I've never loved like this b4. Neither has she. The past couple months have been rough at times. She has a terrible past and I'm willing to do what ever it takes to make her sure again. She is young but I know she will never find someone who cares more about her. All of her others just wanted sex, she's never had someone who cares. How do I explain to her that I will never hurt her, and will do anything I have to, to make her feel perfect again. I love her more than ever, and she is not sure anymore. I'm getting frusturated, I can't say anything else to her, to let her know she is making a mistake. She doesn't see that, and I can't let her go, cuz I know she'll regret it a little later. But I won't stick around to find out, by the time she figures out what she is doing, it will be too late? What do I do... What do I say. I love her way too much to let her go. Someone please help me. I've always been a hardass, but now all I want to do is cry, and I've never done that over someone.
2007-01-09 03:46:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Man, that's rough. Girls with terrible pasts just seem like they can never get up enough courage to trust someone better. I know where you are coming from man. It's not going to be a matter of saying anything, it really is all actions. I'm sure you are very trustworthy, but the pain in her past just won't let her see you clearly. It just may not be the right time man. I'm sorry man, this girl just may not be the right one for you at this time :(
2007-01-09 04:01:57 · answer #1 · answered by CPDawg 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all just because you care about her doesn't mean that your love can fix her. In order for someone to be able to really be committed in a relationship, they must first find solid ground and completion within themselves. If you pursue her despite her issues, you could find yourself becoming unsatisfied because you keeping giving and giving with a minimal amount of giving come back your way from her. If she is as you put it 'not sure' u fit into that picture and or if you feel that you cannot wait around for her to decide or that she may no longer want you in her life, then perhaps moving on is the best thing for you despite whether she comes to look at her decision as a mistake later on. If you really care about her, you will give her the space that she needs (and I think that is definitely the case since you have pointed out how she has been hurt and used in the past) so that she can find some stable grounds and just let her know that you are there to support and care for her no matter what. If you recognize that she has some issues, stop trying to be her savior so that your own needs can be met by having her in your life and allow her the time to work through her own issues because they most likely have nothing to do with you but baggage from her past relationships. Take care and good luck:)
2007-01-09 12:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by serenity113001 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was the same way as your gf... i had a horrible past until i met my fiance. In the beginning he always would say im amazing im this and im that. i never saw it... The way she feels is something inside of her that is very hard to get over. She needs to believe that she is all the things you tell her she is. If you love her dont give up on her and most importantly be patient! she will eventually see what she has and how good her life will be from this point on. hang in there it will get better believe me!
2007-01-09 11:52:56 · answer #3 · answered by minipie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, know what, why don't you print this one and show to her, it will wake her up. Also add more words that you want her happy. Why don't you try sit her down and ask her waht she want to do in the future. If she is not sure, have her go out, different events. It will help her understand. Tell her that you are not like other guys because you don't want push her down. Also tell her that you are willing to take time, you HAVE TO! its for the best.
2007-01-09 11:52:37 · answer #4 · answered by MissGal 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell her everything you wrote and if that don't get her then i guess you should let her make her own mind up and wait for her to realize what she lost you can do things for her to make her realize how much you love her thats all i can say
2007-01-09 11:56:50 · answer #5 · answered by sapphire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give her space. Help to get her counseling. Consider that she is not the one for you.
2007-01-09 11:51:47 · answer #6 · answered by LOLO W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Awww...your story touches my heart
2007-01-09 11:50:05 · answer #7 · answered by Glen Quagmire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"If you love her, let her go. If she comes back, she's yours. If not, you know she's happier" - Wisdom
2007-01-09 11:52:31 · answer #8 · answered by Bobby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋