I've been with my boyfriend for 5 years (this valentines day) and we always talk about getting married after or around the time we graduate, which is around feb 14 2009. He hasnt exactly proposed yet but we still talk about it. I even have a promise ring that looks like an engagment ring. Anyways, is it way to soon to plan ahead?
2007-01-09 05:56:58 · 28 answers · asked by ♥RN♥ 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
I would like Navy and Silver as my colors!! What do you think?
2007-01-09 05:57:23 · update #1
It's not that im being eager,we dont have alot of money. I want to plan as far ahead as I can. He brought it up the other day, he said " So do you want to get married in Feb before we graduate"? So no, dont try to make me feel stupid
2007-01-09 06:13:52 · update #2
Is anyone even reading this? Gz Im not the werido here. WE as in HIM and I TALK about it the only reason he hasnt proposed is he wants to be able to purchase me a bigger ring. (i dont care how big it is)
2007-01-09 06:18:33 · update #3
About a year to a year and a half is good to start planning. Its always good to save ideas or if you see something(dress, invitations etc) that you like in a magazine to cut them out and put in a notebook for the future. Style change and so do people so you never know what you might want in 2 yrs, it may be totally different then what you would like now. Its best to book a place a yr in advance and send out save the dates or if the place is very popular you could book it even earlier than that...it might be hard to get an opening.
Navy and silver can be nice...it sounds very maritime-ish or yacht like. you may change your mind
Colors also can depend on the kind of wedding you want
champagne golds--romantic
black, reds, silver--elegant
pinks--feminine
its never to early to do research though, good luck
2007-01-09 06:05:39 · answer #1 · answered by ridinghipshot 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
OMG you are getting way too ahead of the game. You start planning for a wedding once you are actually engaged!!! Which you are not so there should be no wedding bells in your near future. I mean you don't even foresee an engagement until 2009 that's like 2 whole years away!!! I have been engaged for a year and 8 months and am getting married this year. I started planning a month after the engagement and have used every moments and will continue until the BIG DAY. My advise to you is don't assume anything. Do not plan anything you never know what the future holds. Two years is such a long time and anyways you may completely creep the guy out. Planning a wedding without even being engaged places you under psycho-girlfriend status. I mean what's next painting the baby nursery & picking out baby names?? Have you seen how to loose a guy in 10 days?? If not I advise you rent it. If your goal is not to loose him them wait for the ring don't be weird!!
2007-01-09 14:15:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am planning my wedding as well, even going so far as reserving a date in September of 2008. I've been with my guy for about a year and 9 months, even though we met in 2004, although 1 year was spent apart due to a nasty split. We got back together in October 2006 and some issues surfaced this month but we're still together, so I don't think anything will drive us apart. I am turning 30 this year and went to a friends' wedding a week ago, so that might have fueled it all out.
I had already decided on the gown after attending my friend's wedding in 2004, a few months after meeting my bf.
I really don't think it's that bad to prepare for a wedding you know will happen. I want to get married by next year and that means I have to plan now.
As for telling his friends and your friends, maybe hold that off until getting the ring. But if you know he is the one and he feels the same, then there is no way to call it 'psycho'. It's just being prepared.
2007-01-12 09:43:45 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Start saving now so when he does make a proper proposal you will already be ahead of the game. Maybe take 20 or 30 dollars out of each of your paychecks and put it into a high rate savings account and leave it there. If things don't go as planned take divide the money in 1/2 and go your separate ways. I would wait until after you graduate as this will also be a stressful exciting time and you will want to enjoy the feeling of both. If you are lucky and your parents are paying for the wedding start gathering ideas now but don't actually plan the wedding until you have set a date.
2007-01-09 14:31:27 · answer #4 · answered by 2littleiggies 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, it's not too soon to plan ahead and start gathering ideas, especially since it sounds like you're both on the same page. (I'm assuming you mean that you'll be graduating from college/university in 2009, not high school?) And it's certainly not too early to start saving a little bit of money specifically for the wedding.
I don't necessarily agree with everyone who says you should wait until he proposes - it sounds like you're both pretty sure about it. One thought though: if you start planning too much before you're actually "engaged", you may find that it takes some of the initial excitement out of the proposal and engagement. (It may be sort of anti-climactic - you'll tell people "I just got engaged! ... but I bought my dress and booked the venue and ordered the flower a few months ago...".)
But go ahead and plan... some girls have their weddings planned out before they even have a groom in mind - at least this way, you can both plan and dream together. Best of luck.
2007-01-09 15:25:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No its nt to early to get some ideas together, but I would wait to make any arrangements, like reserving a hall, church, DJ etc until you actually get engaged and set a date. (You would need a date for most of the things you reserve anyway)
Navy and silver is more of a winter wedding, and just a tip, if you marry in Jan or Feb you can get major discounts as those months are not "priority months" for weddings (like June which you will pay top dollar for) I would strongly suggest you wait a while after you graduate because you both want to be settled in your careers first, but that is not a must, just a good idea.
But for now if you want to get started, get a 3 ring binder and buy some bridal magazines and search the internet to get some ideas of things you like and might want. Keep them in your binder and when the time comes to really start planning and purchasing you will be really prepared and organized.
Best of luck!
2007-01-09 14:31:39 · answer #6 · answered by kateqd30 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's wonderful that you're so excited (I love thinking ahead too!) and thinking about it. Go ahead and imagine your colors (they sound lovely), but I wouldn't get a wedding planbook or anything.
The prospective wedding is still quite far off (so there's no rush) and it's not a bad idea to see how you guys fare in the post-graduation world before getting married (that's the plan with my boyfriend at least). That said, if he is still serious about it, he'll propose a while before the time anyway, though you could drop some hints about thinking ahead planning-wise and gauge his reaction.
Good luck and have fun!
2007-01-09 14:16:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My advice would be to start saving money for the wedding. Maybe open a special savings account just for that purpose. You could also start looking around to see what type of wedding you would like - location, size, etc. I definitely would not put any deposits down or purchase anything until you have an engagement ring and a date definitely set.
Regardless - if it doesn't work out, you'll still have extra money in the bank!
2007-01-09 17:04:47 · answer #8 · answered by duritzgirl4 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Two years is too far ahead to plan a wedding for a few reasons. First off things change, and Im not talking about the relationship so please don't take it like that. I am taking about your tastes, where you are in life both location and financially and thats two years of stress. I gave myself 10months to plan. For some that is to short for others plenty of time. I say no more than a year and no less than 6months. But since you sound super excited you can always plan the little things now. Colors, wedding party, general location, type of wedding, type of ceremony etc... In the end its up to the two of you. Start saving now though because let me tell you the costs add up quick. Congrats!
2007-01-09 15:17:04 · answer #9 · answered by Tamra 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Never hurts to plan ahead, however I would at least wait till he actually pops the question. Wouldn't be a bad idea to start saving some money for it. oh and I think your colors sound pretty. Good luck
2007-01-09 14:00:49 · answer #10 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋