What 5 questions should I ask my boyfriend before I decide to marry him?

Question

I am curious to see what people thing is the most important thing to know about a person before they decide if they are going to marry the person.

Answer 1

My 5 questions for a fiance:
1) Finances (the most critical issue of marriage health): How do you feel about wealth value, management, and acquisition? What is the purpose of wealth? How do you feel about/define earned and unearned wealth? How do you feel about gambling, lottery, day trading, and sweepstakes? What does your credit report say? May I review a recent copy?
2) Balance of productivity/responsibility with enjoyment/relaxation: How do you feel about work (home, career, and community service) vs play/entertainment?
3) Chemical dependencies and inclinations: How do you feel about drugs (over-the-counter, prescription, and alcohol/nicotine/caffeine/etc.)? What do your recent physical examination and STD testing reports say? May I review a recent copy?
4) Know the child by the parents and vice versa, especially when they interact: How do you feel about your parents? How do they feel about you?
5) Personal values of self: What does your room/residence look like? May I see it in its typical state with an unannounced day visit?

Three additional, essential questions:
6) Physical bonding: How do you feel about sex and intimacy?
7) Security of children: How do you feel about children and your responsibilities regarding them?
8) Legal concerns: How do you feel about the law and how does it feel about you? May I see a recent background check? Warrants and restraining orders?

These eight questions (it was impossible for me to limit them to just five) are each equally important and essential to making a decision about marriage. But the main issue is that this process of inquiry looks beyond words in character assessment (for marriage) by watching authentic behaviors and natures. But the words should willing and accurately match the evidences, lest dishonesty/deception/secrecy prove a substantial source of instability.

Answer 2

That's a really good question. Here are five questions. If I had not known the answers to these questions, then I would probably not have married my wife. (in no order of importance)

1. Do you view this marriage as "for the rest of our lives," or "for the foreseeable future?"

2. Do you believe that we are in this together, with each of us sharing all responsibilities equally?

3. Do I have your complete trust, as you have mine?

4. Will we always respect one another's values and opinions, extolling what we have in common and treasuring the differences between us?

5. Do you believe that we should bring children into the world someday, and will we share this responsibility also?

Because I knew the answers to each of these questions (and more), I was able to wait for my wife at the altar without a worry in my head. For a man who questions every move he's ever made, this was the easiest decision I've ever made.

Answer 3

Yeah, 5 questions really aren't enough.
I've lived with my fiance for over 4 years, and know pretty much everything there is to know about him...
For amusement, I'll give it a go..

1. Do you have any children?
2. Do you have any warrants?
3. How do you deal with issues/people that piss you off?
4. What do you want to do with the rest of your life?
5. What are your thoughts on raising/discplining children?

...see? That's not enough...there are so many more things you should know...

Answer 4

Sweetie, if you feel you need to ask 5 questions to let you decide whether or not you want to marry him, than you aren't ready to be married to him.

Obviously you two don't know each other well enough or else, you'd know EVERYTHING there is to know, there would be no need for questions.

You ask those kind of questions in the beginning of a relationship, to see if you two are compatible, not to decide if you're gong to marry him. Obviously, the relationship needs time to grow, don't rush it and it will work out.

Answer 5

Well, seeing as though he's already your boyfriend, some of the questions other say you should ask, you should already know.

How about these:

If i was in an accident that ruined my outward appearance, would you still stay with me?

If i got sick and couldn't take care of myself physically, would you stay?

If i found out i couldn't have children, how would you feel?

Why do you(boyfriend) want to be married?

Are you willing to take and AIDS Test?

I know these may seem "out there", but watch his reaction as you ask him! You'll see if he's there for the long haul.

Answer 6

Ask him if he truly loves you... This is the most important question because if he is ready for marriage, he had better love you. Which I assure you he does sweetie. You are the most amazing girl I have ever met, and I truly love you. There is not doubt in my mind that you are the one and only girl for me. You are everything I could every want, and I will spend the rest of my life being the best I can for you. I love you! Your boyfriend,
Mike

Answer 7

funds is one #a million reason couples get divorced. funds - is he a saver or spender? What are you? how can you stability one yet another out? economic aims - does he plan on having a 401K? Do you intend on having a 401K? how can you purchase a house? Will you fiscal new autos and make month-to-month funds, or will youchronic beaters, and keep $$$ for your destiny? what's his credit status? what's yours? that's major in case you desire to purchase a house. Marrying someone with adverse credit might want to placed your desires of homeownership on the decrease back burner for years at the same time as they clean up their adverse credit. Debt - talk how a lot debt he has and how a lot debt you've. economic corporation debts - will you share a joint account? Or will you've separate debts, and a joint account for paying charges? Parenting themes - at the same time as will you commence a relatives? what number youthful ones will you've? Will you be a operating mom or a stay at domicile mom? Will your little ones bypass to public college, deepest college, or will you homeschool them? Is he for or hostile to spanking? loved ones duties - who will be in can charge of what or will you divide the loved ones chores? What in case you artwork? Will he help around the domicile or will you be stuck operating, doing all the cooking, cleansing, and grocery identifying to purchase?

Answer 8

Discuss your views on finances...are you a saver and he's a spender? Discuss your views on sex...how often is enough for you and how often would he like it? Discuss child care--does he favor spanking and you don't? Discuss how many children (if any) you both want. Have you determined if you both have similar attitudes about settling down? Is he a partier and you're a homebody?

Answer 9

1. History of cheating? 2. History of lying? 3. STDs? 4. Kids? 5. Previous marriages?
that's what I would want to know...

Answer 10

What is marriage to you?
Where do you see yourself in 5 years, 10 years?
Where do you see us in 5 years, 10 years?
What are your dreams?
Children or not?