I know we love each other. Not sure if he's cheating....a month ago, I listened to his voicemail (yes I know that was wrong of me but it's hard for me to trust) and there was a msg from a girl "I want to hang out, etc. MAYBE I'LL KISS YOU AGAIN." I freaked, confronted him,he claims it's a girl at work who pecked him when they were having a drink after work (he works at a restaurant). I believed him, but I was upset that he didn't tell me about it. I told him to cut things off with her, don't be her friend, don't talk to her on the phone, etc.....he said he felt like I was being controlling, and he swore up and down he wasn't doing anything with her. He claims he just views her as a friend, but that she is into him. I spend every night and every weekend w/my boyfriend. BUT, last night I found out that he was at his friend's house, and she was there too. He tried 2 lie 2 me about it, but I knew she was there b/c I heard her voice in the bkground - what should I do?
2007-01-09 06:14:21 · 8 answers · asked by Ashley 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am not saying this is my fault by any means, but I would like to add that I admit I am a controlling girlfriend. He NEVER goes out with his friends, he rarely hangs out with him. He was over at his friends house last night watching the football game - the reason I didn't go is b/c i could care less about football. I am not making excuses for him, just adding more information. He claims that it was his friend who called this girl (they all work together) and I actually know for a fact that he did not call her last night b/c my bf and I share a family cell phone plan and I have access to all his call logs. Prior to the kissing situation, they did talk and text, but after I confronted him the communication b/t them has gone down. And I told him last night I want it to be completely eliminated. I just don't know if I can trust him? Is it possible that he is telling the truth and just didn't want me to freak out? Am I being dumb and naiive?
2007-01-09 06:14:39 · update #1
Sounds like he's cheating on you. Move on and find a new boyfriend. May sounds hard but you know it makes sense!!
2007-01-09 06:25:16 · answer #1 · answered by blacksabbath200000 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you are being dumb, sorry for calling you that but you asked. Maybe he enjoys hanging out with her because it's a female who isnt trying to control his life? Maybe he likes to be with his friends, and not have to worry about the nagging girlfriend. It's been a year and half, and if you can't trust what your boyfriend says it's because 1) you're far too insecure (I think this is the case) or 2) he is a scum bag who would cheat on you (I do not think this is the case, because he has put up with you for a year and a half.)
It's time you put some faith into your boyfriend, or move on and find a new boyfriend that you can constantly nag until you finally push him away as well.
*edit* give me all the thumbs down you want, but that's probably what happened.
2007-01-09 14:23:30 · answer #2 · answered by speakfromspeakers 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
that's a really hard situation. It's hard to say if he's cheating or not, but the fact that he tried to lie about the girl being there is a red flag, but he may have been afraid you would get mad if you knew she was there. if she is nothing but a friend, it shouldn't be that hard to give her up. If he can't stop talking to her for you then there is something wrong. Have you tried talking to her? Not yelling, but TALKING. if she gets nasty with you, you know something's up. If not, maybe you can explain to her how uncomfortable you feel about it. Her reaction should tell you everything.
2007-01-09 14:23:56 · answer #3 · answered by krazy_chic6944 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he got his friend to set up the meeting with him and the girl who is working on him every day at work. maybe he did try to avoid her, but when a girl keeps coming on and coming on day after day, sooner or later that guy will cave because he is flattered. Oh, and really now.... she " pecked" him.???? That's how a girl kisses her brother. I guarantee... it was much more than just a peck. What you need to realize is that your controlling nature might be exactly what is pushing him into someone else's arms. lighten up on the ultimatums and hard confrontatiions. No one wants to live with a general. Soften up a bit.
2007-01-09 14:53:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he's cheating. Now what are you prepared to do for yourself? He's a boyfriend and not a husband, so you don't have any "rights" to him. If he's no longer into you, you'd better wise up and do what's right for you. Take care of yourself and stop worrying what this guy's doing or not. Yeah, you're probably "in love" with him but he's only playing you. Do you want to be the other woman? Woman Up!
2007-01-09 14:20:21 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's cheating on you. Move on and find a new boyfriend. May sounds hard but you know it makes sense!!
2007-01-09 14:19:58 · answer #6 · answered by GypsyBoy 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I think it's for you to decide. It's your life and I would hate people telling me what to do with my boy friend. If you really are stuck talk to his friends ask them if they know anything but I think you should think it out for yourself.
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2007-01-09 14:21:33 · answer #7 · answered by loopyloo5 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You admit he tried to lie to you....and you wonder if you can trust him. Well, I guess you can't. If he'll lie about little things, he'll lie about big things.
2007-01-09 14:20:10 · answer #8 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋