I feel stressed out and I tend to get anxious about what my BF is doing, due to the fact that I have had some relationships end with another woman.
Anyways, I told him we should break up cause he's 22 and I'm 17, and he got depressed and started crying. He was bawling and I felt bad.
Today, we were just plain pissed at each other. He was mad cause I really didn't have a good excuse for breaking up with him and I was just stressed and angry from everything else in my life. While we were arguing he called me the c-word, I told him to eat sh** and die, then logged off my yahoo.
God, I hate this. Idk why I did it now. I love him and he loves me and I did all of this out of anxiety and stress. He did absolutely nothing and I took it out all on him. He spent 7 hours trying to convince me that we shouldnt break up cause he gives a damn about me.
So, what should I do now? What can I say to him? I know I screwed up and damn it all idk how to fix it now...help!!!
2007-01-09 05:53:05 · 17 answers · asked by cattys_cats 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
just a lil note: we've never had sex, nor will we til I'm fully legal.
2007-01-09 06:03:43 · update #1
he just crumpled the love letter i wrote to him like 2 weeks ago...
2007-01-09 06:06:41 · update #2
Call him and tell him you want to get together and talk. Then tell him how you really feel about him and that you made a very big mistake, give him make-up sex, and move on together.
2007-01-09 06:00:12 · answer #1 · answered by hottimesforallwomen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Janey's 10 step's to making up!:
(get out a pen and paper and take this step by step)
1) Pray about it first thing. Just ask for strength and understanding and patience.
2) Make a list of things you like and don't like about him and how he treats you. Don't let the "if's and's and butt" (haha) get in your way when making the negative side. Start by writing down "He feels too old for me" since you've already said that.
3) Meditate, and try to sink into his body and, see the world, see -you- from his persepctive. Imagine what he worries about, thinks about, hopes to do someday, then remember those things you felt and ask him about them later, and see if that's how he really feels.
5) Apologise. Don't blubber on and on like you know we girls can do when we're really apologetic for something we've said. Saying something mean feels ~so~ good when you say it, but then you just feel the drawn out agony and greif for saying something that... you really didn't mean. It's also very mature to say you're sorry first, and, following your example he's sure to say he's sorry too.
6) Examine your life goals. Does this guy enhance or, distract you from your daily life? Maybe a reason why you're so stressed out is because, he's getting in the way of other priorities. The answer may be no, too, so don't keep digging for a problem that doesn't exist if there isn't one. =]
7) Ask yourself: Do I love -him- for who -he is- or how he acts, because of how he makes me -feel-. At this step, look back on the list you made of pro's and con's. I promise you, none of those con's are ever going to change, so if you really say and mean you love -him-, that side of the list would be relatively small, and was hard to think things up for.
8) Take a break from this list and your thoughts. =) Go watch TV and curl up with a blanket or take a long walk or call one of your friends who's always hyper-happy (so much so it's contageous), maybe play with a pet. You know they love you. :3
9) Be patient and wait to talk to your boyfriend. When he does come online, be patient because he hasn't worked through any of his feelings yet like you have. The feeling's still raw, so be understanding of whatever mood he's in.
10) Tell him everything that's on your mind. Also, tell him that you're glad you two fought, because the more a couple fights and triumphs over their problems, the stronger and closer they grow.
Good luck to you, I'll pray for you.
2007-01-09 06:14:08 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to take a break for a while to get your life and act in a less stressful situation or chill out. You just put so much more stress in your life now when all you needed to do was to think things out before you reacted. If you don't try and trust and take chances in life then all your relationships are going to be messed up and you will never be in one. Leave your past relationships out of your new ones. Give the poor guy a chance and learn to relax. Enjoy what he is giving you NOW and don't worry about the things that may NEVER happen. If by SLIM chance it did then you will cross that bridge then and just learn from it......Life and relationships is about taking risks and chances that's how we learn and grow.
2007-01-09 06:09:49 · answer #3 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure that this is what you want to do. You can't make any decisions until you know for sure that you know what you want to do and if it's be with him then just flat out tell him. I used to do the same thing with my ex but it was different because he was the reason why I was so upset. The problem came in because I would think that I've forgiven him for something and then I would get mad later and take it out on him because really I was still upset. If you want him, make sure that you tell him and then when you get in those moods like you want to break up or you get mad, just go somewhere for awhile and relax by yourself and when you feel better then you go and spend time with him. It's OK to separate when you get upset. Not break up, but go somewhere until you calm down. It's probably better that way.
Good luck boo
2007-01-09 06:03:02 · answer #4 · answered by Brownie_baby 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, maybe you should try talking to him about serious things in person and not online (you said you logged out of your yahoo).
If you want him back - simply tell him that! Tell him exactly what you told us - that you were just stressed out and you're sorry that you took things out on him. But before you do that, just be 100% sure that you really do want to get back with him. It's kind of dumb for him to say that you didn't have a "good reason" for breaking up with him - do you really need a "good reason"? And what qualifies as a good reason? If you're not happy then that's a good enough reason!
Again, just talk to him in person about this and try to be calm and mature....just be honest and speak from your heart!
2007-01-09 05:57:50 · answer #5 · answered by Ashley 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should think about everything and if you realize that you truly do love him and i'd like to continue the relationship, call him, don;t hestiate, let him know what is truly in your heart and if he loves you the way you think he does, then he will accept you back and make it work, and try to take your stress and do something constructive with it instead of taking it out on others, perhaps some type of hobby. God Bless.
2007-01-09 06:01:04 · answer #6 · answered by latina ♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweety you should just call him and tell him that you are sorry and ask for his forgiveness and if that doesn't work bring him his favorite food. Tell him that you are sorry for overreacting and that even though you said some things you disn't mean you still love him and that isn't going to change for a long time if it changes at all. Everyone wants to have that one special person in their life and I think that your that person. I don;t know yet but, you are for now anyway. I'm sorry and I loe you and I hope you forgive me.
2007-01-09 06:05:03 · answer #7 · answered by lilangel02babe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first issue is that he is 22 and you are 17 which makes your situation highly illegal. If he were smart he would leave you alone until you are 18.
2007-01-09 05:57:13 · answer #8 · answered by tchem75 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u guys should really sit down and talk about it with out a fight because if u cant sit there and talk about it well both of u guys are just waisting ur time im sorry to say i wish the best for both of u good luck
2007-01-09 05:59:22 · answer #9 · answered by LifesJourney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to meet eachother some where and talk about the whole thing truthfuly not holding anything back.
2007-01-09 05:58:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋