I met this guy more than 3 months ago, & we get along fine. He told me that he's single and doesn't have a gilrfriend. But he revealed to me that there's this one girl who keeps on following him & is crazy about him.
Then yesterday, I got the shock of my life when I recieved an e-mail from this girl (whom my guy friend was talking about). In her letter, she was begging me to stay away from the guy because she feels that she is losing him ever since me and that guy met. She said that the guy talks about me all the time & is very fond of me. Now that made her real jealous. As far as I know, I am not stealing her "boy friend" away. I'm just keeping my composure.
Note: She just pinched my address from the guy, and obviously he doesn't know anything about this.
What do I do? Will I reply to her email? If so, what will I tell her?
And will I tell my guy friend about this? Do you think it's okey if I will forward to him this girl's letter?
Thank you!!
2007-01-09 05:42:42 · 17 answers · asked by Asian Cutie 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Ouch, this one is tough! First, keep your composure just like you have been. Regardless of what the deal is with this girl, don't let her get the best of you.
I think you should absolutely confront your guy friend about this. Don't be rude about it, but talk to him in person/on the phone about it before you forward the letter to him. Let him know that she contacted you. If she's crazy about him and won't leave him alone, it's his job to let her know to stop. She certainly shouldn't be harassing you. Make sure he knows that you don't appreciate hearing from her, and you don't want to hear from her again.
It's hard to say without knowing all the details, but maybe there is more between them than you think. This girl who he tells you is just annoying him might be a girlfriend he hasn't had the guts to break up with. Or a girl who he met just like you who he dropped when you came along. She got your email address from him, keep in mind. If he really doesn't want her around, she should be nowhere near his cell, his computer, anywhere he might have your personal information. Obviously she and your guy friend talk enough for him to talk about you. Even though it's crazy for her to blame losing him on you, try to put yourself in her shoes for a minute. I know I'd be pretty jealous and upset if my boyfriend started talking about some other girl too. Take a look at how closely you know this guy. Give him the benefit of the doubt, but remember that it might not be that she's nuts, he may be lying to both of you.
I recommend replying to her. If you don't, she might send you more email. Let her know that whatever problems she has with your guy friend are best addressed with him. Her contacting you is inappropriate, so tell her so. Hopefully with you addressing her bluntly she will be discouraged from contacting you again.
2007-01-09 05:59:50 · answer #1 · answered by ladyfish 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would forward the email to him and let him take care of it. If you try and communicate with her directly more than likely she will be negative once you tell her you are not going to leave him alone. The last thing you want to do is create a personal issue with this girl if she is a little crazy. He must deal with this in the end anyway. That is my two cents worth anyway.
2007-01-09 05:49:10 · answer #2 · answered by Brian 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Its pretty obvious that her and this guy are a couple or how else can you explain her having any kind of access at all to his email addresses? Have you ever been lied to?
Don't play the fool it's not a very attractive role!
2007-01-09 05:50:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell your boyfriend about it and if she is being like this he needs to get a restraining order so she can keep her distance from the both o f you. on the other hand she maybe his girlfriend and he now that he met you he wants to be with you more than her.. Just play it safe and protect your heart .. Tell him you would go with him to file the restraining order.
2007-01-09 05:48:38 · answer #4 · answered by Amazing_clarity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the guy and have him get a restraining order before you see her hanging around your car late at night with a baseball bat. Sounds like she's psycho or he's not telling you the whole story.
2007-01-09 06:05:04 · answer #5 · answered by CuriousMishawaka 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it depends. it sounds like shes being respectful and not trying to intimidate you or anything of that sort, but does your guy friend have any emotions towards her at all, or is she just a weird stalker? if so, then you should definitely tell this guy about the email, but if they are good friends, then maybe you should back off. or you could explain to your guy friend that you dont feel anything for him, so maybe he shouldnt talk about you so much
2007-01-09 05:48:09 · answer #6 · answered by ohyes_itsbekah 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
properly if a guy is gay and likes a straight away guy who's married then i think the gay guy might desire to be jealous of the spouse, or with a gay woman, vise versa. additionally, a guy might desire to be jealous if a woman starts off relationship his superb chum. A sister might desire to be jealous of her sister's boyfriend. A mom might desire to be jealous of her daugher's boyfriend. There are a million issues that reason jealously.
2016-12-15 19:38:15 · answer #7 · answered by forgach 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I would bail on this relationship.
it actually sounds like the guy is playing a game. I kind had this same thing happen to me with a girl I was dating. her supposed ex-lover some how filched my phone number from her phone.
It ended pretty ugly too.
2007-01-09 05:50:02 · answer #8 · answered by alias_dictus_tony 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If your story is true (if what he's told you is true) then I'd let it go. Don't reply to her, but let him know it occured. HE needs to deal with the issue as the chick is obsessed and could become an issue between you, or worse yet a dangerous stalker.
2007-01-09 05:47:10 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes you need to talk to him, show him the letter and tell him you odnt understand why she is sending this to you since he told you he is single. He needs to talk to the girl not you.;
2007-01-09 05:47:32 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋