he says everything that i say to do i yell at him and tell him he doesnt do it right...what do ii do???
2007-01-09 03:55:42 · 15 answers · asked by help! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Different people are raised differently. Some people come from families that have to raise their voice and be aggressive in order to be heard, and others are raised in passive, diplomatic families. It sounds like you two were raised differently in communication. In order to get anything through to him, you have to be patient, kind, and speak gently. He needs gentle words in order to "understand". I am sure that with you, you need someone to raise their voice a little in order for you to understand what they really need.
It also may be that he is feeling a little down and depressed. Try to cheer him up with something fun the two of you could do together! :)
2007-01-09 04:03:44 · answer #1 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! MY BOYFRIEND SAYS THE EXACT SAME THING. And so I got tired of it, and made him go to counseling with me. All the psychologist said was wrong was how we communicated. We had poor communication, and I chose my words poorly. What may seem to be nothing to YOU could be really hurtful to him, so you have to be careful about what you say. Most guys wont admit that they are sensitive, but when it comes to their gf's or mothers talking about them, they take it hard!
Soooooo.....try not to YELL for one, because as women, we yell alot. And Say things a little differently--make suggestions more often instead of demands. ;-) GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-09 04:02:32 · answer #2 · answered by prettyprincess05 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He feels like that because you tell him that--Maybe try to lighten up it doesn't feel very good to be yelled at and belittled by anyone especially when its coming from someone you care for--give him a break--
2007-01-09 04:00:50 · answer #3 · answered by skizzle-d-wizzle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
conversation and listening are both skills that go beyond the
obvious we can tell when we are being "blown off"
we tend to then modulate our voices to show irritation
than the other party precieves this as "bitching "
try written list of chores be specific not vague
than check on them for compleation if unsat
list or cite unfavorable condition once again on paper to
avoid accusation of bitching if done right however make verbal thnx known
but he needs to practice his skills at listening to his partner as well
so you dont feel ignored----good luck !!!
2007-01-09 04:10:20 · answer #4 · answered by oddbs2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him....ask him his opinion in a calm tone. And be completely open minded for him. Try to improve on what he says. But don't become his little dog! Good Luck!
2007-01-09 03:59:29 · answer #5 · answered by none 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like hes passive. You have to get it easy, have him learn how to be blunt or speak up. Also you have to understand that he can't do anything what you want. Let him being himself, if you don't like that, let him go. Find a guy that can do whatever you want.
2007-01-09 04:00:29 · answer #6 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop and think about it maybe you are and you just don't realize it. GOD says women are to make their husbands feel respected and head of household even if it is wrong. i use to have the same problem till i started respecting my husband and letting him be the leader. now every thing is great. i wish y'all the best and GOD BLESS Y'ALL.
2007-01-09 05:14:11 · answer #7 · answered by toots2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's a whiner and likes to put the blame on you rather than on himself. Drop him like a bad habit.
2007-01-09 03:59:24 · answer #8 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop being critical and yelling at him?
2007-01-09 03:58:30 · answer #9 · answered by mnencefront 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
show what you DO like that he does and try not to be so judgemental. he must feel like you are to critical of what he does. you might be hurting his ego or self esteem. be careful or he'll find some1 who does appreciate him.
2007-01-09 04:00:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋