I love this girl alot, however we broke off... It has been 8 months, and i still can't forget her. We were supposed to get married and we even apply for a house. But then, she initiated the break off 8 months back.
I really can't forget her, it's really painful inside.... though i kept putting on a brave front, but deep inside i'm still crying.........
2007-01-09 06:53:46 · 21 answers · asked by Vodka79 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Put on your best painted on smile and "fake it till you make it."
2007-01-09 06:58:19 · answer #1 · answered by shannon d 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough thing, but it is different for everyone the amount of time it takes to get over someone. Do you two still talk? Because if she is out o your life maybe that is making it worse, or it could be opposite. Maybe you didn't give yourself any time to grieve and you need to put some space between you two for a while. Maybe you should try to talk to her, she could be feeling like she misses you too, she may not want to get back together, but she probably misses you. Another suggestion would be to try going out and meeting other people. Go on a date, let your hair down, have some fun. Or try hanging out with some friends if you have been moping around a lot not doing much. Try to lift your spirits and remember that there is always someone out there. Maybe it wasn't meant to be and now you need to find the person you are meant for.
2007-01-09 07:01:11 · answer #2 · answered by smileforawile 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As with any loss, you will never get over this; you will just learn to deal with it. And the only thing that works is time. There is no magic to fix this. You have to go through this in order to heal, so don't try to push it aside & down play it. You have to do the leg work; the day to day living, while the hurt almost smothers you that you think you can no longer breathe.
Though these are empty words, try to realize that this woman didn't realy, truly love you. It's best you get the heartache over now, than 6 years into the marriage. Talk about it to a trusted friend. And if you don't have one, call a free counselling agency in your area. That's what they're there for.
Good luck.
Trust me, I understand all TOO well.
2007-01-09 07:07:36 · answer #3 · answered by weddrev 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time is the best medicine for one to forget somebody else. Since both of you have breakoff for around 8 months, I suggest that you should learn how to put down the burden and move on with your life. There is such a saying " Don't give up a forest bcoz of a tree". There are many ladies out there who may suit you better than your ex gf. All the best to you
2007-01-09 17:14:37 · answer #4 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it's been 8 months and you still have feelings for her, why not put your pride aside and ask her out again. You can always try to start over fresh. Maybe, she just wasn't ready to get married yet. You will continue to feel that pain if you don't try to make things right again. There's no forgeting anything. The memories will be with you forever....
2007-01-09 07:02:16 · answer #5 · answered by grizzly girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its what EVERYONE says, but I really believe the best way to get over this is just to let time pass. Time really does heal all wounds. Its only been 8 months.....Its understandable that you are still upset about it. Keep up with the "brave front", one of these days it really will be easier for you.
Good luck and best wishes!
2007-01-09 07:08:43 · answer #6 · answered by AmyB 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep putting on a brave front, continue with your life ... It really takes time (sometimes up to few years) to go on. There is no need to forget her, you will remember the good and the bad days for sure, just keep on with your life looking forward to new people and new experiences.
2007-01-09 07:25:17 · answer #7 · answered by Vesna G 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry for your loss. But it sounds like you could do much better with a girl who would appreciate you. When it is time to move on you will know. And if you don't find someone out there check the internet. I went on a single site and now because of doing so I am living with and engaged to an amazing man. The site I went on is free. It is called plentyoffish.com. Good luck!
2007-01-09 07:01:34 · answer #8 · answered by poetryprincess 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I feel so bad for you, believe me. It's not easy, that I can tell you truthfully. Loving, and caring about someone takes time, and, energy. I am lucky, that I am able to feel a little pain, then, put up a brick wall. For you, all I can say is to try and go on. Try meeting new people, and hopefully, you'll meet someone new, and you'll look back and say, why did I care about this other girl in the first place. GOOD LUCK ~~~
2007-01-09 07:02:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't mention why you broke up. Whether it was another man/woman, or what brought this relationship to the end. I'm sorry your hurting so bad, but unfortunately, she made the decision, so you need to let it go. Time will heal the injury to your heart. Maybe look into seeing a therapist to discuss your feelings, they can help you get stronger so you can begin to let go. You will never forget her. You just learn to let go is all. Hope you feel better....there is life after a bruised heart, trust me!
2007-01-09 06:59:57 · answer #10 · answered by msjinx39 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am totally there with you. I proposed to the LOML(love of my life) only for her to break the engagement and relationship. It has been only a rough two months and I just hold on to memories and try to persevere on to my destined place. I do alot of praying, alot. I suggest you do the same. It isn't an easy journey, though. Just try and be strong. My heart goes out to you. Pray!
2007-01-09 07:01:28 · answer #11 · answered by Leo 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋