I an very shy so it is hard for me to just walk up to someone......also i am overweight...but still attractive...do you think that might hurt my chances of finding someone??? Only serious answers please..thanks!!
2007-01-09 06:05:39 · 15 answers · asked by sugar_n_spice 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Most important is to do what makes you comfortable! Don't feel the need to walk up to people if you're shy. Have a good time and enjoy yourself. Smile! Men will come to you, wanting to meet this attractive, vibrant, confident woman.
Your weight should not be an issue. Yes, some men may only be attracted to women with a certain body type. That just means they are not for you. This doesn't apply to all men. There are plenty of good guys out there who will love you no matter what size your pants are. If you are self-conscious about your weight, it's up to you to change it. Don't change for the sake of a man you haven't met yet...if you do decide to lose some weight, do it for you. No one will ever love you as much as you can love yourself.
The internet might be a great resource for you to meet some new guys. Try not to be afraid to meet people this way. You always hear about the horror stories, but love stories are made on the internet every day. This might help with your shyness since you control the conversation. You don't have to be self-conscious about your weight/appearance, you don't have to worry about looking or sounding silly. Poke around on some dating websites. You can always change your mind, plus it'll help you get a good idea of what you offer and what you're looking for.
Talk to your friends and let them know you're ready to date again. You might have a single buddy you can go out with to meet people and act as your wingman. Your friends may have single friends they can fix you up with. Good luck!
2007-01-09 06:23:34 · answer #1 · answered by ladyfish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I meet women at bars often. In no way does this make me a "playa" or bad guy at all, nor does it mean the women are trash. Some people just like having fun on occasion, that's never a bad thing. If a women catches my eye, it's highly unlikely for me to not go up and talk to her. I'm actually less likely to talk to someone else in a library or grocery store because it's just not an interesting environment. A few extra pounds means absolutely nothing to me, but the woman still has to know how to take care of herself, which may be identified within appearance. Although I have met many women who aren't up to my standards in bars, there have been a few that actually top the charts as far as personality. Some of them smoke, which kinda puts me off, but not all. Being shy is fine, but you have to give the right signs.
2007-01-09 14:47:57 · answer #2 · answered by Gray 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being overweight or even shy really are not a problem when it comes to dating. Perhaps you should worry more about your self-respect instead of your self-esteem. If you carry yourself well, do the best you can with what you have, always be yourself, and act in a respectful manner, you should have no problem finding your true love. Love will find you when you least expect it...it could be someone that goes to your church or someone that lives on your block or works in your building...or someone who simply sees you at the grocery store...so always look your best and hold your head high and keep a smile on your face...the one you're looking for is out there...and most likely he's looking for you too...
2007-01-09 06:15:04 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling, please do no longer make excuses for him. before everything, how severe are you about your pastime? if you're prepared to attend to fallout if it doesn't artwork? What if it does? are you able to be open at artwork, or do you want to sneak round? how are you going to're taking care of rumors, and oh sure, there'll be rumors and gossip. i might want to attend till you're literally no longer his manager to flow ahead in any respect....yet let him be the guy. Secondly, if he's no longer asking, he's no longer that in contact. he's 40 8. he's a huge boy. He can ask a lady out. let him. there is no longer some thing in this international which will keep a guy from a lady he likes/loves/needs. they are going to come across a fashion to work out you, if it ability breaking plans with the lads, getting a lot less sleep, inspite of. So till he shows you otherwise, benefit from the very shown reality that you had a great time on the zoo, and allow it go at that. also, the very reality he's telling you he has walls - enormous red FLAG. all of us have walls. we've all been damage. he's putting the degree for a helpful, it truly is no longer you it truly is me excuse. let him guy up, or go out and locate someone who will.
2016-12-28 13:04:41 · answer #4 · answered by mcilvaine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The easiest thing for a woman to do is meet men. Why do women seem to make this so hard? All it takes is the right look (eye contact) for the guy you're interested in. Once he knows you're into him, I promise you he'll be on you like paint on a wall. Your weight is not even an objection because there are guys who like big women. Just don't be turned off or hurt by a guy you like who is not into big women. Just stay with the one's who are and you'll be the happiest girl in town. I wish you were in my town 'cause I'd definitely give you some attention ;)
2007-01-09 06:11:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well a huge percent of people in the us are very over weight more then half if that mattered much then most people would be single and I think not anyway they say (who ever they are) that the best places to meet the opposite sex or what ever is places like the grocery store, the park (walking a dog), um the library....oh all over but 'they' say to stay away from bars and clubs such places attract 'players' , well I added that. Just how fat are you? just kidding. I'm getting that way myself.. better get out more often. that's my advice,
2007-01-09 06:13:53 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had pretty good relationships with a couple of overweight girls. I asked for their phone numbers because I liked the way they looked at me. That's all it took really... eye contact, a smile, and politeness. I took those signs as a green light. Considering you're probably pretty, you should have no trouble. Be at your best, and show some interest in someone.
2007-01-09 06:23:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Become active in various organizations that you are interested in. Most churches have programs for singles and you will be meeting people in a safe environment. Other places are civic associations, gyms, alumni associations, even youth programs, if you don't mind a man with kids. Good luck
2007-01-09 06:11:52 · answer #8 · answered by extra_37 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the first thing would be to lose weight. And then try finding a hobby then you can find similar people like yourself that enjoy doing the same as you.
2007-01-09 06:10:32 · answer #9 · answered by sarabmw 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It does not matter whether we think it hurts ur chances of getting one or not. Only if you DONT THINK that ur chance gets hurt...... you will for sure fail.
Think positive my dear and go for one.
Have self respect.
All the best.
2007-01-09 06:10:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋