i have been with my man for 5yrs and we have been living together for 6 months. for the past 2 weeks, we have been fighting and he wants me to move out. i have decided i am not moving now because both of our names on the lease. the thing is he won't talk to me and he won't move out. i am so hurt by this situation because he just proposed to me last month and we just moved in with each other and now for no reason he don't wanna be with me. i have 3 kids that live with us also and i want to continue living in the apartment, until i can save more money to move. how can i cope with losing him. i am so depressed.
2007-01-09 04:37:27 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
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I just got over a 10-year relationship (situations very different, however) and the thing that helped me through the "tough" times were my friends, my family and just staying busy.
In your case, focus on your children, and your future TOGETHER - the future you want for them and yourself.
You have to look at it as your exfiance is already out of the picture... if you can't move out and he wont' move out then you have to make the best of the situation... YOU HAVE TO SIT DOWN AND DISCUSS how he and your family can live under one roof in a civilized way before you can save enough money to move out.
Breakups are tough... they always are, but you just have to change directions and walk a different path now. Live for yourself and for your children.
...this may actually be a blessing (or whatever you want to call it) in disguise.
Take Care and Good Luck
.pEace.
2007-01-09 04:52:25 · answer #1 · answered by ...Tell Me 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i know its hard losein a love im not sure what to say to make u feel better just know in the end everything works out the way its supost to everything happens for a reason maybe hes just stressed or afraid hes gone a little to fast in a short time if yall have been datein 5 years and he just proposed them maybe he feels like the movein in was way to fast just take it slow show him ur there if u need him dont give up so fast everyone has ruff patches hope this helps u a little good luck >:D< everyone can always need a hug even from a stanger keep ur head up and remember everything happens for a reason
2007-01-09 12:46:52 · answer #2 · answered by missmycoco 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Identify what is his problem, then tell him you were happy and would like to remain happy during the duration of the leased term as agreed prior to signing it.
Try to make your space your own and if he doesn't want to live and be a part of your life, there are ways to make him understand that:
Don't include him on family meals
Don't wash his linens
His clothes
Assign bathrooms & spaces
Go on family outings (dollar movie night, park night, go to a restaurant on friday nights and don't include him, if he chooses to live alone)
Find out what his pet peeves are about the living arrangement then try to make it pleasant for him too.
2007-01-09 12:44:35 · answer #3 · answered by SYLVIA S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It would be hard to get over him and move on but if he's not wanting to be with you anymore and wants you to move out then you can't help that. Have you tried finding out why he doesn't want to be with you? Don't stay there if you and him aren't happy and fight all the time. You need to move out and find someone who wants to be with you. Take your kids and run. Don't be depressed about it. It will take sometime but in time you'll get over him and you'll find that not being in a relationship fighting all the time and not being with someone who doesn't want to be with you is better. It'll be better for your health and your life if your involved in that kind of realtionship.
2007-01-09 12:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Irish Girl 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a tough one, but time will heal all. You have to just take one day at a time, maybe he will come around, but is this really someone that you want to be with? If someone treated me like that, it might just be a wake up call that you can do better.
2007-01-09 12:42:24 · answer #5 · answered by quortnie11 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It looks like you all have more things to talk about. Just wait and talk it out and I am sure that everything will be okay. If he wants to be alone there are plenty of other men out there.
2007-01-09 12:42:37 · answer #6 · answered by sigkappsunshine 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Find something about him that ticked you off and replay that in your mind and you'll get over him.
Or move to another city and state and forget about him.
2007-01-09 12:40:53 · answer #7 · answered by Butterfly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
your name is on the lease, you have every rights to stay. i would consult an attorney.
it will take time to get over him. talk to a therapist.
2007-01-09 12:42:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
GO OUT PARTY MEET OTHER GUYS...cuz if he doesnt want u anymore, then hes found someone else...s crew him...u deserve better
2007-01-09 12:41:35 · answer #9 · answered by Tina C 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
change the locks and when he kicks the door in call the police
2007-01-09 13:13:27 · answer #10 · answered by Frank H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋