I'm crazy in love with X like I've never been before. X has been in a relationship with Y for 4 years and his lover cheated on him several times. Still he loves him but they are separated. Although they are still living together because of financial problems. When I'm with X, X is happy and he said he liked me and we have been intimate. But whenever Y comes, he changes and becomes miserable. He is hesitant about what to choose. He cannot be with me because he feels he would be making Y sorry, who is very sorry for having cheated on him. But he cannot forgive her either. All I know is he is happy with me and he likes me but he still loves her because he made himself believe that she is the one. He idolized her and he still obsesses over her.
Does anyone have any advice for me? I'm in a lot of pain. At the same time I think it is still worth having 5 minutes of pleasure with him and them being sad for 8465456 hours. Does anyone think I have a chance with him?
2007-01-09 07:12:25 · 4 answers · asked by applejuice 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
cert441 explained it better than me. I've always said I was there for him. Either as a friend or as a lover. But I would never ever be so close to him until he got over his ex. Intimate means hugging and drunken kissing for me...
2007-01-09 07:28:12 · update #1
If he is miserable and just playing a part from guilt with her, then he will eventually realize that. If I were you, I would continue to be there for him. Let him know where you stand, but that you will not interfere with the two of them. You see, if you give him his cake he will eat it. He has to choose between the two of you but if you are giving him everything he would get if he was in a relationship with you, he wont ever choose. You have been intimate with him and that sometimes can be exciting when you are cheating with a cheater. Theres just something about it. But, karma will bite you in the butt. Trust me. Be there but stay away. Its never good to be with a cheater and if you did end up with him, u will have questions of fidelity if you continue. Good luck to you.
2007-01-09 07:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mr. X has way too much baggage. Relationships don't work with three people. It's gonna hurt a lot more in the beginning but you've got to him let him go. You deserve constant pleasure - not just 5 minutes.
2007-01-09 15:17:36 · answer #2 · answered by Belaran 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Run. Run as fast as you can as far as you can.
There are plenty of people in the world who are completely available. Why be satisified with 5mins. of someones time. Maybe its because you really are not interested in a real relationship yourself? or maybe you just need a boost of confidence. So trust me when i say, you are better than that and deserve better. Dont make it easy for him to have the best of everything while you get crumbs from his cake he's eating. Hellllllll Noooooo!
2007-01-09 15:22:01 · answer #3 · answered by kimb 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He would have left her by now if he was serious about you. Find someone else who appreciates you. Good luck...
2007-01-09 15:21:21 · answer #4 · answered by F.J. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋