me and this guy have been going through this for six months now and I feel like it's not going anywhere we both have feelings for each other and we are not speaking up about it so i want to just end the whole friendship because it's frustrating me when we see each other everyone thinks we are a couple when we talk we talk like we are in a relationship we do everything that people would'nt do if they were just friends. I like him alot and I know he knows how I feel because there has been soo much drama, rumors, because he's in the military my friends don't trust him they think he's lying everytime he talks. He has a problem with trusting girls because of his past, i'm from California his friends always tell him not to trust California girls it's really crazy what we're going through we are both afraid to move foward with our relationship because of all these issues. We still talk after all the craziness. What should I do about this? end it or try to work it out? no rude comments.
2007-01-09 04:59:00 · 7 answers · asked by mrs. MJ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should first talk to him before making any decisions. If you know you both feel the same way about each other then it should be easier-somewhat. Tell him that you can't be friends with benefits anymore, but give him another option before you completely quit on him. If he doesn't want to take the relationship further and he'd rather remain friends, then you should probably just leave him and tell him nicely. As for what everyone else keeps telling you two, I'd ignore them. you can't stereotype someone and say California girls act this way and military guys act another. Only you two know how you really act so your opinions are the only ones that matter. I'd try and work it out first but if it doesn't work just end it because the longer you wait the more it will hurt. good luck!!!
2007-01-09 05:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by angelicasongs 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
These types of relationships usually end up being the same as a normal relationship eventually and so jealousy, mistrust etc. come into effect much like a regular couple. If this man is not willing to commit to a faithful and meaningful relationship with you then just be honest with him and tell him that the good times are over. Explain in a very mature and open minded way that you have outgrown this physical relationship and your needs, hopes and dreams for the future. If he isn't on the same page as you then put some closure to this relationship and move on and find someone who will treat you with the respect and love that you deserve. Best of luck and allow yourself some grieving time over the loss of this relationship before jumping into another one.
2007-01-09 05:08:01 · answer #2 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Friends with Benefits is not all it's advertised to be, is it? It's hard - most of us want love, and NSA sex is tougher than it seems on paper. Most times, one if the people ends up with real human feelings for the person they're sleeping with. It's natural, normal and desireable.
Whatever happens, examine closely whether FwB is a good choice for your heart. Most of the time, for most people, I doubt if it is.
Talk it out. You're old enough to have a history, and feelings and sex. You've been hurting each other for months, so it's time to come clean with each other. A relationship isn't the worst thiong in the world - it's what most of us want! If you have a good heart-to-heart, do it non-accusingly, without dramatics.
If, after talking, you both feel like there is no real deep feeling ior basis for romance, maybe it's just time to move on, eat the hurt for a couple of weeks and stop the long-drawn out torture.
Good luck.
2007-01-09 05:10:03 · answer #3 · answered by cwilliscroft 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you think it's time that you both moved on. A good book for you is He's Just Not That Into You. When you date guys, ignore what they are saying. Instead, watch what they are doing. Are you seeing them often? Are they taking you on dates? If the answer is no--dump them.
2007-01-09 05:07:42 · answer #4 · answered by Faith 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just talk to him,
let him know how you feel.
and brake up with him
tell him that you feel thisrelationship isnt oging anywhere.
you both dont trust eachother so thats not a good relationship. just talk to him and make sure you say what you need to say
2007-01-09 05:14:53 · answer #5 · answered by godisamor 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be direct
2007-01-09 05:04:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋