please help me!! im so down right now? plz read?

Question

I used to be friends with this one guy who i also used to lie...then i think he found out i liked him and all of sudden we started less talking until he started totally ignoring me...and the turth is i was so hurt i decided to ignore him back..and at the beginning i enjoyed ignoring him...and im also being mean to him because the thing is now these days he is talking to me a lot and im freaked out because the turth is that if i talk to him ill mess things up more..and all i want is for him to understand how much he hurt me and i just want to be friends

Answer 1

Your question is confusing, but I will attempt to answer based on these assumptions:
1. You used to be friends with this guy.
2. The guy started to distance himself from you.
3. You got angry and started ignoring him.
4. You've changed your mind and want to be friends with him.
5. You are concerned that talking with him will mess things up more.

The first thing you will have to do, is find out why he started distancing himself from you. If something you did was the cause, then give it up and move on with your life. If not, try talking to him and take it from there.

In either case, he has already moved on and any action you make MAY fail. Be prepared to move on.

Answer 2

First things first hun, lying gets you no where. Lying serves no purpose because all it does is break trust, and cause divisions. So if you were lying to this guy......ask yourself why, then make it your resolve not to lie anymore.
Secondly, if this is bothering you that much, then tell him that you don't mind being friends with him, but in order for there to be a friendship there has to be honesty, and tell him the TRUTH. Granted that when he finds out that you lied to him, or had been lying to him, he will be a bit upset to a varying degree....however, he will respect you for it, and see a more mature side of you. Everyone appreciates the value of honesty....even the most brutal honesty. So do that, then let the pieces fall where they may.
Trust me sweetie, keeping it inside will only fester inside you, and you'll never really be able to move on. So do what you have to do, and let yourself breathe. Just make sure that no matter what, you stop lying....because it just wont get you anywhere, and you will continue to feel down. Lets face it....you don't want to feel that way right? I know you can do the right thing....so do it. :)

Answer 3

When he found out he liked you I think it scared him and he might not like you other then a friend. Since you stopped telling him you liked him he's trying to be friends with you but the way you feel about him is interfering in it but from what you said it sounds like he doesn't like you as more then a friend and that's something you can't help. If you can't stand being around him without messing it up because you like him still and then I suggest you don't be friends with him anymore or just still be friends and don't let him know that you like him and maybe your feelings will go away. It will if it's just a crush. Just tell him that you want to be friends and talk about stuff other then relationships love and anything that's not related to that. He's just not into you that way and that's something you'll have to deal with.

Answer 4

I have had this situation happen to me personally as well. The best thing to do that I have found out is he doesn't want to be in the kind of relationship that is more than friends. He might have gotten scared of you asking him out or something and so to avoid that he just avoids you. You might mess things up by going and talking to him, but he needs to know how he's treated you has been tough on you. You need to clarify your reasoning with him. I wish you the best of luck.

Answer 5

Just be friends with him then, and quit being mean to him. Obviously he is already sorry or he wouldn't be talking to you more. If you want him to understand how much he hurt you, just ignore him. Being ignored hurts anyone, and it gets the message across rather quickly.

Answer 6

Its hard when someone hurts you for all the wrong reasons--he probably was just scared when he heard you liked him so that's why he backed off--and that you wand to be friends with him ?? Just be friends--but tell him where you stand in this and that his ignoring you upset you --clear the air and start over new--

Answer 7

Getting him to know how much he hurt you is only hurting him more. How can you want to hurt a friend. Just talk and let things take their course. Don't be mean or try to hurt him. You do want to be friends - don't you?

Answer 8

we experts here get so many calls for help like this and we always advise the same thing. we call it tough love. refuse to feel miserable. refuse to stay in that rut of depression. you have to stand up and detach yourself from anything that evokes such useless or even harmful emotions. that is the problem your unconrtolled emotions. either get a hold on them and detach or suffer the consequence. forget him. move on. get busy with job, or whatever. he should already be forgotten history. to hell with him. don't ever communicate with him again or you lose self respect. he no longer exists.

Answer 9

Sounds to me like you really need to take your friend aside and have an "adult" discussion with him explain how you feel..........what you both are doing is playing games which does not remedy the situation at hand but makes it worst. Beleive me the best thing is to be forth right, & honest......perhaps then you can all be friends again.

Answer 10

you have to tell him how you feel... tell him you liked him but never intended on lettikng it interfere with your friendship and just because he found out you liked him he didnt have to stray away from you. thatt was wrong... what if he heard wrong and it wasnt even true... i would tell him straight up...i only wanted to be you friend and you listened to other people instead of getting the whole truth from me... truth being i only wated to be nothing more than your friend... good luck if he understands good if not you don't need a friend like that