have posted on another site about a guy that I met a year ago that I recently got back in touch with. About a month ago, I ended a on again off again relationship with another guy who was verbally abusive which was leading to physical abuse. I was questioning myself to see if I was rebounding because I'm not trying to hurt anyone.
This is from part of my post:
I'm really interesting in him and getting to know him. I think if we take it slow then will be ok.
Response that I received:
Why? Why are you really interested, rather than just interested? Are you interested in part, because it proves you where right? Because it proves others can still care about you? Because it proves you're still dateable? Do you in your mind need to be in a relationship? Are you willing to settle, until something better comes along?
I'm not doing none of the questions addressed to me. What do you think about this response?
2007-01-09 03:58:18 · 9 answers · asked by gloried 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm not jumping into a relationship but I would like to get to know my new friend. Again, what is wrong with that? I'm very cautious and I'm not looking for an instance relationship. So what's the problem?
2007-01-09 04:09:05 · update #1
Just to clarify, I'm no longer with the abusive guy. I left him alone. I'm the dumpER not the dumpEE
2007-01-09 04:15:07 · update #2
There's nothing wrong with getting to know someone. In fact, your way of thinking is the correct one.
If more people were like you, dishonest men would have to either change their ways or become monks.
Keep thinking that way, I applaud you and all the girls that think like you.
2007-01-09 04:11:03 · answer #1 · answered by David G 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with getting to know someone once you have had a chance to know a little about them. However you must keep in mind that there are some guys out there that are verbally and physically abusive and those are the ones you really have to look out for or you will wind up in a body bag, if you are not care. I think if you are still with the one guy that is abusive to you , you need to leave him before he can do you anymore harm. You obviously don't need to be in a situation like that. The response that you got I agree with and disagree with, there is not much detail to why and to those questions, mostly questions. It just depends however how you see it and what applies to you.
2007-01-09 12:13:20 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The response was a bit too rough. There is nothing wrong with getting to know someone...I like the cautious approach as you need to be careful. There are a lot of weird people out there and you want to know what type of individual you are dealing with.
2007-01-09 12:03:29 · answer #3 · answered by Miss J 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The best start to any relationship is getting to know each other. Your relationship should be best friends. The other person has a point maybe you should put the dating on the back burner until you are completely sure you are ready and know what you want and expect from a new relationship.
2007-01-09 12:05:27 · answer #4 · answered by mommy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think these were some good questions to ask yourself to be sure where you are with this I do not think the person was trying to be abrasive just helpful with some food for thought an even if they were trying to be mean take lemons and make lemon aid for you.
2007-01-09 12:19:29 · answer #5 · answered by serenitykay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know how people always harp on about "don't run away from your problems, you have to face them". I don't think those people have any problems. Most people who say that tend to just enjoy snubbing down their noses at people who DO have problems.
In the case of abusive ex-es... run. If it's to that other guy, fine. Just get as far from that situation as you can get.
2007-01-09 12:03:39 · answer #6 · answered by John C 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like that person is overquestion. that person is very curious. You have to be limited yourself from these questions.
2007-01-09 12:02:52 · answer #7 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with it.
2007-01-09 12:01:58 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
"Getting to know you .... getting to know all about you ..."
2007-01-09 12:01:37 · answer #9 · answered by mnencefront 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋