If a girl says "your more sensitive than other guys" is she calling u soft or is she just saying ur more understanding. Should I be meaner to people? lol. No seriously should I be rougher. I've been called an alpha male already but I think I'm living two worlds. How do I merge them? Thanks for help..
2007-01-09 06:42:16 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Look at the answers you're getting from women. Note how they all say how nice that is, how they want a guy EXACTLY LIKE you. Now ask yourself a question: do you have women beating down your door? The answer, sadly, is probably no. Women don't know what they want. They say they're attracted to one thing, but they respond to another. The answers of the women in this question are very typical. They'll say they clamor for a sensitive guy, but then you'll be relegated to the dreaded "friends" category because they're not attracted to you.
Be an alpha male. Be confident, be insensitive, be yourself. They'll cream their jeans over you, and you'll be happier as well.
2007-01-09 07:21:02 · answer #1 · answered by Steve 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Of course a girls wants a rough and tought guy, a big strong ALPHA male but they want a guy that can be sensative to "her" and that change in attitude towards her is what she will see as special treatment towards her which makes her special to you. It's showing her that she is special to you through your actions. Do not be a soft spineless weenie though, just stay the way you are and most definately do not become an insensitive jerk because than you will hear "You are so insensitive!" and there will be no question that it is in a negative manner. I am not a jerk to other people and I'm not a spineless doormat either. When it is called for I will stand up and fight and will not back down, when it is called for I will listen to reason and talk things out if it can be done. I am myself and most importantly I love my girl but like I said, when it's called for I won't put up with her crap but I will listen to what her needs and wants and try as hard as I can to fulfill them and I respect her but if I compramise with her by giving by meeting her halfway and she tries to take the whole football field, I put the law down and she might fight me about me drawing a boundary but she always tells me later on how sexy she really thinks it is that I am such a "strong man" in her own words and it's not just physical strength she is talking about...go figure. Look, you cannot merge the two, you need to balance the two and find the right balanced mix for you and the girl you are with to make her feel special amongst the other things you need to do to make her feel special, you know, give her all your free time, spend your money, tell her she's beautiful, hehehe. I hope this information and example help you figure things out rather than make you more confused.
2007-01-09 15:09:57 · answer #2 · answered by J-Dub 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being sensitive is not being soft or a puddle of mush. She means you are considerate, loving and understanding! No you should not be meaner, more people need to be more sensitive in this world. I would bargain your a door opener too. Awesome quality. If you have been dubbed an "alpha male", leave well enough alone. Enjoy the relationship and let it grow!
2007-01-09 14:49:19 · answer #3 · answered by msjinx39 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
One would have to know the context. Sensitive generally is good. Probably not about being rougher. Remember only the strong can be gentle. Think about it. If you are as strong as some wrestler, it wouldn't bother you if someone normal said you were weak. Likewise in relation to intelligence or spirituality, or anything. If you have studied something out, and are pretty sure about what you know, it won't bother you a whole lot if someone else disagrees. (does that sort of answer the question?)
2007-01-09 14:50:27 · answer #4 · answered by hasse_john 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think she means u are more sensitive. Girls see guys as people who don't like to share their feelings or how they feel, and a guy who is more sensitive will tell you how he feels no matter what. I don't think she's calling you soft, most girls would like a sensitive guy. But I wouldn't recommend being too sensitive. Girls need to feel protected and as long as you can offer her a sense of safety along with your "sensitive" side you should be okay.
2007-01-09 14:47:45 · answer #5 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The real test of character is what you do when you think no one is looking. That being said... a real man is both sensitive and macho. He knows when to use the sensitivity and when to be the protector. Example: Girls need men to be our listeners (not problem solvers) we also need men to be our rescuers (not Dads)
2007-01-09 14:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by Tabasco 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Neither is a good thing. If she means you're soft, then she'll be looking for a better deal. If she thinks you're a kind, sensitive man, then you've made yourself into "just a friend," in her mind, which is even worse. Sorry 'bout that, man.
2007-01-09 14:47:46 · answer #7 · answered by Egghead 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It may be that she's been dating guys who are all about themselves and she is simply acknowledging that you are a good listener and make her feel like she is special compared to them. If that's the case, then it's a compliment. Maybe the hidden meaning is that in the past she's dated 'hamburger' and you're 'steak and lobster.'
2007-01-09 14:50:24 · answer #8 · answered by stevijan 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a girl says that, look her sincerely in the eyes and say, "Thank you. That would mean so much to me if your opinion mattered." When she laughs uncomfortably trying to figure out if you're serious, without cracking a smile say, "That's your que to storm off in a huff." Then just stare at her expressionlessly until she walks away. Next time you see her say, "I sure had you going. You're so gullible. I MIGHT keep you around."
2007-01-09 14:52:24 · answer #9 · answered by El Guapo 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No she isnt saying you are soft. It is a good thing to be sensitive to her needs. She most likely means you listen to her when she talks, understands where she is coming from, and are kind to her. It is def. a good thing.
2007-01-09 14:46:47 · answer #10 · answered by Kari R 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋