homeless.But I feel guilty quite often.I mean she forgave me a long time ago but I still feel gulity.She honestly tried to keep things going for me in my life even when she was'nt mentally well, I mean we were kicked out but she found us a place to stay for a while and kept my educatio going for me.Am I cursed by god now for doing such a terrible thing?I know it was a few years ago and she talks to me and it was sorted out but I wonder to myself how I could have done such a terrible thing..What do I do now?Do I carry on I mean it was a messed up thing for me to do even if it was a few years back.What kind of a person am I?If only god can judge us how does he judge me?Imean I got in trouble for it naturally but I sometimes feel like I dont deserve to live even if the rest of my family did look in their hearts and forgive me.
2007-01-09 03:22:18 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
She's forgiven you. You now need to look inside yourself and forgive yourself.
2007-01-09 03:25:55 · answer #1 · answered by Natalie B 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to move on in life and take a second chance.
This is what your whole family has offered to you, don't reject it.
Of course it was a bad thing to do, and again, I don't know the circumstances, but it does sound like things were not too clear in your heads?
So, well, it was a wild moment, and the most important thing is that you have and do realize that, which means that it won't happen again, and shouldn't whatever the situation.
You're strong enough now to walk away should you feel one day in a situation where this could be an easy answer.
It's done, but it's also been forgiven.
Move on and be a better person for it.
Of course God will have forgiven you.
Now try and forgive yourself.xxx
2007-01-09 04:38:13 · answer #2 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guilt is "I made a mistake" and shame is "I AM a mistake". I think you are confusing the two emotions. Shame is so hard to get past, and may creep into your life/thoughts quite often, until you come to terms with the reason behind the shame. Take all of the experience into account: you were young, you were frightened, you were angry, etc. You had no role model to show you how to handle these emotions, and just 'acted out'. Today, you are wiser and hopefully, know how to handle bad feelings/emotions.
To get past this, teach yourself the feeling you get when feeling ashamed (it will happen in many situations.) Then, ask yourself, am I really a bad person, or am I in a bad situation? With your mom, it sounds like you were in a bad siutation. She has forgiven you, now you must forgive yourself, and not allow this to keep you down and burdened with feelings of shame. If you were to ask every person you meet today, if they have ever done a shameful thing, most would say yes. But they have learned to move past it, make amends, if needed and then to grow in a more mature, loving way. This situation can be your stepping stone to being a wonderful, empathic, caring person. Good luck
2007-01-09 03:38:02 · answer #3 · answered by dutchlady 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't say that, every person alive should be thankful for even being alive.so you hit your mom a few years ago, you forgive here and she accepted it.a lot of people in the world can feel guilty about something they have done that they didn't like in the past.you hit your mom, its a mistake, you were angry and hurt, things weren't going well, but that's ok.everybody has some bad memories in life, but that's how it is.your family forgives you because shes your mom, she loves you a lot and so does your family, your very lucky to actually have a mom forgiving and there for you, some people are lonely and have no family out there.even though it was bad in the past, forget about it, work on the making a future for you and your family.like get good grades and get a job when you grow up so when you have enough money, you can buy a house or apartment for your family to live in, your family would be grateful.as long as you try your best in everything to help your family they will be thankful and proud to have you.
2007-01-09 03:37:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't take back the past. You did what you did. It may have been awful but its done. Use the reminder of this event to discourage you from hitting another female again. As far as the whole God thing, there is forgiveness for a reason. You sound like a nice person and if you cannot move on maybe you should seek some professional help. It sounds like the issue goes a bit deeper then just the hitting.
2007-01-09 03:31:59 · answer #5 · answered by hockey_kisses 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Everybody does things that they regret sometimes. This is your thing - you let your frustration and fear drive you to strike your mother. You've obviously learned that was NOT a good way to deal with things, and you'll never do it again, which is the MOST important thing that you can bring out of this.
You did mess up, but you do not need or deserve to drag this guilt along with you for life. Do what you can to show your mother you love her, and do the same with the rest of your family. They know that you regret it, and they've forgiven you - the best thing you can do for ALL of your sakes is to forgive yourself.
If you feel like you need to do something to atone, then talk to a mental health professional about anger management. Once you've gotten your own anger controlled, consider learning how to help other people to keep their own tempers under control so that they won't make the kind of mistake you did.
2007-01-09 03:34:08 · answer #6 · answered by triviatm 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The nature of God is such that sins are forgiven if you repent. And you do sem to repent.
We all do wild and stupid things, especially when you're young. As a mother, I can tell you that if you were truly sorry, I wouldn't hold it against you. I would be so glad that you see that this isn't the way to behave.
In my opinion, kids have a hard time. No one asks them how they want to live their lives - their parents are responsible for them and if the parents can't cope, well kids are justified in feeling resentful. Where was your father?
You've learnt your lessons, you've repented. God has forgiven you, your mother has forgiven you, your family have forgiven you - well, it is time to let go. Live well, now, for your mother. Make her proud of you.
Best wishes
2007-01-09 06:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by True Blue Brit 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Blowt, you're mum has forgiven you and i truly believe God has forgiven you - all you need to do now hun is FORGIVE yourself and stop beating yourself up over it.
I know that sometimes we can all remember something we have done and have felt guilty for and STILL feel guilty for it, but everybody moves on. Life goes on hun and you need to take the next step and forgive yourself and move on with your life. Your mum will be so proud of you that you have taken yourself to the next level in your life - its called growing up! and everybody makes mistakes and everybody learns by them.
The BEST thing you can do right now though, is to learn to love YOU!! Dont EVER talk about not deserving to live because everybody deserves to live babe! You are worthy, you are considerate, you are brave and you are able to put this behind you and make the life you DESERVE!!
Good luck
Flower xx
2007-01-09 07:49:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obviously, you are truly sorry for what you did. You have asked for forgiveness from your family, and they have forgiven you. Did you ask for forgiveness from God? If you do, he will forgive you also. You need to work on forgiving yourself. I have the same problem. There are things I have done, that I can't even imagine God would forgive me of, but he does. You just have to know that you are forgiven. You may always feel guilty. This is your conscience telling you never to do that again. Best wishes and good luck in trying to resolve your feelings.
2007-01-09 03:28:00 · answer #9 · answered by Laura O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What is in the past is in the past.we all do/say things in a temper,and then most of us regret what happened after when we have had time to think about what we did/said.You cant live in the past,you have accepted that your actions where wrong,and your mother has forgiven you,so now its time to forgive yourself and get on with your life.That is the first step to moving forward ,admitting that you where wrong.Its time to make a fresh start,and its a brand new year ,so what better time?
2007-01-09 08:38:13 · answer #10 · answered by pinkydinkydoo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course you feel remorse. If you didn't then that would be the problem. You cannot take it back.It sounds as though your mother bought you up well. You realise what you did was wrong and you have suffered for it. Now, move on. You have the rest of your life to make it up to your mother with your love. Do not even contemplate taking that away from her, that would make her feel like she is being hit 50 times a day.
2007-01-09 03:41:59 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋