I need a little help understanding this guy. I have been doing some voluntary work where he works for a few years. On 2 other occassions we have kissed. I contact him and he doesn't reply, so took it that he wasnt interested. Recently on a staff xmas do i got drunk and plucked up the courage to ask what was going on, he wouldnt answer the question directly. Later on we were sitting in plain view of everyone and he kissed me, and did so for the rest of the night. He held my hand, was kissing me affectionately on the head, etc. I haven't contacted him coz I don't know what to do. He gets all flirty then something happens and then he backs off and then comes back again. However the other times, no one we worked with knew about it.This time he did it in plain view of everyone, which has consequences, as now they know. What I want to know is, as a guy, what do you think is going on here?I don't want to contact him if he's not interested, but he sends out so many mixed signals? Help!
2007-01-09 05:15:20 · 23 answers · asked by Mand 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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2007-01-09 05:18:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
The best I can tell you is that if it were a woman treating me that way, I'd give up on any romantic notions I might have.
Sounds like he's not really interested in you on a serious level. But at a party with a few drinks in him.......
So don't even bother thinking about a close personal relationship. He doesn't seem open to it. But if you're looking for a more physical relationship, well, I suppose you know what to do.
2007-01-09 13:28:10 · answer #2 · answered by muthapopcorn61 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im not a guy, However, Ive been in the same boat.. To me it sounds like, you are his go to girl...The one that he can...get with, even just kissing, when he has no one else.. Guys who send out mixed signals are better left to themselves.. because, they can never make up thier minds.. so just sit back, chill, be your pretty self and never go to him.. If he wants more from you, or to know why you havent contacted him.. Let him come to you :P
2007-01-09 13:21:55 · answer #3 · answered by dana_king01 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best perhaps to sit down with this fella and spill the beans as to how you feel and ask him how he honestly feels about you. Be mature and open minded when conversing with him and ask if you are having unrealistic expectations about this relationship and should you move on or does he have any intentions of committing to you, especially now that your work environment is aware of potential relationship. Also ask both him and yourself if he is just playing with you. If your gut instinct tells you that he may be just using you when available then move on. But if you feel he is having mixed feelings then certainly confront him on this issue. Best of luck.
2007-01-09 13:22:36 · answer #4 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're into the whole unattached thing, then maybe he's looking for a piece to play with. If that's what you want, then you're getting it. But if you are looking for more. . . aka an emotional connection that lasts more than when he's horny, walk away from him. Find somebody who cares about you, and who you care about. It's obvious that this guy doesn't care much about you or your feelings.
2007-01-09 13:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am not a guy, well not last time i checked! lol people have loads of issues generally, if i was you i would talk to him and see where you stand. if you dont get anywhere i would back off for a while and see if things improve, good luck
2007-01-09 13:21:39 · answer #6 · answered by ヅ☆Chesca ♥♥♥♥♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is he married? Sounds like he has someone else but the christmas spirit got the better of him. Watch youself.
2007-01-09 13:36:32 · answer #7 · answered by 31Alpha 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you ask him? Explain what you are feeling and ask him. As a guy, if I did what he did, I wouldn't refuse to have contact with you. It would seem that he would want more. Your best bet is to talk to him.
2007-01-09 13:21:03 · answer #8 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Simple, ask him. No one knows whats going on in his head except him, so the only way to know for sure is to ask.
God bless
Nirvana
2007-01-09 15:55:49 · answer #9 · answered by nirvana 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be careful! I think you answered your own question when you said he didn't reply. He sounds like a "sometimes lover", and you could maybe get hurt.
2007-01-09 13:38:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jimmytheblade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like a re bound,you will do until someone else turns up or his ex takes him back,Hope I am wrong.
2007-01-09 13:25:41 · answer #11 · answered by edison 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋