my boyfriend will be 18 in april. i will be 15 this month. i know that he wants to sleep with me but i want to keep my virginity until i'm married but i am still curious. i am really scared! what's worse is that my mom doesn't know that we are going out and i don't know how to tell her. she isn't going to like the age difference or that he has tattoos. please i need help??!!
2007-01-09 03:17:59 · 12 answers · asked by happydorkus 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be honest with your Mum. She loves you, and deserves to know. As for your b/f - just tell him that you have no intention, and let him deal with it. I think you are a very smart girl. Getiing involved in serious relationships too young just adds stress and complications to a life that you don't need. Well done!
2007-01-09 03:25:29 · answer #1 · answered by Bondgirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hey,
If you're not ready for sex, then don't sleep with him. This will be your first time. And the first time has to be memorable ( does not mean great sex). But if you lose your virginity before you're ready, then you may feel that you made a mistake, for a long time. Why regret it?! Next, as far as telling him goes...just tell him. If he can't deal with it, then try talking and reasoning with him why you don't want to have sex right away. Maybe he will understand. Actually, if he respects you, he will understand.
As far as your mom is concerned, your going to have to sit her down and explain to her that you are dating an 18yr old. Whatever you do, do not lose your temper. Keeping your cool will give you better hope of convincing your mom that it is ok to go out with him. Meanwhile, also keep in mind that if your mom does get angry or refuses to let you keep dating your bf, this was only expected. Still remain cool and calm. Talk to her later once she calms down. And try once more if the 2nd time doesnt work either. But after that, its down to sneaking out (not recommended!!) If it comes to that, maybe you should end it with your bf( sorry!!). Afterall, 1. he wants to have sex 2. Your not ready to have sex 3. Your mom's against it 4. You wil face craaaazyyy opposition at home ( which will suck!!).
anywayz, good luck
2007-01-09 03:36:35 · answer #2 · answered by Kk 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is some thing very creepy approximately 17 yr olds that desire to connect to 14 yr olds. They're immature and that they are fixating on children as sexual items is obvious demanding. You ought to open your eyes and spot that being mature doesn't suggest performing like a grown up, however that it approach making choices in a grown up means, and at 14 years ancient a three-yr age hole is significant. It may not be a massive deal while you are 20, however the alterations you pass by way of from 14-17 do not evaluate to the alterations that occur throughout the identical interval as you grow older. Having adorable nicknames isn't having a courting. You've on no account met this man in man or woman, simplest talked at the mobilephone. You haven't any suggestion what he is relatively like and are mistaking infatuation and pleasure for romance. Go and confess for your mum what you have been as much as on-line, and anticipate to have your pc privileges taken away. You recognize that she does not such as you chatting on MSN, but you probably did it besides. While you reside underneath her roof you reside by way of her regulations, and certainly you are now not mature adequate to manipulate that, so you are absolutely now not mature adequate to opt for having a 'courting' with a 17 yr ancient.
2016-09-03 18:56:54 · answer #3 · answered by erlene 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For starters, you shouldn't be dating someone that much older then you at your age. At his age, all he wants is sex. He is probably dating you because you are young and naive and he thinks that he can get whatever he wants from you. Don't let him. If you really want to wait until marriage, then do it. Don't let some 17-yea-old dipsh** try to take that away from. I personally don't think you should be dating yet, but if you want to, do it with someone closer in age. Plus, if you 2 have sex after he turns 18, and ANYONE finds out, his *** is in trouble for stautory rape. Parents give an age for dating for a reason. Just do them a favor and follow it. Don't try to grow up too soon.
2007-01-09 03:28:26 · answer #4 · answered by Dianne 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I started when i was 14 and never regretted it, so you might re-think satisfying yoru urges and curiosity. But if you're not ready then your'e not ready, if the guy gets pushy you might remind him the law frowns on legal age people having sex with under age ones! As for your mom, I'd say if you dump the guy don't tell her, but if you decide to go forward with things then she should know - if you don't it will come back to bite you later!
2007-01-09 03:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by barefoot_always 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi, you should really speak to your mom, she has your best interest at heart, no one will ever love you like your mom, no one. Tell your mom how you feel and that you are unsure what to do, she was 14 once too. Do not have sex now, no matter how tempting it all sounds. Keep strong, believe in yourself and stick to your goals, you will look back one-day and be proud of yourself.
2007-01-09 03:27:44 · answer #6 · answered by Gabriele 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah
kind of scary, DONOT scream anyway.
Sex at an early age like 14 is not recommendable.
I am certain you are gonna be hurt.
Virginity is not point here.
If you care about your body , dont hurry.
2007-01-09 03:27:03 · answer #7 · answered by earthlove 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to just come out and tell him. If he is a good guy he will understand and it will all be ok if he gets mad then you dont need him anyway. As far as your mom that well I have no idea how to do that one.
2007-01-09 03:29:19 · answer #8 · answered by Mac H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him like you say here. Keep your mind on your studies. Love and sex will come in time
2007-01-09 03:22:28 · answer #9 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really like him, enjoy it! Let him know that you are not ready for sex. If he likes you that much, he will be patient! Good luck!
2007-01-09 03:25:14 · answer #10 · answered by Jelson A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋