me an my boyfriend split up due to a silly arguement (he dumped me) when my mum seen me so upset she text him saying cant belive the way hes treated me !! she felt like she had every right especially when she had just paid for his holiday for next year (my mum was very generous to him it was his idea to go away aswell) i asked him if he had made the right decision a couple of days later he said he didnt know but after my mum texting he defo had my mum was vindictive. I felt guilty and got my my to text him saying she wasnt being nasty to him she likes him but she was upset by situation, he repied to her saying it is over he understands she doesnt get why its over and he sees her point but he feels he has justification for dumping me. if he did want to come back would the text of my mum stop him ???
2007-01-09 03:05:04 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
he rarely sees my mum and doesnt speak to her otherwise, she was just angry thats why she text. i live on my own so when he is round by mine its just the tow of us when i am at his im around his family an i spent the whole of xmas with his family. he is a very selfish person and takes things for granted..
2007-01-09 03:14:11 · update #1
yes they will,but it could be possesiveness that drives them to fight..they cant take rejection
2007-01-09 03:11:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he truly wanted to be with you, when you asked him if he thought he'd made the right decision ending the relationship, he would have said no, not "I don't know". And a text from your mum certainly wouldn't put him off. If he loved you, yes he would fight for you. he wouldn't end the relationship just because you had spent too much time together over Christmas! This is a man who sounds to me like he's too selfish to be in a relationship.
2007-01-09 03:25:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
something silly like that wouldnt have made his mind up. I think the fact that he split up with you before this happens indicates that, he may just need some time to think about what he wants. Evaluate the situation i dont see why the text would be a factor, i hope it all works out for you x
if he is a selfish person then you may want to start thinking about moving on x
2007-01-09 03:17:40 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sounds like he is making excuses for his decision and trying to blame you for the split. Not nice. No matter what, if i loved a girl i would fight for her and considering he understands your mums actions why has he not come back? Do not feel bad and do not blame anyone apart from him. At the end of the day he will have lost out in the long term.
2007-01-13 02:35:37 · answer #4 · answered by freephoenixuk 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No.....if my g/f's mum starting texting me having ago..... I would probably dump her as well.....as for the holiday..... dont use object's as a lure.....they should be given freely or not at all....
Oh and no matter what your mum says now .... i very much doubt he will get back with you .... the main reason being that he will never be able to look your mum in the eyes again.... and he knows what she thinks about him.... I would be too embarrassed to go back out with you...... I am a very private, quiet, sensitive person....
2007-01-09 03:14:21 · answer #5 · answered by Fox Hunter 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He has two lots of issues going on, one is with you and the other is with your mum.
Seems both have rights - in their own eyes, and both are in the wrongs - in each others eyes.
If you mum has not made her point and changed anything in him to date, then the chances are he is just going to get pissed off with her for badgering him. That will only make matters likely the worse for you and for him.
Om a personal note here. It would have been much easier to read and nicer on the eyes if you'd occasionally put what you wrote into 'paragraphs' with the occasional 'comma' too, just to break up a 'MASS' of words ~ a little! No?
Sash.
2007-01-09 03:16:30 · answer #6 · answered by sashtou 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Who do you want him to fight ? Your mother ? She was well out of order interfering in you relationship, no matter what she paid for. Whether you get back with him or not, you have to tell her that you won't interfere between her and her friends, and she must do the same for you.
But you say he's selfish and takes things for granted ? So find someone else babe, the sea is full of fish...
2007-01-12 18:40:42 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
No i think he made up his mind in the first place, and if he did want you back then he would no matter what if he says that the text has stopped him then he is using that as an excuse because he would be with you no matter what. The best thing to do is forget him and find someone else. xx
2007-01-09 03:16:17 · answer #8 · answered by Kimmy xx 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well when i read your last bit, i think that you answered you question. dont get back to him, ask him for the money for the holiday and if he doesnt then sorry but your mum shouldnt of been so generous to a person she doesnt see that much and why does she have his number?? i say cut him out of your life and tell you mum to get the money back herself but i dont think she would.
2007-01-09 05:56:15 · answer #9 · answered by xx angel 3m xx 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He probably dumped you as your mother seems to be too involved. If he is a decent person he should repay your mother for the holiday. Again your mum was involved. Is this a usual occurance?
2007-01-09 03:12:07 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋