I had a crush on a girl in my school......I even proposed her once but never got a reply....then for 2 years I went out of contact completely due to preparations for my college entrance examinations.....though all the time I used to dream of growing up with her.....now that I entered college....I decided that I should better ask her now...but then a close friend of hers told me that she likes another boy.....so I asked her casually whether she'd made any boyfriend or not....she told me abt him....so I told her that now I'm late n that I love her n planned to propose her......but then I pulled back because I felt it waz d right thing 2 do......but now I feel strangely more engrossed abt her n cant get her outta my head even for 1 second....n I feel like asking her whether she ever felt the way I felt 4 her....so that I may try again.....I am utterly confused....Kindly help me out!
2007-01-09 05:35:28 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'll help but you have to take a deep breath...
Relax..
Okay, better?
You are giving every ounce of your power to a woman that doesn't want to have anything to do with you. So WAKE UP!
You are a man and men aren't supposed to make decisions based on their emotions. When men make decisions from an emotional standpoint they are out of control. So you are basically out of control.
You need to let this girl go and get on with your life. The only thing more plentiful then women in this world is water. She is NOT your soulmate and she is NOT the love of your life. She's a girl that you are obsessing over. Obsessing is not a good thing because it makes you look (to her) like a stalker. Do you want to be a stalker? That's where you're heading.
So please, let it go. Go to college, get some friends, find yourself, do everything you've ever wanted to do - why would you chain yourself to a marriage at this point in your life? Relax and enjoy life. Once you get out of college you'll soon discover that your chance to enjoy life on your terms if over.
FP
2007-01-09 05:41:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm having a hard time understanding exactly what you mean when you say you proposed to her. Do you mean you proposed marriage to her?? Cause if that's what you are saying, that might be your problem. Proposing marriage before actually dating her. You just might be scaring her off if this is the case. Anyone I haven't even dated proposing to me would turn me off. If you haven't ever dated her, that would be the place to start. I mean how can you be in love with her if you don't even know her? It sounds like you might be in love with the ideal of love. What you imagine your life to be like is not reality. Personally, I don't think you have a chance. I think you already blew it if you even ever had one. However, in case I might be misunderstanding you, all you need to do is talk to her. Meet her for lunch, or just talk in between breaks or classes. But DON'T tell her you love her and want to marry her. She'll more than likely never give you a chance.
Good luck.
2007-01-09 05:51:57 · answer #2 · answered by cey12000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Face it, she's just not into you! Move on. You've had a crush on this girl since high school, you proposed once, and never got a reply (how did you propose, by email?). And now you're in college, and confessed your interest to here once again. She's not into you but is too nice to tell you direct. You should stay unattached and date other girls for while. You need to bond with some other girl.
2007-01-09 06:24:12 · answer #3 · answered by Sam Darren 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FYI, if you call a girl only once every 2 years, she will assume that you only called because right now you want something from her and that you a) are married, b) have another girlfriend, c) have other unknown reasons that you won't verbalize and are too much trouble for her to waste time figuring out. As for her, the principle of "love the one you're with" applies. As for you, you are idealizing her when you are not around her, and when you are together with her, you see her flaws and are disillusioned by that reality so you avoid it by going away for 2 years and disappearing (if none of the choices above applies). Don't feel alone, there are other guys out there like you...unfortunately for the girls.
2007-01-09 06:10:14 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
...okay, here's the thing...YOU are miserable the way things are, right?
...so what have you got to lose but being up front with her. Tell her the truth. Tell her how you feel.
...What is the worst things that can happen? She may reject you. Right? That is what you are afraid of, Right?
There is no shame in telling someone the truth. There can be no shame in telling some one positive feelings.
...and the bottom line...you definitely will not be worse off. you may be no better off ...but you won't be worse off...and I think you are better off...because you will know the truth and you can move on...it could be the not knowing or the false hope that is keep you from getting past this.
Take courage. Be strong. Go for it!
2007-01-09 05:48:19 · answer #5 · answered by Ruth M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's gone. You want her more because you can't have her. Leave her be or she'll think of you as a psycho stalker. 2 years to prep for college entrance exams? You're more than a little late. You can't just not go out with a girl for 2 years and then propose!
2007-01-09 05:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by Joe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the solution would be to send an anonymous note to her and tell her how you feel but don't tell her who you are. Tell her all your deep feelings and she will probably guess who you are but oh well. And then again what do you have to loose in the short of it life is to short and that special person may only come along once, do not let the love of your life go at least not without telling her how you have felt for so long.
2007-01-09 05:43:52 · answer #7 · answered by patriot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look Sunny, the only thing you can do is be honest with her about how you feel. If you don't you'll live with the regret of never knowing how she felt too and if it would've worked out. The worse that can happen is that she can tell you that she likes someone else, which you already know. So I think you should just take your chances. You never know until you try!!
I wish you the best of luck!
2007-01-09 05:43:10 · answer #8 · answered by luv 4 dogs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know you think you are in love, but when it is true love you don't have to decide and there is not another person in your life. True love is wanting only to be with that girl and making her life and yours the best possible. It's not about loving them the most, it's about loving them only. What you are feeling is definately something but not true love.
2016-05-22 23:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You guys need to talk. Find out how she is feeling and if in fact she is seeing someone else and how she feels about him too. I don't think you should rush into marriage though, you sound young and you have your entire life ahead to meet women, and believe me, there's a LOT of people out there. (I'm a woman, by the way). But the first thing is that you guys need to talk. Hope that helps ...
2007-01-09 05:42:05 · answer #10 · answered by thatssoawesome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋