why dont you want to do things for them forever . what if they dont want to move out
2007-01-09 05:53:02 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Parenting
Because eventually we all have to do it on our own. The younger our children learn to be self sufficient, the easier it is for them to adjust to the adult world.
And tough if you want to live with your parents forever. It shouldn't happen that way. You should want to grow up and be an adult. Independent. What a boring, incomplete life to live with your parents forever.
Oh, and not to mention that your parents will eventually pass away. What will you do then?
2007-01-09 06:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by FaerieWhings 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because I want them to be independent. I think once they reach a certain age it will be time for them to go find a job get a place of there own and start there own life. I will support my children threw college and a little after. But there is no way I would have a 30 year old mooching off of me.
I would still love to help them out forever. As long as they are working for them self and helping them self I would not mind helping them out financially if they needed it. I think The parenting never goes away no matter how old they are you want what is best for them and to help them in any way that you can!
2007-01-09 13:59:37 · answer #2 · answered by booker K 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because you're not raising a baby - you're raising an adult. Everything you teach and show them today reflects what kind of adult they will be. A girl should grow up to be independent and smart and *want* to live on her own and support herself. A boy should learn all the same things. And they should both learn to take care of their own responsibilities - but if you're "babying" them, they'll never learn those things. Without teaching them the basic skills in life, you are almost guaranteed an unsuccessful adult child. Instead of feeling like less of a mom because they're doing things on their own and not needing you, be PROUD that you were the one to show them how to do that on their own - you did a good thing as a good parent!
2007-01-09 14:16:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anna 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Teaching your children to become self-sufficient adults are all part of growing up. After the age of 18, if they are not off to college, they need a job to support themselves, insurance, money to live, etc. If they are not taught how to act on their own, how will they function in society.
My children started working at 16, not because they had to, but because they needed to learn what it was to earn a dollar, and how to manage it. They both had cars at 16, which we provided, but they had to pay the insurance and fuel to operate it. Since that time, my son has graduated, decided not to go to college, but is working as a seaman on an offshore tug, making over $200 a day. He has purchased another vehicle on his own, paying his own bills, and renting his own apartment... all at the age of 19. My daughter has been accepted into college and will start in the summer. I think this proves my point.
I will help them if they need help, but do I want to support them forever... no. And regarding moving out, if you make it a point to raise them as self sufficient children, they will grow up to be self sufficient adults, and will not want to stay under the parents roof forever.
2007-01-09 14:29:37 · answer #4 · answered by deanie1962 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I want my kids to do things for themselves so that when they are old enough to move out they will be able to. Why would I want my son at 32 to still be living with me, and I having to cook his meals and wash his clothes? I want my kids to be independent, well adjusted and successful in life. I make them do stuff there selves because I love them, and because I know they can do it.
2007-01-09 14:32:36 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not that I don't want to do things for them forever, I just can't. I personally don't have the capacity to take care of them for that long and will not always be there for them.
2007-01-09 14:20:38 · answer #6 · answered by cutie pie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well being independent is part of growing up and being a responsible adult. I want my child to grow up be confident and self- sufficient and learning to do things on her own will teach her that.
2007-01-09 13:57:00 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everyone needs to be able to do things for themselves, be independent. If not, what will they do when you are gone? Do you want them to be unprepared and maybe marry someone just to be taken care of?
2007-01-09 22:30:21 · answer #8 · answered by sheila t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
we make our kids do things for them selfs so they learn to take care and clean up after them selfs so we arent stuck with a bunch of lazy 40 yr olds in our home. and it prepares them for when we arent here any more so its important for young ppl to learn how to manage on there own with out depending on there parents all the time because when your parents arent there to suport and take care of you any more who is going too? thats right you you will have to take care of your self money wise and everything. and besides after giving and giving to you for 18 yrs isnt it time you do for your self so they can do for there selfs?
2007-01-09 14:59:38 · answer #9 · answered by cute redhead 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, we want our children to grow both within mind and spirit. We want them to use their brains and dictionaries...speaking of which...themselves, don't..blah..you should pay attention in English class.
2007-01-09 14:01:19 · answer #10 · answered by DeCaying_Roses 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋