Im still a vergin and im thinking of haveing sex with my g/f for the first time im 22 and scared she wont think im good at it.
2007-01-09 05:47:38 · 38 answers · asked by zilla_bird 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The right time to begin enjoying the act of making love will vary with each and every individual. Maturity level, age, respect for self and partner, and believe that your are truly sharing a wonderful moment all should also be variables when considering seriously of becoming sexually active. My step daughter (who is very open with both her mother and myself) lost her virginity at age 17 to a fella that at the time she felt was the right time. Today however she readily admits that this choice she made a couple of years ago was a big mistake and says if she could take it back she would. I am not trying to sound too old her but in today's generation it appears that a lot of youth are becoming much more sexually active then people of the generation in which I grew up. It is not uncommon nowadays to have a hard time finding a person who is still a virgin at age 13 or 14. A lot of these young people are very confused and relate having sex to being in love with the boyfriend of the week or think that it makes them look older if they partake in this activity. Most (like majority of youth) are just thinking of the instant gradification and not weighing out the long term consequences of their actions. So please do not feel ashamed or embarrassed that you remain a virgin at your age. Myself I believe that your girlfriend will not only be honoured that she is the first woman that you will share your sex life with, but will have an added respect for you for not having lost it prior to her. Best of luck to you and please do not worry about how things will go as it will be very natural and loving. Bravo for respecting your body for so long!!
2007-01-09 06:04:16 · answer #1 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Nobody is "good" at it the first few times and if it turns out terrific it's usually not something you did on purpose.
If you've decided not to wait until you're married, at 22 you should be emotionally mature enough.
Just remember that no birth control is 100% safe and if you have a baby do you want this person in your life for the next 21 years.
2007-01-09 05:53:43 · answer #2 · answered by daljack -a girl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, congratulations on being one of the rare people to actually make it to 22 while still being a virgin! You are a rare person in today's society.
Second--WAIT UNTIL YOU ARE MARRIED! God made sex to be a loving, intimate act between a husband and a wife--not a throw-away act that can be bought and sold (that is what man has done to sex). Sex is one of the most intimate things you can do with another person, so wouldn't you rather give all of yourself to your wife on your wedding night rather than only giving a part of yourself (if you break up with your current g/f and marry someone else, then your current g/f will always have a piece of you--sounds strange I know). I honestly believe that when a couple engages in that most private of private acts, their souls are joined--and they cannot be separated. Oh sure, you can go on to someone else and have sex with them also, but then your soul splits again. Be true to yourself, and realize that you are a valuable person--so valuable that your wife deserves to have all of you. Wouldn't you rather marry someone who had only been with you rather than someone who had been around the block a few times?
2007-01-09 05:54:01 · answer #3 · answered by completenerd 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the right time in ur personal opinion. It is the right time whenever you feel ready, not when anyone else says you're ready. If you're gf does not think you're good at it and dumps you for that, then she was not worth it anyway. A person should love you for you. And as far as you know, she may not be good at it anyway. You'll never know what can happen and nobody can predict it so its all up to you. Just make sure that the time is right and its with the right person or you'll have regrets and you'll have to live with that. Well good luck and be safe.
2007-01-09 05:52:45 · answer #4 · answered by Jayde 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The greatest gift you can bring to your marriage is being a virgin. You have waited and have been strong till now - why not wait a little longer? If you love this girl - and sex should be reserved for someone that you love - then maybe it's time to take the plunge (not by having sex before your married - but by getting married to her!) I got married when I was 22!;)
2007-01-09 05:55:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends on when you are ready. Dont be scared you wont be good, chances are you wont :) just the way it is, but if she knows it is your first time, she will work with you and you will get better. I know i think it is sexy when I can teach a boy exactally what I like. Just be open about it, dont be afraid to talk her about it. But make sure you are doing this for you and that this girl will be with you after the deed is done. If she cares about you, this isnt a big deal to her, and you have nothing to stress over.
2007-01-09 05:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by kt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex not occur before:
1. You are ready to deal with a pregnancy, should it occur
2. You are ready to deal with an STD, should it occur
3. When you know how a woman can become pregnant (all the ways it can occur)
4. When you know what the various STDs are and how they are transmitted and how to help protect against them
5. When you are ready to insist you/r partner wear a condom (the male)
6. When you are on a reliable form of birth control and using it properly (if female)
7. When you are ready to deal with any emotional issues that may come from being intimate with another person
Until you've got those things covered, you should not have sex.
2007-01-09 05:52:36 · answer #7 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she already knows you're a virgin she will respect the fact that you've waited till her and she won't care how the first few times go. For women it's all about the intimacy. And don't worry it definitely gets better with practice, but the first time is always a little akward, it's too be expected. She'll just love the fact that you care enough about her to lose your virginity with her. Good luck, but you'll be just fine!
2007-01-09 05:52:22 · answer #8 · answered by tntrouse 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the best time is right in the middle of a hot and heavy necking session away from her house if she is going to perform anything oral on you she will need to know she can't be caught in the act and the same goes for you too. If you aren't pleasing her orally then why on earth would she need you to make love to her? All the kissing, licking, nibbling, little bites, scrapes, sucks and massages lead up to each next step in loving. Because each little step gets you to the next level. When the greatness of total harmony in bed is at the point where both you and she knows that what happens next will change your lives, please use a rubber and don't come in her for God's sake and your own. You better damn well know all your signs leading to your own ejaculation and ......Pull out first, But you should
2007-01-09 06:04:08 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur Richards of Kent 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The first time will be disappointing for both of you, usually. This is expected, and won't be held against you.
Many prudes are telling you to wait until marriage. ignore them. There are a few men that want a virgin wife, but those prude dried up old biddies have already hooked both of those freaks. The rest of us want to test drive before we buy, and a wife who is not sexually repressed is highly desireable.
We don;t want a slut... but we don't want a fridgid old bat that just lays there and takes it like we are abusing her either. Sex is fun, use a condom and enjoy it.
2007-01-09 05:53:35 · answer #10 · answered by Jay 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋