I need to stop myself from loving my ex. I think im obsessed to a certain extent. I still look up to him at admiration and feel proud of him. Although i know that he's not mine anymore. We're friends now, still hang out like friends. Which sucks. I trying to numb myself. But it hurts when u get back at home alone.
2007-01-09 04:24:18 · 22 answers · asked by Mimi P 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Hang in there, those feelings may someday go away. Sometimes we find ourselves so infatuated with someone and the relationship we had with them, we never let ourselves move on. Try to find someone new, or find characteristics in someone else that you admire. That way you can assure yourself that you will someday find someone worthy of taking the place he once did. Hang in there!
2007-01-09 04:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lasa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's sad to know that you're in a difficult situation. But now, if you really want to get out of this , then: Firstly, take a deep breath , look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself how you feel about him, if you really still like him, this will be a yes answer, admit your feeling to yourself is a good way to feel better, even at first you can feel hurted, and painful too. Secondly, come to meet him to admit your feeling, clearly and slowly, explain to him that you need a time to smooth your feelings, that you and him shouldn't meet for a while. because, there are no friendship here, no love here anymore, it's only a mess you are trying to get into when you both are still together. Don't wait to see he has another girlfriend , you are not able to forget him then. That will hurt really .
2007-01-09 04:37:09 · answer #2 · answered by candle l 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By staying in touch and around him so much it will be very hard to get over him. Numbing your feelings won't work because they don't stay numb.
You need to take a break from him, so you can heal. It's hard to accept the harsh reality when you are still in touch and going out places. Make a break, let him know you will be busy for a while so you can still remain in touch eventually. (You need to occupy yourself with other things, get out, get your mind on other things) Start learning something new, watch movies, read more go out with friends. Get your mind on other things. Not on how great he is. Remember his negative qualities, we all have them. He is not perfect no matter how he seems now.
If you are really open just tell him you are finding it hard to remain friends right now but after a little break you will be fine.
2007-01-09 04:31:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jim the one that cheated on you is a jerk. Alex left and didn't communicate with you because he felt he was protecting you. I feel like God blessed you by having Alex call you back. Tell Jim he made a mistake that takes too much time to heal. Go out with Alex. Keep working on forgiving Jim as a friend. If Alex doesnt work out then you can always go back to Jim, (even though I personally think he's a jerk)(sorry.) You can be friends with Jim, but I'd go out w/ Alex.
2016-05-22 22:59:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't numb your heart. Eventually in time, things will heal. You may need to go out and find someone else. OR Something else to do besides hang around him all the time. Eventually in time, it will fade. I'm going through the same thing but my ex won't speak to me at all. So, it's worse.
2007-01-09 04:28:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to give it time. And numbing it will work for an hour or two. You have to make sure you don't get in over your head with that though.
2007-01-09 04:28:36 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really cannot stop loving someone, if you love them you do. Suck it up and wait for two of you to either get back together or until you move on and learn to accept it and find someone else..
2007-01-09 04:30:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bury yoursself in alcohol.
But seriously, don't do that. Just focus on the other things in life. eventually your tiny human brain will get distracted by something else.
2007-01-09 04:28:34 · answer #8 · answered by Electron Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you just try to think with your head...and realize why you did break up with him...and then you will get angry and reasons just come to you without knowing it. After all you break up with him for some reason...or if he ran away then you don't deserve him. Try to think in this way and you will feel better.
Good luck.
Yahoo friend!
2007-01-09 04:28:30 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop hanging out with him. He is a trigger for negative emotions, therefore the best thing you can do is avoid him.
I know this isn't easy, but your mental health is on the line.
FP
2007-01-09 04:27:53 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋