ok, heres the deal. i met a gal and we both fell head-over heels for eachother, we'd been together for about two months when along comes my best friend and within 2 weeks or so manages to take her from me.
but there is nothing he can give her that i cant infact, if anything i can give her more than he can. she doesnt even seem to know why she prefers him.
So besides me wanting him dead (lol) i dont know what to do. i would bargain with the devil for her back and i know that she still has feelings for me (she said) but theyre just not as strong as they used to be.
help is appreciated massively on the subject of what the hell should i do now.
many thanks x
2007-01-09 05:43:39 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If she prefers him, there is nothing you can do about it. Move on.
2007-01-09 06:15:47 · answer #1 · answered by bostonchick 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, he's obviously not your best friend if he would even think about stealing your girl, much less actually doing it.
Secondly, she must be far more shallow or far less in love with you than you think, if she changes her mind so quickly.
The best thing to do would be to let these two idiots have each other, and you move on to a smarter girl and better friends.
But if you are really determined to give your all for her - go tell your "friend" that what he did was wrong, and if he has any class at all, he ought to back off. He probably won't, and you'll have to end your friendship with him.
Then go to the girl and tell her that you love her and will do anything to win her back, that you won't rest until you've done everything in your power to make her happy. Then go for the grand gestures - have flowers outside her door every day, have her favorite meal delivered to her work, do any little thing that you know would make her happy. Remember, it's not about the monetary value of the gift (ie, who can give her the bigger diamond), it's about how thoughtful the gift is, how you were able to choose something specific to her tastes, how you knew well enough to know what would be meaningful to her. A few weeks of that and this dishonorable jerk won't stand a chance.
Don't waste time bad-mouthing your rival, even if he does it about you... it just makes you look petty and turns it into a competition between the boys instead of what it should be, a love-fest between you and her.
2007-01-09 05:56:12 · answer #2 · answered by teresathegreat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all i am very sorry u had to go through this im so used to the guy being a jerk when in your case its the oppisite.i see u stil have feelings for her but if she has done it once she will most likely do it again and as for your best friend he doesnt seem that great if he would be with the girl which he knows u appearently have massive feelings for sounds like she is missing out on something special and u need to continue to search for ur soulmate k and see if u cant pick up some new friends along your way some that would never do anything like this to u .im sure this is hard on u but it will get better i hope it works out for u one way or the other
2007-01-09 06:06:14 · answer #3 · answered by foxiepotts 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My sympathies that she left you for your best friend.
Unfortunately, feelings defy logic, so it doesn't count for much knowing there is nothing he can give her that you cannot.
At this point in time, she prefers him.
Best is to wait it out. Eventually she will leave your best friend for some other other guy; that's the the most likely scenario.
With any luck, you and your best friend will again be friends, once she is out of the picture.
I'm sorry. It really hurts when your feelings of love are not reciprocated, even though there isn't a logical reason why her feelings for you have cooled.
2007-01-09 06:04:28 · answer #4 · answered by metronome 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bless you..
Firstly, ur best friend, is no best friend at all, learn from what he has dun and neva do it 2 eny1 else.. (Just fort id say like lol..)
Secondly.. Be the boy that this girl fell madly in love with, not an obsessive lad that jst wants her bak.. Be charmin, giv cute smiles, make her think twice about what shes doin..
Good luck drlin.. get bak 2 me xxx
2007-01-09 05:49:29 · answer #5 · answered by Cнєℓℓšιι Bαвιι--0χ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is going to be hard to hear - forget her. she has no respect for you as a person, nor does your best friend. if they did, you wouldn't be in this situation. i know that it may hurt right now, but it's better to stop the bleeding once and for all. otherwise, you will find yourself in a repetitive situation. and if you lay yourself out there the way you are right now, you are labeling yourself her lapdog. she will realize that she can come back to you when everything else goes sour. you will willingly take her back. another man comes along and here we are again. lose her. move on. you deserve better.
2007-01-09 05:49:50 · answer #6 · answered by catsovermen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to get back with a girl who ups and leaves you so easily with your best friend at that if you guys get back together you will never trust her and relationships are based on trust I think you should move on and find a girl who will stay by your side I think that you deserve better.
2007-01-09 05:53:08 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok well i'm sorry to tell you but 2 months is NOTHING! that relationship was doomed from the very first day if she is willing to leave you after two months for someone else. Even if she comes back to you she will never EVER be faithful. so yeah i would just forget about her.
2007-01-09 05:48:53 · answer #8 · answered by jrtootsiepop 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're first deed is to boot your so called best friend out of your life. Secondly, you don't or shouldn't have to sell your soul to anybody for one female. There are plenty where she came from. You'll fall in love again. Third, you don't need her, she was part of it to. It takes two to be in a relationship. If she was really your "girlfriend" then she wouldn't have left you for anybody, especially your best friend. That goes to show you how much they both respect you.
2007-01-09 05:50:54 · answer #9 · answered by miss info 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time to realize that she may have made a mistake. My dad always used to tell me two things--that love is fickle, and the heart knows what it wants. Your ex may have only been infatuated with you (sorry) and actuallly in-love w/ your friend, or vice versa. Who knows except her? Just be there for her as a friend, and realize that she may never come back.
2007-01-09 05:48:56 · answer #10 · answered by completenerd 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Looks like you have lost a gf and a friend. I'd never speak to either one of them again and move on. Why in the hell would you want your ex gf back BTW? Do you like sloppy seconds?
2007-01-09 05:51:19 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋