My mother is a compulsive liar, apparently as my uncle has told me she has always lied even when she was a kid, but do i call her out on the lie and listen to her tell me a whole new set of lies to try and cover the first lie? My husband says to save my breath and just assume absolutely everything she says is a lie(it usually is) and let it go, my mother and i are always fighting because i can't trust her (obviously) and i just can't get my head around the fact that someone can be like this. So should I call her on the lies or just leave it alone?
2007-01-09 05:34:35 · 4 answers · asked by Stuck in the middle of nowhere 7 in Health ➔ Mental Health
Leave it alone. You know how she is, so why bother to waste your time/energy? Your husband is right.
Have you read "Bad Childhood, Good Life"? It might help you come to terms with your mother, accept it and move on from there. I think your husband would like to stop seeing you upset over her. Always fighting with your mom doesn't do your marriage any good, especially if you keep going on and on about it with him.
2007-01-09 06:29:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't live with her anymore then you can just visit from time to time. It's hard when it's your mother as you would like an actual relationship. Maybe she does as a line of protection or something. If the lies aren't about you personally then just let it go. Maybe you have a friend who is an older lady that you can confide in and have as a mentor.
2007-01-09 14:26:21 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes you should but do you really think thats gonna change anything
compulsive liers believe there lies and they make up things in there heads to be true
get a tape recorder and recored those events and play them back to her.
your mother needs some tough love, and she needs it now.
compulsive lieing is a deases(pardon my spelling) shell end up believing her lies and be totally oblivious to them
you just cant let her get away with this its just gonna get worse
tape recorder
tape recorder, trust me it works
2007-01-09 14:27:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess it just depends on how many more years of energy you are willing to waste on her before you start to realize you CAN NOT CHANGE ANYONE. You can only change yourself, and girl, you better get on with the change and enjoy the rest of your life.
2007-01-09 13:41:08 · answer #4 · answered by sashali 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋