I met a girl after she gave me her number and met for coffee. She felt very comfortable with me from the get go because was beet red alot when I talked to her and she would extend her arm out towards me with her palms up and ask me a lot of questions about myself. She also had me sip her drinks a couple times, and asked me if I wanted to go out for drinks with her at a nice mexican restaurant after coffee. Her and I flirted some more and she laughed at practically anything I said. She also wanted to show me her new house she was trying to buy.and when I asked her for dinner she smiled broadly and said "I'd love to".
We were supposed to go out again tonight and she hasnt' returned my calls. What's the deal? It's been a week now and she's always returned my calls and has taken lengths to get in touch with me.
I know it's not me. Or is it? Why are they usually so insincere?
2007-01-09 05:45:20 · 14 answers · asked by heymanchase 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
perhaps things came up and she is busy. A family member dies, cat/dog is sick, or something. If you have only went out once then you are not in the "loop" on what is going on in her life. She might call back at a later time. Or maybe she was dating other men as well as you and one of the guys is becoming more than just a "date". I've dated several guys at the same time but when one starts to become my boyfriend I drop the other guys.
OR perhaps she is rude and insincere. There are people out there like that.
2007-01-09 05:52:54 · answer #1 · answered by Gwenith O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She just wants to be friends! In some girls minds, there is nothing wrong about accepting an invitation to go eat or asking a guy to go see a house with her. And the other stuff you mentioned about her touching your arm, she's probably just a flirty kind of girl. That's the problem, she just wanted a new friend and you probably showed some sign that you wanted to be more than that, so she's probably trying to let you know that she's not interested in being more that friends with you by ignoring you. I've done the same exact thing that she has.
Honestly, don't listen to the other comments that are being posted about how she might not be ignoring you, cuz SHE IS! It's been a week! You really should think about trying to meet someone else.
2007-01-09 14:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by Rachel S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she is either away or has had other things to deal with or wants nothing to do with you.
Going ga ga over sipping drinks is childish, it doesn't mean crap, I've had girls I've met that night ask to do that.
And the term "nice mexican restaurant" is an oxymoron as there is no such thing as any "nice" place would have been americanized.
She could have met someone else, she could have been mauled to death by a badger, or sold into slavery by the california rasins whatever the reason don't put all your eggs in one basket.
2007-01-09 13:51:57 · answer #3 · answered by bluto blutarsky2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you were on the right tract. Unfortunately women can be wonderful creatures when they are one on one but able to hide whats truly going on in their minds with the best of them. Chances are is that she has a past and somehow that's coming into conflict with a possible new relationship. even if you know what her past is, it is often hard for people in general to move on a take that bold step into another relationship. If it's right, then maybe she will come around.
2007-01-09 13:54:08 · answer #4 · answered by garo g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its a girls way of telling u that she doesnt want to be with you! im sorry to say that but its true we cant call u and be like we dont want to see u because yall always have something cute to say to make us feel bad then we change our minds again so really i think its best if u just stop calling her and let her have time to her self to see if she still feels the same way about you.
2007-01-09 13:52:39 · answer #5 · answered by amber j 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could be just something has come up. I mean one day my father was fine the next he had a stroke. I had many calls I couldn't return right away so all I can say is things come up you don't expect and this could be the case with her. Just try calling again and see if you reach her. Just see what happens. good luck ;o)
2007-01-09 13:52:04 · answer #6 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take heart ...there could be all kinds of reasons...IT IS FLU season after all....maybe she is sick...maybe she had an family emergency she had to attend to...
Are you making sure to leave your number for her to call you back?
if you read her signals correctly I would give her the benefit of the doubt...but if you haven't heard from her for a period of 10- to 2 weeks...I would be thinking that maybe she is not interested after all....I mean from what I am reading here you only went out for coffee the one time right...so maybe she didn't want to hurt your feelings....
2007-01-09 13:55:01 · answer #7 · answered by Ruth M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she was just being friendly and didnt want to tell you that she doesnt want to go out w you anymore. If you already called to so many times just let it go, she is not the only girl in the world
2007-01-09 13:50:44 · answer #8 · answered by kathernva 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your subject line says you haven't heard from her in 3 wks...the body of your post says 1 week. Which is it? One week is iffy...3 wks is not interested.
If you had set a date and she'd agreed to it, and you haven't heard from her since then it sounds like you've gotten the brush off...
2007-01-09 13:49:55 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It could be anything really! I would just relax and wait a little bit longer to see if she will call.
2007-01-09 13:50:07 · answer #10 · answered by The girl next door 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋