I need help my boyfriend and I have been dating for the past 4 mnths , he just got recently divoriced in march of 06 well when he got divoriced from her it was a nice divorice ( yes i guess there are some like that ) they are like best friends now , but the problem is all he talks about all the time is her , they were together for 11 yrs I myself have been cheated on in the past i feel like he is hiding things from me and then i find out later he says i am to possesive could this be true ? he says that he feels like he has to be on the defense , am i just jeoulouse or is this a normal feeling that any women would have ?
2007-01-09 04:02:53 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
to help you better understand the problem i will tell you a story , my boyfriend has a cabin it is up in the country where no one goes this past friday he was planning on going up to his cabin , he got off work and called me the problem was he called me from his exes house it came up on my caller ID he said that a person named bruce was going to drive him up to his cabin it ended up his ex wife took him up there supposedly got stuck in the snow and proceeded to stay the night , I went bye her place all weekend long and no one was there i asked my b/f about it and finally he came out and told me that she stayed but supposedly for only the one night , i sometimes feel like i am over jeoulouse but then there are times where he makes me feel like im controling him i hope this helps
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2007-01-09 05:24:57 · update #1
you are true to your feelings, and your feelings are right. but understand something, right are wrong, this is how alot of men inadvertently "get over" a long time ex. we don't realize we are doing it, and take offense when its thrown in our face....which we also don't mean to do. of course, be wary, if you have valid reasons, to think he may be sleeping with her, but i doubt it. try diverting the conversaton when he brings her up. try talking to him maturely and with understanding about what he is doing. don't be accusitory or jealous. work through it with him. tell him how it makes you feel. or even start talking alot about on of you exs and give him a dose of his own medicine, and see how he reacts. good luck.
2007-01-09 04:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by beechjb 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no proof that he's behaving in appropriately, then your jealous behavior may well drive him away. It's great he and his ex are still friends, but if he speaks of her frequently then he didn't get closure on that relationship and he needs to understand that NO girlfriend would want to hear him go on and on about his ex...just as he wouldn't want to hear you go on and on about an ex.
Talk to him about how you feel, don't accuse or try to tell him what to do...but that his obsession with his ex isn't healthy for y'alls relationship.
2007-01-09 12:07:32 · answer #2 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel that you may end of getting hurt. If he's talling about his ex all the time, he's not over her and their relationship. You maybe his rebound. Thats why you're being jealous and possesive. Have you let him know how your feel - your fears, etc.?
2007-01-09 12:12:45 · answer #3 · answered by gloried 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋