i ended my 6 year relationship with my ex 6 months ago. he was controlloing and posessive of me. we grew to hate eachother in the end.
since the split, he has moved away. i dont see him anymore.
we have only just started speaking to eachother again and he came up to visit me last weekend.
i was nervous about seeing him again but we had a really good wekend!just like when we started dating. we couldnt keep our hands off eachother.
we ended up in bed together but we both agreed, that we dont want to get back together. we do still love eachother. we were best mates after all!!!
he wants to keep in touch with me and come and visit me every now and then.
is it OK to carry on like this???
2007-01-09 03:12:40 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Neither of us are seeing anyone at the mo.
2007-01-09 03:14:38 · update #1
if you wanna keep riding him go ahead
2007-01-10 03:19:01 · answer #1 · answered by v 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do in this relationship is to totally end it because the feelings you mention, "controlling and posessive of me. we grew to hate each other in the end." These feelings will resurface again, and the next time they may be stronger and you may not be able to break it off so easily. Let me tell you why. My story and your story have similarities, but I hope yours is different in that your not being stalked or actually physically hurt. My ex was the same way, he would beat the hell out of me and totally control every aspect of my life until I hated him. Without his permission, I could not visit my family. He hated me too, and I never really understood why, because I was very kind and generous to him, treated him like a mother would treat a son, instead of how a girlfriend should treat her fiance. Like you, I would split up with him, and then later, after around 4-6 months, I would decide I could no longer live without him, plus, I also think I wanted to get back with him because he would not leave me alone even when we split up. I felt getting back with him would be easier than trying to avoid him, and I knew the games would end. He would be following me everywhere I went, would let the air out of the tires, steal my mail from the mailbox, be watching me if I dated someone, watch me go on dates, show up when I was alone, you name it and it happened. My family would even still be talking to him and I was trying to get rid of him. Everyone advised me against it, even my own self, but I was determined to be back with him because like you, I could not keep my hands off him. Many times our relationship would start back exactly how you mentioned, with the thing being we would only see each other now and then. It never lasted, he would be back with me day and night, and I would be sitting there wondering why I had ever wanted him back after being cracked in the head or my neck almost broke. Better think about all this before it's too late. History repeats itself.
2007-01-09 11:28:21 · answer #2 · answered by christinedaae 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
to a point it is ok, however when one of you starts to have feelings again or starts to see someone else it could make things difficult. I have been in a similar situation and in the end it destroyed our friendship and his relationship. You have to make a decision that you are happy with, maybe if you just have day trip visits? it would take away the element of an overnight stay (geography permitting!) good luck hun x
2007-01-09 11:24:05 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it's not hurting either of you then carry on...but this will end in tears...i can see it now....you already had a relationship and broke up because of his possessiveness and controlling, it may be all nice now but wait till your further down the road....it could get back to the same way as it was before...but go ahead....good luck
2007-01-09 11:24:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only if you are very sure about him, why did you split in the first place. Mates having sex never works.
2007-01-09 11:23:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
if your'e not in another relationship and you feel comfortable and content with the situation then go ahead and enjoy yourself
2007-01-09 11:29:04 · answer #6 · answered by Fallen Angel 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is if both of you are mature enough to handle the situation i can see a prob with it
2007-01-09 11:20:09 · answer #7 · answered by boredstupid 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah why not but i bet u a tenner someone gets hurt
2007-01-09 11:20:30 · answer #8 · answered by Edward W 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you are BOTH happy to and you arent seeing anyone else then, yes, its fine
why wouldnt it be.... youre not hurting anyone are you??
2007-01-09 11:38:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yea
2007-01-09 11:18:51 · answer #10 · answered by dream theatre 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋