My little sister,Courtney is 11. All of her life she has had siblings that were much older than her. I myself am 11, years older, and with each sibling the age range just becomes larger. I accept the fact that she's young and impressionable, does what she sees, and what not, but she's wearing thongs! Her mother (we don't have the same mom) allows her to do this, and wonders why she acts so old. Courtney, has a severe attitude problem, and talks back to everyone. I know that teenagers go through this phase, but 11 yr olds? Her mother is a BIG TIME alcoholic, and doesn't pay attention to her. But when she visit's my father's house, we always pay attention to her. Why is she doing these things at such a young age?
Do you have any advice to share?
I'm a firm believer in discipline, and I think she should have her *** beat, when she acts up. No one really punishes her for her actions, it's starting to get to me. She's is getting away with more than I ever did, growing up.
2007-01-09 06:59:41 · 10 answers · asked by lilfireyballofhate 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I think that with everything that's happend pertaining to her relationship (or lack thereof) with her mom, will make her go nuts. No doubt about it, she will need counseling before too long.
2007-01-09 07:01:06 · update #1
Jaws1013, I agree. We have taken her mother to court over her mother's drinking and driving with my sis in the car.Her mom's even had seizures in front of my sister.But the judge ruled that until there is physical proof (i.e. pics, of beer) she is to stay with her mom. The only thing I can think to say to that judge is, what if one day it's too late, and Courtney is dead. It breaks my heart to see her go through this. All of my mother's and father's children didn't exactly have the best childhood growing up either, (Due to alcohol also) but they've cleaned up and gone sober (Praise God), and we all pay attention to her. I try to get her involved in 11 yr old activities to remind her that no matter what she wants/ or thinks, she's still a kid. I love her and want the best for her.
2007-01-09 17:37:20 · update #2
She needs help in a big way, sounds like you care more about her than her own mother. While disciplining her is not your job you can admonish her and show her how she should act for her age. She's doing everything she can to get attention the wrong way because she is not getting what she needs at home. I'm assuming you share the same father, so I would suggest bringing your concerns to his attention and see if you can have her around more often and be a better influence on her than her mother is. Not for nothing someone should report her mother to the authorities, she shouldn't have this girl in her possession,
2007-01-09 07:07:37 · answer #1 · answered by jaws1013 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is a difficult situation.......she acts this way because of what you said, she wants attention, her mom is an alcoholic, that is a big problem and her mom doesn't care about her life so why should her daughter. a mentality of a 11 year old is ignorant and she has a lot of growing up to do. If you live in the U.S Go on the Maury Povich show theres a lot of similar situations like yours. The best cure for her is actually to send her to BOOT CAMP in the US. It is a hard lesson for her, but she will learn without being physically hit even if she deserves it. This is the best suggestion i have for you. just send her for a couple of weeks and when she gets out she will realize how good it was when she was at home. She will also RESPECT you all, and when you ask her something it will be 'yes sir' 'yes maam' instead of responding without any respect, I hope this helps. Even if it costs money do it, it will be better for her in the future or else she will have no future at all
2007-01-09 07:09:08 · answer #2 · answered by Butter 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My 12 yr old niece wears them too... its just what all the kids are doing. Its impossible to stop kids from growing up so fast these days... I know I wasnt like that... and you probably werent, but kids these days are, and it seems weird, but to them its totally normal. If she is talking back or acting up she should be punished, but I dont see the thongs as that big of an issue alone. Combining that with everything else, and she is asking for a beat down. Good luck
2007-01-09 07:05:35 · answer #3 · answered by Angel Eve 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like she's acting out and try to get attention anyway she can. she's getting negative attention thinking it's better than no attention at all. the reason is because she has no disipline and there are no conseqences to her actions. the child is trying to grow up too fast and will only get hurt when she gets older. i agree she does need disipline and a role model. she will most likely need counseling if she continues down this path.
2007-01-09 07:07:24 · answer #4 · answered by S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she's acting that way because that is mostly what she sees(her mother doing it) someone had better get a handle on the little miss before she ends up drinking doing drugs or knocked up!
and you think you have headaches now? see what happens if she does end up pregnant.
i agree, she does need an attitude adjustment--I'm just not sure at age 11 she needs an @ss beating.
2007-01-09 12:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by angel1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The only advice I can give is to have Cortney's dad talk to her mom. If she is messed up it is because her mom is messed up. Children need to have a nurturing environment where they can mature on their own and decide what is right and wrong from the proper influences. She needs better, more consistent role models. And I think you are right - a little tough love couldn't hurt either. Children need boundaries that are clearly visible.
2007-01-09 07:09:34 · answer #6 · answered by SBirry 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Read THE FIVE LOVE LANGUAGES by Gary Chapman. (It is an easy read) There is no doubt that she is doing it to get attention. The question is; is there some socially acceptable attention that can be given to her to make her feel loved, and so not feel the driving urge to seek attention in inappropriate ways.
2007-01-09 07:07:58 · answer #7 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't understand. You have different mothers, right? If so, then ask your mother to speak to her mother. If you have the same mother, then that would make her your sister. Take her out and buy her a bra that fits her. I don't know what "stage 2 breasts' are either. How many stages are there?
2016-05-22 23:28:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is doing it for attention! get through to her and let her know she is already trying to make the wrong decisions... be the good in her life and show her the right thing to do!
2007-01-09 07:04:42 · answer #9 · answered by ~karma~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
her dad should see that she moves in with him. If she is suffering from mental abuse or negleted, it is his right and his JOB as a parent to take her in. if he doesnt, he is contributing to the problem
2007-01-09 07:04:45 · answer #10 · answered by wonder woman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋