My kids and I moved and hour and 15 minutes to live with my ex boyfriend in June and at the end of July he told me that he wanted to go back to his 300lb ex wife. She and I became friends over the years and she called me a friend and family and then went behind my back because she got jealous I moved in with him. My kids and my life were destroyed for a long time and I am still having trouble getting back up on my feet. Do you think God will pay them back for betraying me?
2007-01-09 03:25:11 · 38 answers · asked by thewhalehunter12 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Pay someone to go on a date with them then dump them!
2007-01-10 06:26:37 · answer #1 · answered by Not Known To Me. The Voter ;~`}= 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all I would never uproot my children to be with a boyfriend and I would never make friends with the ex-wife because some where in all that 300lbs. she still has some fillings for him only thing I can say is make sure u got your sh*t together and those kids are happy and live your life and ask God to forgive him because with that u WILL get your blessings.
Good Luck!!
2007-01-09 03:39:10 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
God does not seek revenge and neither should you. Your most important job right now is making sure your children are mentally sane. Moving here, moving there. Children thrive on stability. You need to be the mature responsible one and think before you get any more uprooting ideas and drag the children into another unhealthy situation. Time will cure the rest. You need prayer support for yourself and children right now and even further down the road. Teach them not revenge but that everyone makes mistakes and the best thing to do for everyone is pray for the ones who broke your spirit and pray for you and the children, that God will protect you and ask him to lead you into the right direction for your life and the innocent lives that are your children.
2007-01-09 03:37:23 · answer #3 · answered by J P 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well if you are a church-goer then you know that it is not right to want to revenge someone physically. Anyway you would be wasting your time trying to figure out how to get her back and him bck for what happened to you. When you could move forward and forgive and forget, I am sure it will be awhile before you will be able to truly move on, but if you start now then you can set a better example for your kids. Sometimes what children see they want to duplicate what their parents do because they see it. Your kids have figured out that something is going on with mom and they are wondering. God has his way of doing things in his own and yes he has something in store for them like he has for you and I. So if it were me I would leave it up to God and worry about myself and my children.
2007-01-09 03:38:55 · answer #4 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Unfortuantely, this is the biggest mistake you could ever make I hope you learned your lesson and use it for future references. This is exactly why I never move backwards when it comes to relationships. Once it's done it's done! You and your ex broke up for a reason but yet you moved your kids and yourself in with him to try it again? To what rehash the same things you did before? And of course it didn't work! As far as his ex wife...have you never heard the saying "keep your friends close but your enemies closer?" That's exactly what she did!
Your main concern should not be revenge but picking up the pieces for your kids! That's who you should have thought about before you did this. Women become selfish for their own benefits not for their kids and they get lost in the shadows. Just chalk it up as a mistake and live for you and your little ones!
2007-01-09 03:35:25 · answer #5 · answered by perkadittle 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I dont think god would pay him back 4 what she ahs done 2 u and your kids if i was u i would put all that behind me and start new and find a new guy and maybe he'll be right 4 u.
2007-01-09 03:39:48 · answer #6 · answered by LALA 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
No, but karma might.
"Paying them back" is exactly what is NOT needed here. You must survive on your own. You must rely on yourself. You must be stronger than you imagine you can be.
I've been where you are. I know that revenge is as empty as the heart of reeds. Just get out of there, and save yourself and your kids. Your kids need you. They need to see that you are strong. If you are not strong, how can they grow?
Eat right. Exercise, sleep well. Concentrate on the health of yourself and your kids.
Zen meditation can help you overcome all of these problems as well. Do it, and BE WELL.
2007-01-09 03:33:57 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
If you believe in God,he may at some point pay him back,but most of the time he does not do it quick enuf,or quite to our liking; If you wish to personally cause him extreme discomfort,get a food processor and some poison oak/ivey/sumac and grind it up to extract the juices,put the juices in a spray bottle and spray to your hearts content-door knobs to the house/car,mail box door,he will never know or where from,his girlfriend will think he"d been ******* round on her when she catches it-lol
Write me some time if you want too,am a single never married male-borgpad@yahoo.com
2007-01-09 03:55:35 · answer #8 · answered by borgpad 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
God will give them what they deserve, but you should forgive both of them! I know its hard, and it seems impossible right now, but what good is it doing you to have anger in your heart towards them and the situation? I would forgive them, and forget them. I wouldn't have anything more to do with them, and just move on with my life. God will make a way for you! Have faith that this too, will pass and just do you, and your family. Good luck, and God bless!
2007-01-09 03:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by shondak 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Revenge is not the answer. I know some people think it is but it is just lowering yourself to the level of the person who caused you such heartache. I would just do my best to move on. This guy is definitely not the one for you. I wish you luck. It may be tough for awhile but you will survive.
2007-01-09 03:35:01 · answer #10 · answered by Blue-Eyed Guy 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋