As a rape survivor....why do I want to scream and rant and then feel embarrassed later ? It just blows over me like a wind and I start ranting. Then I feel guilty for ranting usually the next day. You dont have to tell me its not my fault I was raped. I know that.It just makes me feel so predatory and angry. Then I feel it lift off me. WTHeck is my problem ?
2007-01-09 05:03:06 · 17 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Religion & Spirituality
It's called the healing process--takes time
2007-01-09 05:07:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The feeling and actions that you are having is NORMAL! I have had several friends and at least one relative describe this to me also. YOU did not deserve this to take place and I do not believe that anyone else ever does either. If you are a Christian sit down with a preacher, Elder, Deacon, or another church member that you are comfortable with. Talk with them about these feelings and describe the anger that you are having. YOU deserve GOD's Healing Power in your life. If you are not a Christian then spend some time and find a non-denominational Church near your home that will begina BIBLE STUDY with you. Read, study, and obey GOD's WORD. HE can do wonders in healing your broken heart. GOD certainly has done wonders in my life. I hope that this does you some good. Have a better week this week and I wish you well!
Eds
2007-01-09 05:20:48 · answer #2 · answered by Eds 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have a problem, really. What you are describing is a completely natural response to your situation. When a person is abused and violated that way, they feel out of control. The natural human response to being out of control is anger and fear. Even though the actual traumatizing event is in the past, you are of course still going to have moments where you feel angry--even if you aren't thinking about the rape in the front of your mind.
I'd suggest finding someone you can talk to on a regular basis. I'd also suggest finding someplace where you feel completely in control of your body--kickboxing and yoga worked well for me, but you'll have to find something that works for you.
2007-01-09 05:08:53 · answer #3 · answered by N 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's perfectly normal. I was raped years ago and I'll go weeks even months without thinking about it, then a movie or TV show will trigger the memory and I'll feel rage and fear and sadness sweep over me. It's impossible to experience something like that and not have some residual feelings. The best thing to remember is that it's normal and okay to feel angry and that you've got nothing to be embarrassed about.
Bright blessings to you.
2007-01-09 05:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You must be VERY angry. I don't think that it is something that happens to rape survivors only, though. I think if you've had anything terrible happen to you, your psyche is messed up. Take an anger management course, or see a therapist. Don't let it eat you up, find another outlet for your anger, turn it into a positive.
2007-01-09 05:09:41 · answer #5 · answered by elfkin, attention whore 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No i does no longer be embarrassed. i could attempt to take my daughter to the bathing room, whether that meant getting off the prepare on the subsequent end. If she ought to attend an hour (considering that she screamed that long) she in all danger had to take a wicked sh*t. The cramps and stress could have been to plenty for her little physique. ==== If my daughter is throwing a tantrum I have no difficulty reprimanding her and removing her from the section if desire (I attempt speaking flippantly to her first to dis-fuse the placement yet 2 years olds are not understand for their staying power or communique skills). now and returned however, like in the experience that your caught on a prepare you extremely have no strategies.
2016-12-12 07:45:35 · answer #6 · answered by motato 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go ahead and rant, they're right your healing. You have every right. So fill your lungs and bellow out as loud and as long as you want.
Got to room a closet whatever, a trusting friend who will understand and won't look at you differently. Just don't let it take your joy don't dwell. Meaning go ahead and get angry, but don't let depression pull in. God Bless. Love. Amen. Pray hon, don't forget to pray.
2007-01-09 05:31:24 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you could find a different way of dealing with your anger.
Your anger is a natural reaction to what happened to you.
If that had happened to me I'd be really F..ING angry.
Therapy might be able to help you deal with your emotions. Please don't get angry at me for suggesting it. I don't think you are crazy or anything, but therapy could help you deal with the anger and then you wouldn't have to deal with the guilt you feel after ranting.
Good luck. I know we don't know each other, but I'm sorry you have to go through this. (I'm sitting here shaking!)
Peace and blessings!
2007-01-09 05:15:29 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You probably just need some closure. You need to know that the rapist is getting what he/she deserves - i.e. prison, then you can hope that he's getting the same treatment that he/she gave you in there. Or know that God will exact punishment on his divine day. Or maybe it would help to know some background on the person that did it....many times rapists were victims at one time themselves, so don't continue a cycle. If you need to you can get some psychological help.
2007-01-09 05:10:11 · answer #9 · answered by CHRISTINA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All I can say is this: scream, because it really does help. It may seem absurd, but it helps!! Don't feel embarrassed about screaming. If it makes you feel better or you don't want anyone to hear you, scream into your pillow. Nothing's wrong with you, you just feel like you need to scream. Everyone feels like they need to scream for different reasons.
God bless!
2007-01-09 05:09:25 · answer #10 · answered by inlovew/jesus 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This doesn't have much to do with religion. I think you'd be better served in getting some psychological counseling for the pain you're going through and discuss this with a spiritual advisor of your choice if you want to.
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2007-01-09 05:07:35 · answer #11 · answered by vinslave 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋