Sometimes twice a day. He is really nice but wants to talk for hours and always asks me exactly what I have been doing. If I dont tell him everything he keeps asking. I do not want to talk everyday but he doesn't understand. Is there a nice way that I can tell him? He is married to a wonderful woman and I am married as well so there is no "attraction" there
2007-01-09 03:13:27 · 10 answers · asked by Angelus 4 in Health ➔ Mental Health
If you have caller id or voicemail, let the second call go. I know you are trying to be nice, but he doesn't need to know everything. Maybe, start weening him slowly. Then go to once every two days...then once a week. If he's married, you don't have to entertain him. It's hard on a person mentally themselves to deal with a person like this every day, twice a day. You have more patience than I do. Good luck!
2007-01-09 03:21:05 · answer #1 · answered by daff73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If hes really making you uncomfortable, just ignore his calls or tell him you cant talk to him because you are very busy but hope to see him around sometime. unless this is someone you have to see everyday, there is no reason why you should have to spend so much time with him and his issues. Suggest to him that maybe he should seek professional help, unless you are in fact a professional.
hope this works out for you, bipolar people are also very good at making you feel bad for not talking to them, dont let him make you feel guilty!
2007-01-09 03:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Motherload 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Benedicta, he is useing you as a prop. He leans on you because of his insecurity's.Try calling him first, this will confuse him, ask how he is doing and tell him you have a very busy day and wish him a nice day then hang up. When he calls don't answer. Next day do the same thing, no explanations, keep it short., He;ll eventually find someone else to lean on. Your not his first and you won't be his last. If this dosn't work just tell him to stop calling you and block his number. He'll get over it.
2007-01-09 03:27:50 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should sit down and have a talk, you and your husband and him and his wife. maybe hes looking at you for something his wife isnt giving him. maybe attention. or a sense that someone else rather than his loved one actually cares about him and he feels he has a friend. i dont think it has anything to do with him being bipolar, he just needs someone else there for him and if you feel you cannot be there for him let him know, so he can find somebody else to look up to if you feel you dont want the responsibility.
2007-01-09 03:33:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Voice mail. Don't answer the phone unless you're ready to talk. Then when you talk, set a time limit for yourself to hang up. THEN DO IT.
"That's good to hear Joe, but I have to hang up now. Will talk to you later, bye" Click! All at once then do it.
2007-01-09 03:20:20 · answer #5 · answered by S H 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just like this:
"I can't talk right now, I will talk to you later. I have to go. Bye."
And hang up the phone....even if he is protesting and still talking. That is appropriate for you to do.
2007-01-09 03:18:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get caller id and don't answer when it's him unless you want to talk.
2007-01-09 03:21:47 · answer #7 · answered by Melius 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might wanna try talking to your friends wife. She might be able to help you.
2007-01-09 03:20:32 · answer #8 · answered by perfectmama143 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't answer the phone.
2007-01-09 03:20:28 · answer #9 · answered by Chris G 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give em some sex
2007-01-09 04:40:17 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋