we met six months ago.......when we met he asked me alot of questions? like what religon am i in? would i ever want to move out of state to another to live? Do I want children? Do I want to get married in the future? we have crossed the line with us just being friends he introduced me to all his friends and his co workers. he is always telling me what his mom will expect from a girl that he takes home, he tells me what his mom will not like from a girl that he's with. he's always telling me personal stuff about his family and will ask me for advice on what they should do or what he should do about it. i'm confused one day he sounds like he's interested and then one day we sound like we are just friends. I'm afraid to ask him where we stand i just got out of a 4 year relationship and he always tells me the way i act that if a guy wanted me that he will have no chance. how can i show him that i'm ready to give him a chance? I feel that im ready. after 6 months of knowing him.
2007-01-09 06:01:07 · 9 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Just tell him. No need for some big presentation, just flat out let him know that you want to take your relationship to the next level. He may be feeling the same way. He might not know exactly how to approach you about it because you just got out of a long term relationship and don't want to get rejected thinking you are not ready to "jump back in" to a new relationship. Life is too short, just think about how much the two of you are missing out on wasting time being scared to show your feelings. Go for it.
2007-01-09 06:10:05 · answer #1 · answered by Golden 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well ShyGirl if you could get over a bit of that shyness you might better be able to communicate your feelings with him. It seems pretty obvious to this old guy that he appears to be putting out some fishing line to see how interested you are in him. He may also be a bit shy and not able to come right out and let you know that you are just the type of woman that his mother would approve of. Sounds like your quite interesting in him, life is way to short to allow opportunities like this pass you by. Be brave and show him you have some backbone and confront him with your thoughts and feelings. Best of luck.
2007-01-09 14:11:24 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like he was hurt from someone else in the past and like he is being way too cautious. Put some moves on and see what happens. Just let the relationship progress naturally. If he is telling you how to be and how to act, etc. then he is not right for you.
2007-01-09 14:11:51 · answer #3 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy is in the same spot you're in. He might be hinting around to see if you're ready for a relationship, without coming out and asking. Guys do that sometimes to avoid rejection. If you feel like you're ready to start a relationship with him, talk to him. The sooner you do the better. Good luck!
2007-01-09 14:10:37 · answer #4 · answered by Candie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I have a different take on this than most who responded, although they had thoughtful advice!
You say that when you met he began asking probing questions [a bit early wouldn't you say?]
His repeated references to his mother are a danger signpost IMHO...
Also you just got out of a long term relationship and really should give yourself a year or so of just getting re-acquanited with YOURSELF before getting right back into another one.
2007-01-09 14:19:18 · answer #5 · answered by sage seeker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would have a little talk over dinner or drinks or a mocha. Tell him you like him more than just friends and are confused as to how he feels because he fluxuates from one day to the next. It this because you haven't told him how you feel? Maybe he feels like he might be being pushy. It sounds like you should go ahead and tell him how you feel.
2007-01-09 14:08:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you suspect he's interested, then I say meet him halfway. Tell him how you feel. Sometimes when we take chances, good things happen and bad things happen; but if we never take that chance, then nothing will happen.
Go for it! Step outside your comfort zone!
2007-01-09 14:08:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would just ask him where he sees the relationship going. Better to know now than get hurt later.
2007-01-09 14:06:11 · answer #8 · answered by Diamond24 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you feel you ready then start your relationship, personally i think yall better off friends
2007-01-09 14:07:19 · answer #9 · answered by Steeler Nation: 6 Time Champs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋