If two homosexuals lived next door to you, would you want your 16 year old son to be friendly with them?

Question

I think i should add i dont have a son and i dont live next to any homosexuals.

This is a question not an opinion

I would also like to say that i havnt rated anyones answers.

Answer 1

HELL NO!!! I wouldnt want him with in 15 feet of them!!

Answer 2

well, I have a gay uncle, and have always known his partner as another uncle since I was very young. My mom on the other hand never allowed my younger brother to stay the night with my grandma when he was there staying the night. I always felt that was wrong because he is our uncle. Anyways, my uncle and his partner are both really cool, and never would do anything to anyone else. So if I had a son that lived next to a gay couple, I would want him to be nice to them... not disrespect them because they are gay. Being gay doesn't make you a horrible person. My uncles are the nicest people I know!

Now if you mean friendly as in anything they shouldn't be doing- gay or not, then NO way! Man or woman, it's all the same because it's a 16 yr old we are talking about! If the two homosexuals next door are like my uncle and his partner, they are committed to one another and know better. They wouldn't go messing with a 16 yr old-or anyone else for that matter. Now I know you can't trust everyone. But what I'm really just saying here is that you shouldn't treat someone differently because they are gay.

Answer 3

I actually live next door to a homosexual couple. I am friends with a number of homosexual people, both lesbians and gay men, and do not believe this to be inconsistent with my own morality. Last year my neighbours came to a Christmas party and got along very well with my father, who is an evangelical minister. I would hope that by the time he is 16 my son would have adopted the strength of character, integrity and ability for independent thought that he won't judge people on the basis of their sexual preference (race, colour or even political beliefs for that matter) and he won't think that being gay it a contagious disease. I think that the best education comes from an open discourse about beliefs where none of the parties feels threatened or that it isn't OK to be different.

Answer 4

Do you consider homosexuals to have some sort of disease. In many ways this may be a blessing in disguise cause if your son is homosexual then he will have some back up when he decides to tell everyone. This is such a sad question that is like saying well should i leave my 16 year old daughter be friends with the married couple next door - as they could influence her to fall in love and possibly have kids. Grow up and don't ask such pathetic questions - homosexuals are human too you know and are capable of being friends with people too. Just cause they are homosexual it doesn't mean that they want to jump on your son!

Answer 5

notice the different attitudes in answers form men and women on here! What exactly are guys scared of - you do know being gay isn't catching right?

If your son is straight then he is - meeting, talking to, being friends with and even getting to know gay people well - will not convince him otherwise.
If he's curious it's better he asks questions of a committed couple rather than heading out to chat to guys in clubs.
If your son is gay - then keeping him away from other gay people will not cure him, but will give him the message that you are an unsupportive parent.

there's a difference between a paedophile and a homosexual.
I wouldn't recommend underage straight sex to anyone - morally - but know damn well it goes on, so I'm not shocked to think a gay 15 year old may experiment with (gay) sex also.
Forced sex is rape no matter what gender or age - but there's no reason to assume there is a risk of a pass let alone an attack.

I would hope you take an interest in his friends in general - continue to do so in this instance - maybe your concerns - whatever they are - can be alayed.

Answer 6

A 16 year old hanging around adults is always a bit concerning what are their motivations. The fact that they are homosexual should'nt matter really but there is still a residue of prejudice which seems to suggest homosexuals are a bit perverted or kinky etc.

Consider this would you be happy with your 16 year old daughter hanging round with the two hetrosexual neighbours? Or even a male female couple?

Its the age grown adults hanging round with 16 year old strange.

If friendly means polite conversation etc then yeah if it means spending all night at their house well thats a bit different.

Answer 7

it wouldn't matter. maybe if it was only one homosexual man he could set his uncle patrick up on a date. (J/k, my kids aren't mini match makers)

I would watch to make sure there was nothing inapproreate going on. which is the same thing I'd do if my daughter was constantly with adult straight males or if my son was around a het woman excessivly.
its not about sexuality, its about who people are as individuals and how they act.
statatory rape can happen between any genders (even look at that female teacher and her male student), drugs and violence can be found in a very large range of households- even in nice, safe areas.

the age thing might bother me. adults and teens usually don't find the others interesting. I'd worry that either the adult is grossly immature or my kid likes them for another reason than their personality. I've known teens who act sweet and are stealing alcohol and pills to get high when they go to other people's houses. I don't think my kids would ever really do that though

I wouldn't care if they were around gay neighbors. some of my friends (their 'aunts' and 'uncles'- ps I'm an only child) are gay, bi and some are str8. it won't be anything new

Answer 8

I would, after making sure they weren't petafiles or criminals just like I would a heterosexual couple, for the follwoing reasons:

1. You can't catch homosexualiness
2. You can't be "made" homosexual.
3. All children should be taught to accept others regardless of sex, race, religion or personal gender preference.
4. Just because someone is attracted to people of the same sex it doesn't define them.

People who are different get such a bad rap rather it's because they are not "normal". Every race and/or religion has been discrimated against somewhere, sometime in history, now it's sexual preference, tomorrow something else. People are the way they are and they can't change it, everyone should just get over it.

Answer 9

Homesexuality is not a disease... You could make friends with them with your son, and at the same time get to know these neighbors. I had gay neighbors and they were the nicest people ever. They came to our house all the time... As long as you check them out more than likely they are perfectly normal...Your acting like you should completely ignore them. If there is a problem when you meet them then yes, keep your son away, but if not...no!

Answer 10

Strangely enough, It wouldnt bother me as I (and the rest of my family) am not homophobic like you.
Simply because a man/woman is gay, doesn't automatically turn them into a perverted monster.
Try having a little tolerance for once in your life.
Also have a little faith that your sons decision making ability.
While you may not be able to befriend a gay couple, others can because the sexuality of friends isn't as important as the character and personality

Answer 11

The only thing that would make me NOT want my son to be friendly with them would be what kind of people they are, but then again, that's what makes me decide on anyone that he decides to be friendly with. Gay people are gay, but they are people.. they want the same things in life as straight people do. THey want to be happy, they want to be healthy.. they want to live. I don't care who my son is friendly with as long as they are good people.. they would have to undergo the same criteria as anyone else my son likes.. I want my son to hang out with people that are generally good, and can have a good influence on him, and if the 2 homosexuals that live next door are good people, then I don't care if he is friendly with them.