So the guy im dating (2 months now) We talked about where things might be heading and he at this time does not want to settle down nor be in and "Exclusive" realtionship which I respect cause its where he is. I on the other hand do want a excuslive relationship at this time with him, but I know he is not ready and says he is not sure where things might "lead" to but the sky is the limit. I told him then that I was ok with the fact that we can still just have fun and enjoy what we have now at this moment and not worry about the future stuff. He was ok with that to and does respect me as well. What I want to know is an I just settling? I mean 2 months is a short time to really know where things may end up.. But I want to make sure I am not putting my self out there to get hurt ? What are your thoughts Guys do you respect a woman if she were to do that for you being understanding and altering her descions for you? Am I giving my self High hopes that one day it will be more? Mature anwsers
2007-01-09 04:28:56 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
When my wife and I met, both of us had just come off from long relationships that ended badly, so neither of us wanted a serious relationship with exclusivity, and we were up-front with one another about this fact.
We remained friends with benefits for a time until one day she said to me, "I'd be upset if you dated someone else." I thought about this and I found that I felt the same way. That is how we became "exclusive." About three years later, we were engaged.
I'm not telling you this because I think you're going to marry this guy, but only to point out that you never know where something is going to lead. Simply be honest with what you expect out of the relationship and expect the same from your man.
Feel things out as you go while staying on the lookout for qualities that you like about this guy, and guard your emotions carefully to avoid getting hurt if it doesn't work out. Weigh these two factors and decide if you may have a future with him.
2007-01-09 04:35:30 · answer #1 · answered by Jeff 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can be patient like that and still not be doing a bad thing, but you have to make sure that you are not letting yourself fall too deeply that it will be painful if things do not work out. What he is basically saying to you is that the two of you have begun something that could possibly work out, but he is not ready to start concentrating on making that work. This tells me that he is or will likely see other girls and try to decide what is right for him. In that case, you also should be open to yourself and other guys. 2 months is a very short time to have really serious feelings, so don't rush into it.
2007-01-09 04:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Rod Rod Go 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One thing is clear. You want an exclusive relationship with this guy, and he does not want the same right now. You have two options:
Dump him and find someone more stable
Give him a little more time.
So if you choose second option make sure you have a definite time frame, like if after another two months, he is still unsure, then you must move on, if you get a little hurt, well such is love and life, at least you tried.
2007-01-09 04:36:36 · answer #3 · answered by artist-oranit.com. 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends on whether you are or are not having sex with him yet. If you two are just seeing each other and he does not want to commit and you two ARE having sex it sounds like he is setting you up to be friends with benefits until a girl he is more serious about comes along, than he will either ditch you for the other girl or he will keep you around on the side while he's becoming more serious with this other girl and you won't even know about it, than he'll ditch you. In either case you are setting yourself up to be hurt very seriously. Sex will not make him like you more or respect you more, giving sex to him will just make him use you more. If you two are just seeing each other and NOT having sex and just seeing how it goes than I would say go slow, be carefull and keep your heart well guarded and just try and get to know him. If you two have already had sex, stop immediately. Do not compramise yourself for a man, if you give him an inch, he'll take the whole damn world from you and kick you to the curb when you no longer present a purpose for him. I hope this helps you. Good luck
2007-01-09 04:56:52 · answer #4 · answered by J-Dub 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just take heed. He has giving you an honest fare warning that he is telling you he may never want a serious relationship with you. You need to lower you expectations with him so you don't set yourself up for a crash and burn situation. If you are willing to put so much time and effort into something that which you want a future with but he possibly may not you could get deeply hurt. I think two months is plenty of time to determined if you could have a serious relationship or not. So I would (if it were me) enjoy the friendship and don't expect anything more or if you can't handle it stop wasting your time and energy on him and find someone who would want too be serious with you.
2007-01-09 04:50:46 · answer #5 · answered by daydreamer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
#1Girl: Just another fun dude I do believe is correct. I can't remember your exact placements, but maybe moon in Cap, and maybe another earth or water in Mars and or Venus. This, I believe is why you are attacted to earth/water signs. I believe you want to sensate what you have deeper inside of you as well as your more basic Sag being. I can tell you just embrace life, and don't want to squander any part of it, including any part of your entire being. So I actually think you are on the right track, but it needs to be juggled a bit. I personally don't think any Cancer guy is going to be the one. I went through a lot of Libras (which goes with my Gemini moon). I still find them very attractive, but Libra was not my best match. I see people have sun sign dating patterns, but this pattern very often breaks at some point. I am married to an Aries, which also goes with my moon, but even more so with my Mars (Leo). If I had to chose, I would pick Guy 1, but I don't think he's the right one to spend the rest of your life with - you've yet to meet this person.
2016-05-22 23:04:45 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow.... 2 months that is not much time to think about your future. What you need to do is go places and have fun - you can date him when you have the time but go out .... don't sit around and wait for something that might not ever be. You not Exclusive so do your thing. Later on down the line you wont look back and say I wasted a bunch of time on this guy for what?
Never waste your time...... if he is really interested in you then he will chase you down. Don't make yourself totally available to him ..... all the time.
Live your life ............... and have fun doing it!
2007-01-09 04:36:41 · answer #7 · answered by harleychickfatboy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
2 months isnt very long and i wouldnt want to get into a serious relationship with someone for another month or so. i dont think u r just settling if u have alot of feelings for this guy. i would wait another few months or so. see where it leads. if he shows no intrest of ever commiting then think about moving on. but until then just hold on for a bit and observe. good luck i hope things work out ur way!!!
2007-01-09 04:35:01 · answer #8 · answered by babyblues452 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are compromising yourself to keep him around. You want to go deeper, and want a committment he's not ready to give. Two people should be at the same emotional level in a good relationship. He obviously is not where you are (yet). So, its a choice you have to make...count the cost. If you give him an ultimatum, choose me and only me, and he says no, then its probably for the best that he leaves in the long run. Why waste your time, energy and emotions if he's not committed?
2007-01-09 04:36:45 · answer #9 · answered by gmcnky 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most non-exclusive relationships fizzle out at one point or another simply because one side's interest drifts toward having a "real", formal relationship. Honestly, I think you are expecting too much out of the relationship in the long term. If you want him to be yours NOW, let him know that with a good dose of assertive body language on the side.
2007-01-09 04:35:24 · answer #10 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋