his friends, so he shouldn't have to me...
so, I kinda doubted he'd really changed. now he still makes remarks like 'if we ever get married, I expect you to stay at the weight I married you at" What do you think??? makes me nervous and feel scrutinized...
2007-01-09 07:25:56 · 42 answers · asked by hiyahowyadoin 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think he's too superficial and into your looks. Also ... he clearly has SERIOUS issues: 5'8'' 127 lbs? That's totally fine! Then you mentioned you GAINED 10 lbs: 5'8'' 137lbs.? That is PERFECT.
My girlfriend is 5'1'' 120 lbs., which is closely equivalent to your 5'8'' 137lbs. That's a perfect and healthy weight. Don't let anyone else tell you otherwise, unless you yourself feel that you are clearly overweight. Personally, I think he has some growing up to do. While he says he likes you the way you are, he contradicts himself by telling you comments like "I expect you to stay at the weight I married you at."
What if you don't? What is going to do? You should have a serious talk with this guy hun. He should love you for who you are, always. Don't ever let anyone else alter your thinking and send you on a spiral of crash diets, especially if you are of perfect weight. Goodluck with everything. :)
2007-01-09 07:37:58 · answer #1 · answered by Tommy_Turrican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him - 5'8" 127 lbs is TOO thin!!! This guy is not worth your time. As you get older you will gain weight - not a whole lot if your careful but still you will NOT stay the same. If he's going to say that now no doubt he's just shallow and a jerk.
2007-01-09 07:31:05 · answer #2 · answered by lunasage 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
so you are 5'8 and 127 and he tell you to lose 10 lbs
well he is a loser for saying that. Besides 127 is a great weight for someone that height.
Find someone who will care about you for the person that is on the inside and not your looks
2007-01-09 07:30:44 · answer #3 · answered by Mike 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WHAT AN A$$!!!! Seriously, why would you want to be with someone who obviously does not love you for who you are but rather what you look like? Good for you for being able to run 20+ miles/week - that's amazing! Try to find someone who appreciates you for you. If you feel nervous or scrutinized around any guy, he's not the one for you.
2007-01-09 07:30:07 · answer #4 · answered by poohb2878 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
shallow. Your weight is fine, 5'8 127 sounds just about perfect. Do you really want to marry someone who's major criteria is what the scale says? If you do, than I'm sorry. Is he in good shape? You ought to turn it around on him. Tell him "If we get married, I expect your erections to last as long as they do now, even when you're 60...." see how he likes it.
2007-01-09 07:30:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-09-03 19:06:08 · answer #6 · answered by faella 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a bit demanding for my tastes. He's not marrying your waist size, he's marrying the person. You might want to give that alot more thought before you get too serious. Next thing you know, he will tell you when you can go out and when you have to stay home and make sure his dinner is ready.
2007-01-09 07:30:43 · answer #7 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he seems a little too controlling. who does he think he is? a weight consultant??? next time he complains or comments about your weight, tell him you are happy with yourself just the way you are and if HE has a problem well he can just deal. he's sure to back off without being hurt. don't be afraid to show him how you feel and that he's getting on your nerves.
oh and to back that all up to your bf...calculate your BMI on this site. if it's in the normal to slightly underweight range you're the perfect
(it's sooo simple and the computer does all the calculating)
xo
2007-01-09 07:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by skigrrl66 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Dump the superficial loser.
2. Worry less.
3. You sound fine.
4. Go volunteer with unfortunate people and cultivate the charming quality of low self-obsession.
2007-01-09 07:30:51 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u r being scrutinized, i would just tell him 2 lay off. U were great at 5'8 and 127. If he wants u 2 change u should just tell hime 2 piss off.
2007-01-09 07:31:38 · answer #10 · answered by AC 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋