I got an email from someone on Yahoo, just to trash me and my choices... a complete stranger. It was very mean. I realize that I am obviously happier then this person, and apparently alot nicer too.. and he was just cristisizing, so I don't beleive what he said as 'true'.... but why are some people so mean?
2007-01-09 05:42:28 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Etiquette
some people are just hateful, I wouldn't even respond to the insults, he is just looking for attention....you are a mom right? treat him like a 2 year old having a tantrum on the kitchen floor....walk away! have a great day and smile ;)
2007-01-09 05:48:20 · answer #1 · answered by sweetiepi 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Off hand, I have no idea. Doesn’t make much sense dose it? The best I can come up with is a few theories:
1.They are nice people who are simply having a bad day, they’re stressed to the max, and by the time they encounter you they’re just about ready to bite someone’s head off.
2.They were subject to poor parenting. I see this a lot; the parents act immature and yell at the kids over trivial little things. The kids would therefore grow up emulating their parents: with the understanding that yelling or being overbearing is the only way to get your message across to others.
3.I almost hate to mention this one, but from what psychology books I’ve read they dictate that drug usage during teen years can substantially hinder the emotional development of an individual. So, say Joe starts smoking joints and using PCP and the like at the age of 13, he get hooked on it and his emotional development slows a lot. So, by the time Joe is 35 or so, he’s still got the emotional maturity of a teenager, and when he gets mad or upset he acts like a bratty or pushy 15 year old.
4.It could also be that they really aren’t intending to be mean at all and you are simply interpreting their behaviors incorrectly. That doesn’t seem to me like it would happen often enough to apply to most situations, but it’s an idea, isn’t it?
Those are the conclusions I’ve come up with to explain mean people. But like I’ve said, they’re just theories and solely based upon my own perceptions and understanding of psychology. If you can come up with something better, I’d love to hear about it. I often wonder why people are mean, too.
2007-01-09 05:57:00 · answer #2 · answered by icarus_imbued 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
A great question. I have always wondered this very same thought since my early childhood. I could never sit by as a child growing up and watch other's berate and bully other kid's. I was kicked out of school many time's for fighting with bully's while sticking up for those that were to weak or scared to defend themselves. Even as a grown man I still see this behavior in the workplace, and even in everyday life and I just can't understand it. What would compel a person to be so mean to a complete stranger? All we can do is assume they were abused growing up and try to help them see the error of there way's by any mean's neccesary. Even if that mean's knocking them out in the process :) Cheer's!
2007-01-09 05:51:24 · answer #3 · answered by The Angry Dutchman 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't fix stupid! Judge not and yea shall not be judged. For the measure in which you judge others, so yea shall be judged.
I hope you didn't let this person bother you at all, I don't know you or any of the choices you have made but I am sure you are a good person at heart. So don't judge humanity to harshly there are those out there who really try to live good decent lives, love our neighbors no matter who they are, and help out our fellow man whenever and however we can.
2007-01-09 05:48:41 · answer #4 · answered by crazyhorse19682003 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever considered how this complete stranger got your email address. Some people are just not happy unless they are trying to bring others down to their level of ,( for the lack of any other word0 depression. I would not worry about what others think. If you are happy and he isn't, then you are all the better off.
2007-01-09 05:48:16 · answer #5 · answered by deljack05 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alot of people wouldn't dare to say to people's faces what they type on Yahoo Answers. These are people who have so much bottled up anger, they need to release it by being horrid to others....and how easy is it to be mean without any fear of retribution? I'm sorry that happened to you...but if you put yourself in a public forum, such as email addresses, or being on yahoo in any way....once in awhile you're going to get smacked by someone who doesn't know how else to deal with all their hostilities.
2007-01-09 05:47:49 · answer #6 · answered by Esther 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some are BORN that way, (meaning depression, mental illness)
Some are taught that way,
Poor childhood with no morals or values, respect,
Or it could be someone PMSg or going through a medical condition.
Who really knows.
Keep these in mind, and just laugh it off.
You are better. Keep up the good deeds.
2007-01-09 07:33:03 · answer #7 · answered by Born Valentine's Day 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
people are mean to me to just out of the blue. what helps me is to think, "oh, that guy must have had a bad day. or he must be going through something tough in his life. i hope he's ok." and then i say a prayer in my heart that he'll be ok and be able to be nicer to people.
don't take that email to heart at all. trash it. my great grand mother would always tell me " in life just keep the best and leave the rest." don't let it get you down.
have an awesome day.
2007-01-09 05:49:34 · answer #8 · answered by talofa lava 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
well you have to define mean up to your standards, and bessides it is just an e-mail it is not like he will get you.
He probably does not even live in the same city as you if you dont konw him but hey i would not worry about it if i were you i would ingonre it.
Oh an i would also try not to get so upset at something this small humans react to life in different ways some take it out on others
2007-01-09 05:47:06 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
i really don't understand it too and some ppl really do alots of tough thing to be mean to ppl ...trust me if someone insults me through yahoo ans/ques i don't even bother to think about it but some ppl try their level best to send u a msg and ...LOL its kind of funny any way ol u can is just feel so sorry for these ppl cos the first person is going to be always nervious is him/her
2007-01-09 05:46:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋