He says he wanted freedom and be single again. We broke up but are still hanging out. What does this mean?

Question

We broke up because we felt that we needed space for each other to know new people, to experience new things as we are only 19. We were very good together and everyone expected us to be together for a long time. But maybe at a point of time, his love for me did lessen a little because of i dunno wadever reason, maybe we were too close together? (more like friends then lovers) We broke up for about 3 weeks now, but im still obsessed with him. He wants to be friends still, and still asks me out for movies and dinner. But he will tell me that it's not a date. He'll purposely say things such as, "we're not related anymore", "non of your business". just to provoke me. Because he know that i still like him. He did help in consoling me, advising me to move on and stuff. He's really a great person. I miss him dearly, but i still see him often, but its painful cuz u know that he's not urs anymore. I want to stay away from him abit, so that he will experience life without me. But i dunno how to

Answer 1

Um, sounds to me like he wants to have his cake and eat it too!

First of all, i dont think its healthy to be "obsessed with anyone, or anything. I think he was right to suggest that the two of you get to know other people. Perhaps he sensed that your feelings were more intense than he was ready for.

Im no professional or anything, but i think that part of your problem maybe that you are just so used to being with him, that you forgot what you used to do before the two of became so close, and now you can't think of anything better to do than be with him.

If what u want is for the two of you to get back together, then you need to quit accepting his invitations to "hang out." Find something eles to do or, all eles fails lie and tell him that you're doing something eles.

Since yall are broken up, but keep doing the same stuff yall were doing when yall were together, then he really doesnt have any reason to want to get back together with you, because he still gets to spend time with you while being free to spend time with whomever eles. Plus im sure he knows how u feel about him, and thinks of you as his safety net, if he future romanitc endeavos fail. And besides, it sounds like he already has a life outside of you, so you should get a life outside of being with him.
I suggest you get a new a hobby, and don't let it become an obsession.

Answer 2

I don't know his exact intention but it sounds like he might want to date someone else to experiment but he doesn't want to really leave you or let you be with someone else. You need to talk to him and tell him you need to stop seeing him or else it doesn't seem like you are giving each other space. Make sure you tell him that you are very much in love with him but you will set him free and if he comes back to you when he is ready he's yours and if he doesn't then he never was. This was a beautiful little saying that my ex gave me when we broke up. He did come back to me and it was my fault for not waiting. We are still friends even though I'm married.

Answer 3

well try to stay away for as long as u can keep ur mind busy so u dont think of him as often i know this is going to be a challenge fo ru but if it works right he will begain to miss u like crazy hell actually think u hav emoved on then hell be upset with himself thinking y did i let her get away then hell start calling u dont answer u will be busy about two wekks of him mising u like crazy pick up the phone or open the door then just agree to hang out act like it doiesnt bother you then hel will want u back move solow u dont want things to end up the same way they were good look keep in touch hope it works out in your favor

Answer 4

Sweetie, I will tell you this. You need to stop talking to him entirely - he basically wants his cake and eat it too! He doesn't want to be in a relationship wiht you but he still wants to spend time with you (I'm sure he DOES care for you) but he's making you his OPTION not his PRIORITY. Haven't you heard that phrase, never make someone your priority when you are only their option? Trust me I have been through it when you want to be with someone so much but they break up with you - you just need to cut ties with him....don't talk to him, don't hang out with him. I mean shoot, maybe if you cut ties with him he will realize what a huge mistake he made and want you back! But how can he miss you if you're always there?

Answer 5

Been there, done that. Its hard i know. What you need is some one else to take your mind off him. Its true get yourself out there and meet someone . Soon you will wonder what you ever saw in him, and you have got to say no thanks i have other plans the next time he wants to go out.

Answer 6

girl you have to move on.you have proven your love to him when you're together.as i see it,he got tired of you(im sorry)..maybe you're the one who needs space coz you cant get over him..try to go with your friends without him coz the more you see him,the more chances of not getting over him..explore your potentials girl..dont build your world around him.you can do it though i know it aint easy.help yourself get over him..you can do better than that..give your love to someone who deserves it,someone who will not get tired of you..try to avoid him for a while.if he asked you why you're avoiding tell him your trying to move on without him and you cant do it if he keeps on asking you out.you can be a friend to him only when you're ready.know what im saying?go girl!you can do it ;)

Answer 7

just try and takl to him andtell him you still really lik him and ask him how he feels about you...if you get a bad answer hen just try your hardest to move on.. i know its hard but you gotta push through it

Answer 8

means u need to stop being psycho