okay so my mil decided she is not speaking to me. I have been embarrassed several times in public becuz i chose to greet her anyway just to be snubbed. After repeatedly trying to be nice inspite of, i decided to just pretend she is not even around. This was great becuz i knew she was waiting on the opportunity to snub me and get the power she thrives on. It felt really good to be in control of the situation rather than look stupid. Okay.. silly...but you have to know the hell ive been thru with her to understand. Anyway, once i got home, i felt bad becuz i know that was not the Christian thing to do. IS it really wrong if i know she is not going to speak and I have done nothing wrong for her to act this way.
2007-01-09 05:47:37 · 10 answers · asked by careful 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
What is a mil?
Whatever a mil is...I don't see why you felt bad for ignoring a rude person. That is usually the best way to handle a bad attitude.
2007-01-09 05:50:38 · answer #1 · answered by ÜFÖ 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If you have an issue with your mother in law it would be in both of your best interests to work it out. Families are easily destroyed by little things like this. Maybe you need to enlist help outside your family, like a counselor. It sounds like she has issues, maybe you do as well. A good counselor could get to the bottom of this in a neutral environment. Otherwise seek help for yourself in dealing with this and understanding it. Then you will know how to proceed a little more clearly. You won't feel guilty then either when you make your decision. Good luck to you.
2007-01-09 13:55:35 · answer #2 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the answer to this one. Yea! Honey, you hold the all the aces in this deck. You take care of her sweet little boy and keep him loving you, you will be raising her grandchildren and if she wants in on the love and fun, she has to shape up. Don't placate her anymore. Once you have offered friendship and forgiveness, the ball is in her court. Do not badmouth her to your husband. Do not put HIM in the position of having to take up for her. Accept the fact she is a shrew and go on with your life. If it makes her feel bad to be around you, so be it. Let your husband go alone to her house, with your blessing. Just say, I make your mom uncomfortable. I promise you, you will not win by putting her down, but do not put yourself in a place of being belittled. Keep your self-respect. It may take some time, but you WILL WIN this one. I am the mother in law to my son's wife...and I know one thing for sure. It is the wife that sets the tone for the house, and she makes the holiday lists. If I want on that list, I will not be irritating to her. Actually, we get along great, but I am not going to push the line and alienate her or my son from me with pettiness.
2007-01-09 14:03:35 · answer #3 · answered by brensbren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the first response would be to snub her back & I have done this myself. As a Christian, religion doesn't matter, we are supposed to show the same love that Jesus showed us. He would have never snubbed anyone. Show her the same kindness that you would like her to treat you with. Makes you the better person anyway.
2007-01-09 13:55:46 · answer #4 · answered by Amanda 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Everyone must speak once, if you keep approaching her, trust me it works. You have to persistent, even though you may look like a fool and feel like one, you will know what you did was right. Try as hard as you can to reconcile with her and if she doesn't respond, you will feel it, when you know that you have to stop. You can only do a certain amount to do your best to reconcile with her. Don't forget to pray, never under estimate the power of prayer!
God bless! x
2007-01-09 13:53:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is a mil?
bible doesnt say you have to put up with immature people *shrug*
it says turn the other cheek but sounds to me like youve done that a few times. i think your in the clear.
2007-01-09 13:50:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You hold no responsibility to anothers actions.
As long as you do not place a stumbling block at your mother in laws feet, then I would say it is ok to ignore her as she ignores you.
The danger comes in though, when you wish her ill, or other wise bear bad fruit or thought in yourself over her.
Always forgive, and love.
You are not required to associate or talk, but you are required to forgive.
2007-01-09 13:53:45 · answer #7 · answered by Honesty is the best policy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not sure what a mil is but from a christian perspective i wouldn't completely write her off, just keep your distance and pray about it.
2007-01-09 13:53:44 · answer #8 · answered by tee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Mother in Law, I assume.
I'm not a Christian, but I reckon ignoring someone who's being a jerk to you isn't too wrong.
2007-01-09 13:53:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, there is nothing unChristian about ignoring someone who ignores you.
grace2u
2007-01-09 13:52:07 · answer #10 · answered by Theophilus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋