I'm the first person in my circle of friends to be getting married. I had really hoped for a sort of girls night out/lingerie shower...something special before my wedding. My maid of honor hasn't mentioned any kind of shower/party. Would it be rude to ask?
2007-01-09 07:09:17 · 24 answers · asked by orangeflameninja 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Not really, if they haven't been in that position before...they might not know it's their responsibility. They will need your input anyway as far as names and addresses of your friends and family (girls). If it makes you feel better, nonchalantly ask if she needs help with anything. Or, better yet, I got mine a Maid of Honor Book (which she loves). It gives suggestions and help with planning everything they need to and lets them know what they need to do. Wrap it up and give it as a gift. Here's a link to some on Amazon:
http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_ss_gw/102-5818208-1348908?url=search-alias%3Daps&field-keywords=maid+of+honor+book&Go.x=11&Go.y=6
2007-01-09 07:49:29 · answer #1 · answered by angel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No its not. A lot of times the maid of honor doesn't throw the shower--she typically plans the bachelorette party. Aunts, cousins, soon-to-be in-laws, others in the persons life tend to be in charge of the showers. And as its thrown in the brides honor--and the bride is soooo busy--its not rude to ask people what the plans are so that you will know not to schedule a dress fitting or a meeting with the caterer during the time they were thinking about a shower.
However--if you were wanting something a lil outta the norm and fun &games like lingerie you have to mention it to them or they might think more grandparents and kitchenaids.
Just don't try to plan it that far out. Most of the time the showers are within a month or two of the wedding.
2007-01-09 07:17:42 · answer #2 · answered by phantom_of_valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It might be slightly rude for you to ask personally. You could probably have your mother, or a close aunt ask though.
Since your mother or aunt would be involved in a traditional bridal shower (the maid of honor'd ask to hold it at mom or aunt's home, they wouldn't officially plan it) it'd be natural for them to contact the maid of honor regarding potential plans. They could then mention that you might prefer something closer to a bachelorette party with your friends or the like.
If mom or an aunt are out of the question, try to think of a relative or coworker's shower/bachelorette party you attended at some point and casually mention how much you enjoyed it or aspects you really liked or disliked, to make sure it's in your friends' minds.
Make sure someone checks, it's your special day and you won't want any regrets. I'm sure everything will turn out ok, it may be that your maid of honor is planning a surprise event or that she's putting off planning details until closer to the date. Congrats!
2007-01-09 07:20:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When are you getting married? If its coming up soon ask her about it. You should have a bridal shower and bachloette party. If your maid of honor isn't planning the shower ask your mom to, and for the bachlorette party ask another one of your friends if she's not interested in planning anything. Just talk to her first since you are all new she may not know that she should be planning anything! Congrats
2007-01-09 07:21:06 · answer #4 · answered by Tamra 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on when your wedding will be. I wont be having my Bridal shower until at least 3 months before my wedding and my bachelorette party within 2 weeks of it. I am actually planning it with my MOH, only because she thinks i am very picky...lol
If you just now got engaged, maybe she is still in the process of planning, and wants it to be a surprise. I say be a bit more patient and let her do her thing. If it comes to about a month or two before the wedding and things still havent progressed or happened, maybe you can take her aside and ask when it would be. but for right now, be patient.
2007-01-09 07:16:20 · answer #5 · answered by glorymomof3 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get your mother or sister to ask her if she needs help with organizing your bridal shower? That would be a nice way of both offering help and giving the hint. Not everyone is aware of proper etiquette and what is expected. I had no idea what to do when my best high school friend asked me to be her maid of honor. No one told me!
2007-01-09 07:18:47 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes, because it is not up to the maid of honor to give you a bridal shower . That is up to all of your friends and the maid of honor can help.
Don't put any more expence or responsibility on the maid of Honor. Her responsibility comes on the day of the wedding and then she and the best man have their hands full
2007-01-09 07:16:16 · answer #7 · answered by mamayer6 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hell NO! It's your Bridal shower!!! you are only supposed have one those ((if you live in Cali 4 or 5)) in your whole life!!! It better be spent the way you imagined it would!!! Maybe your maid of honor needs some tips hints of what you desire...it's not rude to tell them what you're expecting...
2007-01-09 07:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by Dave B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, ask away!
I think it's pretty much understood (and expected!) that your maid of honor should be putting some kind of bridal shower or bachelorette party together.
2007-01-09 07:13:23 · answer #9 · answered by Lily 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it would be rude to ask.
She may be planning something, she may not. But either way, I hope you asked her to be your maid of honor because she's your friend, not because of the party that she could throw for you.
Anyway, other people are likely to ask her, you don't have to say a thing. And if she's not throwing a party, someone else might.
2007-01-09 07:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by Jean Talon 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋