I told him we would be ok if hed stop talking to his ex. He chooses to still talk to her. I am scared if I ignore him and leave him alone - he will just start sleeping with her cause he cant with me.
Should I just ignore him or try to make it work?
we have been together off and on for 6 years and we were living together until I found out he gave her his new number.
He says he dont want to be with her, but said he can talk to whoever he wants now cause we are broke up.
He said that a lot last time we broke up and he dated her and it hurt me really bad.
I cant stand the thought of him being with her again but im sure they will.
Will he ever see what a good girl he lost? ME!
2007-01-09 03:13:52 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
all he sounds like is an *** hole. he wants his cake and he wants to eat it too. not gonna happen. it doesn't matter if he sees what he's lost because you know you can do tons better than him! don't let him treat you like that and then think he's going to come back to you. if you do truly love him, give him time and let him prove to you that she's out of his life. if he can't do that, then he's not worth your time!
2007-01-09 03:20:19 · answer #1 · answered by john_deeregirl07 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If your boyfriend really cared about you he would be considerate of your feelings but men can be dense.
When my fiance and I were first dating he had his ex call him all the time. When he would not tell her to stop calling, I starting talking to some of my male friends. He was pretty quick to catch on and soon asked her to stop calling because he was in a new relationship. It is childish behavior but it worked in my situation. Sometimes men need to be treated like crap so they know how it feels.
He may never see a problem with how he's treating you. Like I said, some men are dense. If he's not treating you right you should leave him for good. As hard as what it might be, you'll be better off. You should find someone who will appreciate you for who you are and love you no matter what.
2007-01-09 11:34:14 · answer #2 · answered by Jenna G 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, dating on and off for six years introduces the fact that neither of you are ready for a serious relationship to eachother. Perhaps you were and he wasn't. But then again jealousy is a huge role in your situation.
Secondly, the topic of jealousy is clear. You think you have hte right to tell him not to talk to his ex and he should "obey." That's wrong on many different levels but shouldn't be viewed as a sense of controlling him so you can sleep better at night. Think about this, if he loved you as much as you want to think that you love him, he'd stop talking to her entirely on his own free will and accord and be with just you.
Lastly, this all sounds like high school drama. Leave him, move on. There are plenty of other decent men out there.
2007-01-09 11:23:24 · answer #3 · answered by Stunt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mia, move on!
You deserve better-personally I don't care whether or whether or not he and his ex get back together. You should never get back together with him.
He took you forgranted and used you. He is mistreating and abusing you by intentionally doing something that he knows hurt you before and repeating this action. His blatant disregard for your emotional health is to be expected as he seems to be quite the selfish one.
You are a beautiful person who is worth more than he is deserving of. Please show yourself some LOVE and free yourself from his tangled web.
He may see what a good girl he lost but whenever that happens whether it's in a second, minute, month or year he should see her boots walking-These boots are made for walking... one of these days these boots are gonna walk all over you!
God Bless!
2007-01-09 11:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, dear, it is hard to do but you must move forward and he is NOT.. he keeps going back and you are too good of a girl to put up with this.
Some ex-wives will always keep the strings attached and know exactly how to manipulate their ex-husbands. I had a girl friend who did that.. and even tho she could be "happily married" she would come in with the control she had over her ex every time he got a companion.
You don't need this merry-go-round life. Jump off
GOOD LUCK
2007-01-09 11:24:16 · answer #5 · answered by H.O.T. Dog 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all a man is going to do what he wants to... If you continuously tell him who he can and can't talk to then he's going to resent you for that. He probably does miss you but he definitley doesn't miss being controlled!!! I say you move on and find someone better for you, who won't give out their # to their ex girlfriend.Trust honey if you two get back together your'e going to be disappointed in the long run!!!! Good Luck!
2007-01-09 11:27:48 · answer #6 · answered by Live.Laugh.Love 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it is hard b/c of the time you have invested, but you have GOT to leave this guy. If he is that quick to hook up with another girl and hurt you, he does not respect or care about you. Don't want to be with him just to "win" him. You can do so much better. Go out and get you a hottie that will lavash you. That will make him see what he lost.
2007-01-09 11:19:15 · answer #7 · answered by kt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him the chance to see the girl he lost. He is totally not interested in the special young lady that you seem to be. Move on and better your life. Pursue your dream career and go back to school if you need to. You will have a happier life than what you have experienced with this guy. Get out of the mire and depression of this relationship and move on to greener pastures. The way to get someone jealous is to become successful. Go on girl, be successful in your life. You deserve it finally. I wish you well.
2007-01-09 11:20:14 · answer #8 · answered by Execusuite 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If you really want to be with him them go and get him. Theres no point of contemplating being with him just because you dont want him to get back with his ex. It the good old... 'i dont want you but no one else can have you'. If he says he doesnt want to be with her then why not just beleive him, your relationship should be strong enough for one another the be able to talk to others, ex's, those who are a threat. You need trust on both parts. Good luck
2007-01-09 11:32:16 · answer #9 · answered by Lisa R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore him, he still loves his ex. Find a new b/f.
After 6 years and he cant make up his mind, he never will.
2007-01-09 11:19:25 · answer #10 · answered by tewarienormy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋